We have all gone through difficult times in our lives. I believe that we are put through this so we can realize how strong we truly are. I personally think that I am extremely strong for a teenage girl my age. I have been put through a lot that I did not know how I was going to survive at the time, but I eventually overcame it. However, over the past seventeen years of my life, the best decision I have ever made was to forgive my family members from my dad 's side of the family.
It was December in the year 2010, and me and my family had traveled to Mexico for the Christmas holidays. I was having the time of my life with no worries, but little did I know that my whole world was going to crash down on me at any moment. My grandpa 's brother had been trying to get ahold of him for a whole day and because we have no working service over there, we had no way to get in contact with him. We all thought he probably wanted us to take him something from Mexico, so we thought nothing big about it. Me and my family
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I refused to speak to any of my family members for months and I had so much anger built inside of me. I had no clue how to deal with the passing of my own father. I was barely a little girl, there was nothing for me to do. I ended up moving with my grandparents, and that is when I realized so many things. The daily talks I would have with both of them, made me rethink everything going on. They taught me to forgive people, because I would never know when they could be gone. It took me a few months to get that through my head, until I finally forgave my family for what they had done to me. After I forgave them all, I started dealing better with the loss. Since I am such a stubborn person, it took a lot out of me to be able to forgive my family members. My dad 's side of the family is the only thing I have left of him, so forgiving them is one of the best decisions I have had to
Life as we all know is full of disappointment and filled with disparity. Most of us are able to go through these and learn from and forgive ourselves. Yet, this isn’t always the case. People are faced with traumatic experiences that often take a long time to get over, if they ever do get over it. These experiences brew in our brain popping up at the most random points often bringing our spirits down. Although these experiences may scar us and fill us with regret and guilt, we can’t continue to live in the past and let these regrets haunt us. Self forgiveness is a key to healing and to moving on in life, no matter how hard it is.
All people handle their own tragedies differently and need a different level of support while experiencing their difficulties. While some are able to persevere and accomplish amazing feats of recovery after their struggles, some people are not so lucky and choose to suffer.
At the time I was devastated and felt that I had disappointed my family which is truly the only fear I have in my life. After, talking with them though it was made quite clear that I had actually done the opposite because they did not need to yell at me or punish me for my actions. I had done it all and I had even gone so far as to fix more than just the immediate problem I had fixed myself. This made my Mother and older sister proud. To this day they reference the change they see in me and I live a much better life now then I would have prior to this moment and for that I am an even more appreciative
While going through the state of Oklahoma it was not so bad, however, going through Texas was going to take forever. Taking an airplane was going to cost too much money so instead we traveled in a car. I look out of the car window and watched the sun go down, I began to fall asleep. I open my eyes and see bright lights. It was the border of Mexico. I look around seeing a great amount of cars and buses full of people who are eagerly wanting to be with their families in Mexico. After waiting in a
Describe a circumstance, obstacle or conflict in your life, and the skills and resources you used to resolve it. Did it change you? If so, how?
Everyone has difficult obstacles in their lives. I have had a few myself and they each have changed me for the better. My most profound experience was being repeatedly molested as a child. I wasn't aware of exactly what was happening to me. I didn't know being touched was wrong. I just knew how disgusting it made me feel, but I didn't tell anyone at the time. I shared this publicly as an adult to help other parents realize that children need to be protected. It was a long journey to reach to the point where I could speak about my experiences with anyone. These experiences from my childhood affected me deeply; however, I have overcome them, learned from them and I have contributed at a higher level because of them.
Forgiveness is a process. You can still feel the pain, see the events behind your eyes, and feel the loss of the people around you but you have to find a way to forgive. People think that if you forgive someone you are forgetting or saying hey I would hang out with this person now because we’re cool but thats not at all what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is righting the wrong for yourself because you want the injustice you feel to leave. It’s acknowledging to that there a wrong that was done to you and you decide how you want to think about it not anyone
One aphorism that hit me is “To learn to forgive yourself and to forgive others”. I had a few people in my life that had hurt me so much that I hated them. But, I was so miserable that I was not happy. I prayed to God to help me forgive them, a little by little I learned to forgive myself and then forgive them.
In life we all face obstacles. The troubles that we face don’t define us, how we overcome the situation is what makes us the people we are today. Throughout my life I have faced many trials and tribulations that I had to overcome with the help of my mother, ofcourse. I was smooth sailing in life until I started high school.
I haven't had the easiest life growing up, but I guess who has right? I grew up with an addict, a functioning addict but an addict. I also grew up with my mother and the siblings I know and love who have shaped me to be the strong young woman I am today. My personal development has come so far. I am now almost 20 years old starting to figure out who I am and what I want to do with the rest of my life. Throughout my personal life I have learned you have to get through the storms to have rainbows. Hard times pass you by and you keep moving on. I have been in behavioral health hospitals for anxiety and manic depression, I was attacked, had to deal with sexual assault not once but twice , have dealt with hard earned money being stolen by my father
What I could struggle to learn throughout my teenage years was the concept to forgive and forget literally, don’t get me wrong back then I watched a lot movies with the teaching to forgive, heard it all from going to church and all other different sources but still I couldn’t just come to my mind to forgive the people that actually hurt me when I was going through possibly the worst time in my life and forget all they had put me through. I grew up in the ghetto part of my country Nigeria where a whole punch of craziness goes on daily without nothing been done in the betterment of that status. I myself fell into that kind of lifestyle where it
Overcoming adversity is imperative. In fact, you can 't have the happiness and success you want unless you have adversity in your life and overcome it. It is essential for progressing into who you want to be. It shows you what you are made of. It teaches you more about yourself, how to approach what you want, and how to maintain the success that you have. Without it, you wouldn 't know how far you could go or how capable you are because you wouldn 't have anything to push you or compare to.
Have you ever wondered if there could possibly be overwhelming obstacles in the way of someone being truly successful in life? Some may witness friends or loved ones not developing to their fullest potential in their profession because of these unobtainable obstacles holding them back. In “Professions for Women,” by Virginia Woolf, Woolf gives a speech to a group of women explaining why they must overcome certain things in order to be successful in their future professional careers. In speaking to this group of determined young women, Woolf explains how horrendous it may be to have your own thoughts or beliefs while living in a society said to be dominated by males. She
In the end in order to achieve success within an individual's life, and become the person one would like to be, you have to go through tough times to become a tough person. Nobody wants to go through pain but in the end that is what defines a person and shapes who they are. An individual can only learn how to grow and flourish through life once they have been faced with hardships that they have defeated.
If we let our personal challenges destroy us, then we are nothing and have nothing to offer the world. It is important that we take control of our situation and use the personal hardship as an opportunity to better ourselves. It takes a keen eye and careful self-evaluation to remove any inclusions that will mar the beautiful diamond we possess in all of us. Each one of us is shaped into a distinctive cut of stone, giving way to different grades of clarity and color, making us rare, valuable, and uniquely our own. Frederick Douglass and Barbara Ehrenreich are two individuals who lived in different time periods; however, both individuals used their personal struggles to inspire change in the hearts of others. Just as I use my struggle as a tool to chip away the imperfections in my life, Frederick and Barbara used their experiences to chip away the fallacies of our nation. Personal challenges encourage me to grow as an individual and make better choices for a brighter future.