The State Of Our Unions: QQTP Method

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The State of Our Unions: QQTP Method
Quotation – “In the past and still today, virtually all persons who were going to marry during their lifetimes had married by age 45” (Marquardt et al. 2012:64). From my own personal experience this quote makes a great deal of sense. I am 43 and I have never been married and it seems that the closer I get to 45 the comfortable I become with the idea of remaining single. From my early thirties through my mid-thirties still being single bothered me. I searched for the right man and desperately wanted to get married and have children. I constantly worried about what other people thought about my state of singlehood. I had family members and friends telling me that I was too picky. However, when I reached 38 that began to change. I stopped looking …show more content…

Today at age 43 I am not sure that I even want to get married anymore. I am happy and comfortable being single. I find that I no longer regret not finding the right man, but I do still regret not having kids. I realize now that the main reason I wanted to get married was to have children. At this point children are highly unlikely, which may be the reason marriage no longer seems so important to me. This may be the case for others that do not marry for the first time after age 45 as well.
Question – Have we forgotten that children are the future of our society?
This report compares data form the 1960’s and 1970’s to data from more recent years. When comparing this data, it appears that we seem to have forgotten that children are the future of our society. We are having fewer children, not even enough to replace our dying population (Marquardt et al. 2012:84-86). While this does not seem like an issue now, it may well become one in a few generations as our population begins to drop too low. We also seem unconcerned with how our actions affect our children. The majority of people no

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