Parenting Styles Parenting comes as a challenge to most people and is probably the most important job in the world. Parenting comes with love, care and of course discipline for the child. Great parenting aids the children in promoting emotional and physical health, giving them motivation, manners, and good moral values. Most children learn from what they see and if they see good things at home, that’s what they will remember. There are so many parenting styles out there but in the end it is the parents choice to choose how they want to parent their children. In Mr. and Mrs. Harsh-Heart’s case on parenting styles they chose to focus on strict discipline, rules and harsh consequences with even resulting to spanking. This is known as authoritarian parenting. Then, we have Mr. and Mrs. Easy- Going and they don’t involve punishment because they believe in natural consequences so their children can learn a lesson on their own here and there. This type of parenting is known as permissive parenting. Although these families have two totally different ways of parenting their children, each way of parenting has its own advantages, and disadvantages. In authoritarian styles of parenting the parent is very demanding, expecting the child to perform to the standards given. Some disadvantages are that the parent punishes without explaining why they need to not do that again and in the end no lesson is learned. This can cause the child never to learn what they should, or if they learn they become authoritarian just like their parents. The kids who go through this can develop psychological problems such as anxiety and depression faster and may develop self-esteem. A survey on authoritarian parenting was done and found that middle-aged Americans ... ... middle of paper ... ...earn and know not to do the same mistake again. In summation, parents decide how they want to raise their children. In either an authoritarian parenting style or a permissive parenting style or any other way they believe is right because in the end it’s their choice. Even though both have their differences in the end they both want the same response, which is children who listen and respect them. Whether is ethical or not, parents choose the discipline they give. Just like Mr. and Mrs. Harsh-Heart and Mr. and Mrs. Easy-Going we saw that they both wanted to reach the same conclusion even though they were using two very different techniques. Works Cited Bee, Helen L., Paul A. Johnson, and Denise Roberts. Boyd. Lifespan Development. Toronto: Allyn & Bacon, 2003. Print. “Permissive Parenting.” Parenting Styles for New Parents. N.p., 2014. Web. 30 Mar 2014
Parenting styles refer to a set of different manners in which parents raise their children. There are four parenting styles including authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. The authoritarian parenting style is based on the implementation of rules, and on the idea that all rules should be followed without exceptions. Similarly, authoritative parenting style implements rules, but the child feelings are taken in consideration and reasonable exceptions to the rule are allowed. On the other hand, in permissive parenting style, there is implementation of rules, but they are rarely encouraged to be followed. Lastly, in uninvolved parenting style, there is a lack of engagement between parents and children, and there are
Let’s start with Authoritarian parent, which revolves around the idea of “my way or the highway.” This particular way is a parents know best approach emphasizing obedience instead of love and nurturing. While a child grows it is important for the child to know they can express opinions or choices but with an authoritarian parent it seems to be “impossible,” as the parent will utilize punishment with no explanation or reasoning. Authoritarian parents think they know exactly what is best
Within the realm of Communication and Parenting, it is apparent that most researches will refer to three main parenting styles: permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative parenting. Permissive parenting is described as a style in which parents exert minimal psychological control combined with high levels of affection. Authoritarian styles differ from this greatly, as it is defined as parenting with many demands and few expressions of affection. Authoritative parenting can be described as a balance of permissive and authoritarian styles. Authoritative parents have high expectations for their children, and they are able to effectively share ideals of love and respect. The essay “The Role of Parenting Styles in Children's Problem Behavior,”
The authoritarian parenting style is the stricter style. Parents who use this method have strict limits set and show little or no love. The most common reason for parents using this method is that they don't want their children being failures. So, parents as such will shame and blames, punish, and tease their child. As sick as this sounds studies show parents using this method are usually successful. When a child is punished or blamed he or she is said to learn what not to do, feel guilty, and avoid from making such mistakes again. Punishments include spankings, timeouts, and taking something of value from the child. Parents who use this method demand respect, allow no questioning or arguing, and want full compliance. One can tell that a parent is like this because they themselves are demanding and have some type of anger issues. The authoritarian parenting style is common is Asian countries such as India, China, Thailand and many more Eastern countries. This method is very rarely seen used in the States or Canada. This style is sometimes used without the parent even knowing it. Usually when a parent is irritated or upset they will tend to be more strict a...
The first parenting style I am going to address is the authoritarian style. This style of parenting I characterized by strict rules established by the parents, stern punishment if not followed, parents do not explain the reason for the rules or the form of punishment, high demands but little response, and the children do not have choices and decisions about their life. The parents needs to be
The type of approach to discipline a child that the parents use have a dramatic impact on their relationship between them and the child’s development to adulthood. Research have found that there are four major types of parenting styles depending on what parents think the child needs from them. These are authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved. The purpose is to explain the difference between them and the effect on their child development.
Authoritarian parents hold their children to an exceedingly high level of status and success. In this style of parenting, children are expected to follow the strict rules established by the parents. Failure in following rules typically results in penalty. Authoritarian parents fail to elucidate the rationalization behind these rules. If questioned, the parent my simply reply with a “because I said so… that’s why!” The children are looked upon as miniature adults, and forced to grow up too quickly. The idea of a child being faultless isn’t realistic, no human is perfect. Holding ridiculously high expectations and possessing complete control are qualities an authoritarian pride themselves on. Children raised with an authoritarian-style are frequently good at submitting to authority but rarely have a strong sense of self-restraint. They typically do well in school and stay out of trouble. Dictatorial parents typically use spanking as a primary mean of punishment. Desperation for such control over their children often turns into an abusive relationship, either physically or emotionally. Having expectations and boundaries are a vigorous part of parenting until it becomes unfeasible. As a result of being too strict, children often become de...
The correlation between the permissive parenting and the child is a child results in low self-control and are very difficult. The authoritarian parent's child end up being discontent, withdrawn, and fearful. The authoritative parent’s child become independent, cheerful, cope very well, and these children seem to thrive more than any other children.
Another type of parenting style is authoritarian parenting, which is demanding but not responsive. This is a more restrictive, heavy punishment parenting style that the parents, their children to follow their rules with no communication between them. They will not explain why the rules are set that way and the limits. It has been said that parents who use this parenting style are unresponsive to their child’s emotional needs and they tend to show a low social ability towards others since their parents prevent them from making choices of their
Authoritarian parenting style consists of strict rules. Rules are set in place with the expectation that children will follow them. If said rules are not followed, the child receives a punishment without an explanation. According to Baumrind, authoritarian parents “are obedience-and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation” (1991).
The authoritarian style of parenting is control focused and militaristic in approach. This parent has high expectations and demands strict obedience. They often rule by fear and punishment. Dr. Gwen Dewar states, “… Little nurturing, lots of psychological control” (Dewar). On Consistant-parenting-advice.com the author communicates this type of parenting can result in abusive discipline that can be emotional and physical; however this writer is also including verbal abuse to the list.
After studying these two different cases, it can be declared that Mr. and Mrs. Harsh- Heart use an authoritarian child-rearing approach while the Easy- Goings use the authoritative child-rearing style. Authoritarian child-rearing is “low in acceptance and involvement, however high in coercive control, and low in autonomy granting.” (Laura 216)Authoritarian parents have a lot of punishment and usually resort to spanking for discipline. The parents are the boss, there are rules, there’s tyrannical, there’s structure, and the parents are directive. Meanwhile, on the other hand, authoritative is the complete opposite and it is said to be the most successful approach.
Authoritarian-parents who are punitive and focus on gaining a child's obedience to parental demands rather than responding to the demands of the child.Authoritarian parenting styles give little to no options to a child. What the parent says goes. It is a rigid approach to raising children that may have been most effective in times of great famine or toil. It was used most commonly in large, traditional families in which the father was the patriarch, and everyone else was called to follow his command. Times have changed greatly since. Doctors see a problem with this approach in modern times,it creates a distance between parent and child in which the child doubts the parent's love for him. It is based on punishment, which can easily create anger.
This paper will explore the strict parenting whether it has positive effects or negative effects on children. Before I begin my discussion, I want to ask you a question. How do you define an authoritarian parent? In response to this question, you can think about someone who has a complete control over his or her children. According to Kendra Cherry, the author of “What Is Authoritarian Parenting?”, she explains that, “Authoritarian Parenting is a style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness.” In this sentence, authoritarian parenting, also known as helicopter parenting, is parents who force their children to follow their needs without any explanations, so their children must be under their regulations even though children do not
Parents object to strict parenting while others praised such parenting style. I was raised in a strict household. I grew up in a family of 10 siblings’ and authority was the only way for my parents to have all of us under control. I always thought it was the worst way to live and hated every minute of it. I felt guilty when I had to explain to friends why I couldn’t hang out with them or stay over at their house. Now, as an adult I fully understand why my parents were hard on us and treated us the way they did. Although, authoritarian parenting style has some rewarding outcomes it has some drawbacks as well. For instance, I owe my academic success to the fact that I had my parents checking up on me and making sure I stayed out of trouble, even