The Controversy Between Couples And Their Differences

In relationships, it is widely accepted that all couples will disagree. Couples argue about money, children, work, and sex just to name several items. There is a seemingly infinite amount of controversy and discourse that a couple may experience as they journey through the hills, plateaus, and valleys of life. Many couples may not look fondly on disagreements, equating them to negative events that cause hurt. Because of these preconceived notions, disagreement is often avoided, which can lead to resentment and loss of closeness over time. Though most couples do not enjoy disagreements, when done properly, resolving these disagreements can improve a relationship.

In marriage, it is inevitable that there will be disputes, but different couples have different outcomes based on how they resolve their differences. There are many

Children are witness to their parents’ arguments, which could include bottled up anger or destructive arguments (Bernstein, 2010). These lessons are learned as children, and often carry over into adult romances, where “people clearly differ in the sensitivity and dexterity with which they manage conflict” (Miller, 2011, p. 357). Studies have reported that boys who see violence between their parents are especially susceptible to these influences, becoming “men who handle conflict poorly” in their adult relationships (Miller, 2011, p. 357). Childhood experiences play a large role in how a person will handle relationship conflicts in adulthood. Many adults tend to avoid conflict by “opting out, blocking the subject, heading back to your cave,” but this approach is not recommended because these ignored disputes tend to build up until large disputes are also pushed aside and the couple inevitably drifts