INTRODUCTION
“Personality begins where comparison ends- Karl Lagerfeld © 2011.” This quote is a foreshadow for what is to follow, for a 100 freshman residents and their Residence Assistant. Not all roommates will be your best friends but not all will be your enemy. It is important to know during your young adult life, which types of people are compatible for your personality to ensure a smooth and fun living experience.
Roommate Similarity and Communication Traits
The article that I chose to write for my paper was, Roommate Similarity: Are Roommates Who are Similar in Their Communication Traits More Satisfied, by Matthew M. Martin (West Virginia University) and Carolyn M. Anderson (University of Akron). “The study investigated roommates who were similar in their communication traits would express more satisfaction and affection for their roommates (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.46).” The study decided to look into three specific personality traits; Willingness to Communicate, Interpersonal Communication Competence, and Verbal Aggression (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.46). Both Anderson and Martin came up with three hypotheses to find an answer to their questions.
HI: “Roommates who are both high in willingness to communicate will report higher social affinity and communication satisfaction than roommates who are (a) both low in willingness to communicate or (b) where one roommate is low and the other is high (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.47).”
This explains, that people who are more willing to communicate with one another were more likely to receive positive feedback from another person, increasing the satisfaction between each other (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.47).
H2: “Roommates who are both high in interpersonal communication ...
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...rbal Aggressiveness total ranged from 10.00 to 50.00 (M=23.62, SD=5.56). (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.48)
The study surrendered many important results. First, the results proved that “Roommates who are prosocially similar (e.g., both low in verbal aggressiveness versus both high in verbal aggressiveness) express more satisfaction with and liking for their roommates (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.50).” Those roommates who were both high in verbal aggressive have a less satisfying relationship, since this trait is damaging (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.50). Second, roommates who claimed they were high in Willingness to Communicate or Interpersonal Communication Competence relationships found their relationships more satisfying. Finally, this study overall proved if people think they are comparable to another person the more they liked them (Anderson & Martin, 1995, p.50).
It is not all about communication” . It says that not surprisingly those couples who reported communicating more effectively showed the highest satisfaction with their relationships. But the next two reasons which were also the only other ones with strong links to couple happiness, were knowledge of partner which included everything from knowing their pizza-topping preferences to their hopes and dreams and life skills like being able to hold a job, manage money, etc . But in order to have a healthy relationship I do believe that the communication is key but they also do need to know how to communicate in a healthy way that will not cause
There are several theories based on interpersonal communication that can be seen in various forms of entertainment, as well as real life experiences. You can see the social penetration theory in the bond that Maleficent and Aurora formed through the time they spent together. The communication privacy management theory can be shown in The Walking Dead as the main character asks newcomers three questions in order to determine who he can trust, and who he can’t trust. Glamour Magazine’s article about abusive relationships shows The Fundamental Interpersonal Relations Orientation theory as it describes the reasons why the women left their toxic relationships. And finally, my personal experience with an old friend can represent the cost benefit/social exchange theory by the way our relationship costed me more than it benefited me. Communication theories are distinct in our every day lives, you just have to find
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Interpersonal communication is communication that occurs between two people within the context of their relationship and as that evolves, helps them to define their relationship (p.22). With interpersonal communication as a backbone for meeting our daily needs, whether we communicate verbally or non-verbally when we are in the presences of others then communication is taking place. The elements of interpersonal communication are broken down into the communicators, the message, noise, feedback, context, and channel (p.9). The models such as interaction and transactional show that interpersonal communication works as a two-way street between the sender and receiver. When both the sender and receiver are receiving messages and feedback that defines a relationship where both needs are being met. Floyd discusses that interpersonal communication many aspects of our lives, from our physical needs and other every day needs to our experiences with relationships, spirituality, and identity (p.4). When we overcome the challenges with communication we can meet our needs and build relationships. To meet our needs, we must be willing to
...be more non-verbally involved, and appear to be very socially involved. This type of open relationship can be reflected by the positive scores and more satisfied employees.
The need for interpersonal communication across all human endeavors is growing especially in the context of
Sociology studies heavily on the interactions between individuals in different settings. For those who go off to college and decide to live on campus, they are presented a new setting of living with another student who could possibly have a similar background or in contrast a very different background. The factors that can contribute to the background differences are endless. Human interaction is very fascinating and is constantly being observed. Therefore plenty of research has been done on roommate interactions. This paper focuses specifically on the University of California Los Angeles population of freshmen. UCLA has a large amount of diversity and is particularly great for the study of people with different backgrounds coming together and interacting. Both qualitative and quantitative research has been done on this topic, but this paper will focus on qualitative data through interviews. All the participants were thorough with their responses and tried their best to answer as honestly as possible. Overall the data presented varied results with each factor creating a different outcome when it came to the interactions and the closeness of the two roommates. Although the participants gave good insight into their backgrounds through the answering of the interview questions, there is the possibility of many other influences in their lives that could allow for either cohesiveness or non-cohesiveness with roommates that just weren’t examined closely enough. This paper will try to answer how differences in ethnicity or race, socioeconomic background, and other background aspects affect college roommate interactions.
Beebe, Steven A., Susan J. Beebe, and Mark V. Redmond. "Understanding Self and Others." Interpersonal Communication: Relating to Others. Boston: Allyn and Bacon/Pearson, 2009. 43. Print.
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