Love an Affair of Expressions
Love is one of the most liberating but confusing feelings in the world; sometimes it feels like the people we love the most are also our greatest source of frustration. A frustration that arises from differences in how we express affection in the relationship. These differences, seen within all relationships from friendships to romantic partnerships, must not be disregarded and rather than accepting them as obstacles in relationship we must realize that there are diverse ways of expressing love that people need. There are five love languages which are fairly well known but not necessarily recognized as individual aspects of showing the love. Recognizing the primary love language of ourselves and of our partners is important towards bridging that gap of frustration and learning how to effectively implement those love languages while communicating in relationships. Even though we tend to believe love is universal, the five love languages layout the different, specific ways people most readily express & understand emotional love.
The first love language is known as words of affirmation. Compliments from partners are only one form of verbal support while encouraging words are a
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There are those who believe that receiving gifts are important but not just any gift will do. Thoughtful gifts particularly can make a person feel loved in a relationship since the more sentimental the gift the more the other person truly gave thought to the meaning and reaction wanted from the gift receiver. The fact that you or your partner gave thought to gift you something, is meaningful in itself. However, every gift does not need to be extravagant or excessive in number. It needs to be meaningful to the person receiving it, thus, it is important to know what that person truly finds joy in (Chapman
When thinking about romantic relationships, whether in the movies, media or your own relationship what characteristics come to mind? The topic we will discuss in this presentation attends to the romantic relationships within interpersonal communication.
Love isn’t just giving or receiving material objects. Love is more about proving to the person, you don't have to give anyone anything to prove your love. Your honesty and heart should be enough. “I Am Offering You This Poem” by Jimmy Santiago Baca proves that there's a better way to show your love then being materialistic. In this poem Baca is writing to a loved one. He tells them that he doesn't have anything to give them except his love and this poem. He is giving this poem to them for when he's not there, they will always be reminded that he loves them. Just because someone doesn’t have a lot to give, doesn't mean they don't love you.
Love and affection is an indispensable part of human life. In different culture love may appear differently. In the poem “My god my lotus” lovers responded to each other differently than in the poem “Fishhawk”. Likewise, the presentation of female sexuality, gender disparity and presentation of love were shown inversely in these two poems. Some may argue that love in the past was not as same as love in present. However, we can still find some lovers who are staying with their partners just to maintain the relationship. We may also find some lovers having relationship only because of self-interest. However, a love relationship should always be out of self-interest and must be based on mutual interest. A love usually obtains its perfectness when it develops from both partners equally and with same affection.
Moreover using personal language in public places make friends hard to get close. When people use personal language, it represent their own thinking. “It’s because over the twenty years we 've been together I’ve often used that same kind of English with him, and sometimes he even uses it with me. It has become our language of intimacy, a different sort of English that relates to family talk, the language I grew up with. ” (Amy Than 135) The author trusts that personal language become a part of their life, and someone else cannot understand. Personal language can strengthen their affinity, and make their relationship much better. In China, some lovers use slang to call their boyfriends or girlfriends. They want to show their strong relationship by using personal
A pessimistic view of love doesn’t have to be one of abuse and lying, it can be as simple as just not knowing what love is. Raymond Carver presents a pessimistic view of love in his short story “What We Talk about When We Talk about Love” with the use of imagery, tone, and characterization. While Carver tells the story of four friends sitting at a table talking about love he allows the reader to evaluate the strength and authenticity of his character’s relationships. Carver does have his characters discuss abuse and lying, but the underlying theme to his pessimism deals more with the unknown things about love or that his characters just don’t understand it.
Despite these works being written over centuries apart, the authors correlation of the concepts of love were notable. Plato’s Symposium was composed of different views regarding their definitions of love, while Carver’s “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love” focuses on what a group of friends talk about on the topic of love. Both pieces contain groups of people discussing their ideologies and relatable experiences, which in the end emphasize the complexity and variety of this emotion. Even though these literary pieces were written over two thousand years apart, similarities could be found within them regarding the concepts of dying for love as well as acknowledging the different forms of love that exist.
In her essay, Love’s Vocabulary, Diane Ackerman uses Analogy in order to describe her concept of her love to the reader. An analogy is comparing two unlike things using figurative language. Like simile, metaphor, personification, etc. Diane Ackerman visualizes love not being monotone, she portrays it as; “ Like a batik created from many emotional colors it is a fabric whose pattern and brightness may vary.” In other words, Love is not one color but has a variety of colors from darkest to brightest that love itself can offer.
Love is a concept that has puzzled humanity for centuries. This attachment of one human being to another, not seen as intensely in other organisms, is something people just cannot wrap their heads around easily. So, in an effort to understand, people write their thoughts down. Stories of love, theories of love, memories of love; they all help us come closer to better knowing this emotional bond. One writer in particular, Sei Shōnagon, explains two types of lovers in her essay "A Lover’s Departure": the good and the bad.
Statements of I love you have helped men survive in wars; patients live past a deadly diagnosis and have made entire kingdoms fall. In today’s time those words can be a signal to the start of a romantic relationship, and can indicat a desire to shift from casual friendship and involvement to intimacy.
Love is the ultimate prize in life, the gift that I am most thankful for. The description of love is found in every smile, every pounding heart, and the sweet taste
Some people believe that there is no such thing as “true love” they believe that love is nothing but an illusion designed by social expectations. These people believe that love ultimately turns into pain and despair. This idea in some ways is true. Love is not eternal it will come to an end one way or another, but the aspect that separates true love from illusion, is the way love ends. “True Love” is much too powerful to be destroyed by Human imperfection; it may only be destroyed by a force equal to the power of love. Diotima believed that “Love is wanting to posses the good forever” In other words love is the desire to be immortal and the only way that we are able to obtain immortality is through reproduction, and since the act of reproduction is a form of sexual love, then sexual love is in fact a vital part of “True love”. Sexual love is not eternal. This lust for pleasure will soon fade, but the part of love that is immortal, is a plutonic love. You can relate this theory to the birth of love that Diotima talks about. She says that love was born by a mortal mother and immortal father. The mother represents the sexual love, the lust for pleasure. The father represents the plutonic love that is immortal. Plutonic love is defined as a true friendship, the purest of all relationships. A true plutonic love will never die; it transcends time, space, and even death.
What exactly is love? Is there an absolute meaning to the word - love? Or is it purely subjective? The concept of true love is what we search for all our lives. Yet love is one of the most misunderstood concepts of all. What people really want more than anything else is to be loved unconditionally; to be accepted for who we are, and still be loved. Sometimes we will do some crazy things, "in the name of love."
Love, the single feeling that generates the funny sentiments in our stomach, giving us the warm pleasures in our body, causing us to feel joy, and to believe every aspect in our life will constantly go right. In addition, causing us to receive an accelerating, appealing feeling that makes us want to rejoice. Love can be a speeding of your heart, but it can also be nerve-racking. Our hearts rapidly begin to pump, making a rapid beat— “ba-boom, ba-boom, ba-boom”. Attempting to describe love is a rigorous task, but it is possible. However, the easiest detail to describe and understand about love is the concept of what it is about. Many people may obtain different views and definitions regarding love, but their ideas tend to unite at some point.
The success of any relationship relies on the ability to communicate well. Communication is important in all relationships as it allows us to share our interests, concerns, and support of each other. It helps us to organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond as well as our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate because it takes more than words to create a safe, exciting and secure relationship. All too often the signals we send are not those we intend to send, and when this happens, both the connection and trust are lost in our relationships.
Hello How are you doing today? hope you are okay and people around you as well.I am at my room when I'm writing you this.,i couldn't stop thinking about you..I DO believe everyone deserve to be love.