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“Trust yourself, you know more than you think you do.” This was quoted by Benjamin Spock. He believes that you should show your child love and care instead of being so strict all the time. A lot of parents today follow this theory because loving your children is just the normal and natural thing to do. But a majority of parents expect a lot from their child; maybe even too much. For example, some parents will push their child to be someone they don’t want to be, and never realize how they actually feel. Spock’s theory developed in the 1940s and at that time, it was common for parents to punish their child more than they do today. There was a lot more of physical punishment rather than being grounded like today. Spock also thought that putting a baby to sleep on their stomach would benefit because if they were to vomit, they wouldn’t choke and suffocate. Later on they discovered that putting a baby to sleep on its stomach was contributing to SIDS, sudden infant death syndrome. He also came to believe that the practice of circumcision should not be performed and that babies over the age of two should begin eating a vegan diet. These two theories of his aren’t very popular today either and may never be.
Benjamin Spock was an older brother to six children, and born in New Haven,
Connecticut in 1903. In 1921 Spock attended Yale University, a very prestigious
College. He wanted to become a children’s doctor and went straight into medical school. Afterwards, he went to New York to study at Columbia’s College of Physicians and Surgeons. In just two years he successfully graduated and moved on to an internship lasting another two years. Spock became a pediatrician and came to find that a lot of taking care of a child has to do with psychol...

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...with your child by using your common sense and love your child more while punishing them less. I think that this could help out many parents, especially the ones who are new parents. By just using and trusting your instincts, it can make you feel more confident as a parent. It’s important to know what you’re doing, so that doesn’t mean to never ask questions. Spock thought that you should be able to have a little fun when doing your job as a parent. I agree with that because otherwise I can’t see how you could ever be happy and have a good time with them.. Good moments are meant to be shared with your child. A lot of people seemed to like Spock and he made his mark in parenting history.

Works Cited

http://www.legacy.com/news/legends-and-legacies/dr-benjamin-spock-child-care-and-controversy/574/
http://www.vision.org/visionmedia/biography-benjamin-spock/583.aspx

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