BDSM is viewed as not only a sexual practice but occasionally a way of life as well. Some people practice BDSM occasionally, and for some people it is their lifestyle and an identity that they encompass 24-7. BDSM also does not always have to include sexual contact, but for most that is not the case. There are three roles that one can take on when they chose to practice BDSM, the dominant, the submissive, or switcher. The dominant is considered the person who is taking control throughout the role playing, the submissive is the the person taking on the obedient role, and a switcher is someone who will go from dominant to submissive, and who enjoys taking on both roles. BDSM contains an array of of roles and practices that are different for …show more content…
Andreas Wismeijer, and Marcel A.L.M. van Assen have stated, “The lack of understanding of BDSM has lead to many misconceptions as well as fear which may further alienate those who are active in the lifestyle”. The sexual practice itself is viewed a certain way but also the people who practice BDSM, come with a certain assumption that is usually not correct. The main stereotype that has been researched and questioned more recently then ever is that, a persons role during the act is always the same as their personality outside of the act. It is believed by many that a dominant is always dominant and a submissive is always submissive. Another stereotype that has been often looked over is that people who practice BDSM have had either some abuse happen to them …show more content…
They stated “The qualitative study was intended to give BDSM practitioners a voice in this exploration” (Herbert and Weaver, 50). The participants were found on REDDIt or by word of mouth and then was interviewed over Skype or a phone conversation. They interviewed 9 dominants and 12 submissive’s and asked them about their personality traits, and what makes them “well suited” for their role of either dominant or submissive. When the dominants were asked about their personality traits they described them selves as “empathetic, nurturing, desiring, able to take control, attentive, and responsible” (Herbert and Weaver, 52). The same was asked for the named submissive and they said they were “willing to give up control due to the lack of ability or desire to make their own decisions, and having a desire to please” (Herbert and Weaver, 52). Throughout the study they found that the characteristics of both the dominant and submissive either changed when they turned on their role or it was a very similar characteristics to the ones that they have throughout their day to day routine. A female submissive stated “Usually I am a very competitive person, I dislike orders from anyone….It’s a break from your real world.”( Herbert and Weaver,
BDSM, a three part acronym which stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism (Oxford Dictionary, 2014) has seen a drastic increase in popular culture in the last twenty years (Weiss, p: 104). Since it being brought into the public eye with the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, BDSM has predominantly been portrayed as a sexual deviance that only those who are sexually violent or those who are mentally unsound participate in. Images of BDSM have existed in popular culture for quite some time. Wearing cuffs, collars and leather are often found in both fashion and mainstream media so much so that many who purchase and wear them may not be aware of their significance to BDSM.
The preferences of BDSM participants may differ from each other greatly: while some are only intersted in a limited range of BDSM activities, which are not necessarily physically harmful but are humiliating in some way, vebrbally for example, others may be attracted to broad and even potentially dangerous ones. Roles that can be distinguished in BDSM sessions are different as well and can be "switched". Although BDSM is thought to be a form of erotic behavior, most BDSM practitioners describe BDSM activities first of all as a source of sensory pleasure and not so much as a source for erotic
In order to further understand my experiences one must acknowledge the cultural background, which constructs my opinions towards sex, sexuality, and gender role. My opinions about sexuality shifted quickly as I moved from Israel, a middle-eastern society, to the United States. The sudden change of environment and culture occurred around when I began puberty, and as a result, my sexual identity shifted tremendously. Instead believing that a certain Jewish woman, whom I will marry, will satisfy all of my sexual needs, I began relating with my American peers and their sexual beliefs.
The community plays a key role when it comes to erotic plasticity, and the person’s sexual identity. Women’s sexual identity is seen as be adventures. Exploring ones sexual attitude, desire, decisions, and behavior. There sexual acts do not defined them, and can go through life without their high sex drive decreasing. However it is different for men when it comes to exploring their sex drive. Male sexuality is evolutionary and biological factor playing key roles in their life course. When a man experience sex with another man it is assumed they will always be gay. The so called deviant act, unlike to women defines their sexually identity. (McElwain, Grimes, & Melissa L. McVicker, 2009, p.
In the article “An Anthropological Look at Human Sexuality” the authors, Patrick Gray and Linda Wolfe speak about how societies look at human sexuality. The core concept of anthology is the idea of culture, the systems of attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors people acquire as a member of society. The authors give an in depth analysis on how human sexuality is looked at in all different situations.
Control where men use their power, fully knowing what they are doing, to get what they want by using violent or sexual motives. This is why it is so hard for some
It has been said that “Society has always defined for us what it means to be a man and what it means to be a woman, what a man should be like and what a woman should be like, and these traditional definitions of gender roles have limited and even harmed individuals”. The theme of sexual politics comes to mind for this quote. One can define sexual politics as the relationship of the sexes, male and female regarding power. Society’s definition of this can limit an individual in their gender role and restrain a person to not be themselves.
I’ve been given the task by my Queen to write an essay on what the word “submissive” means to me. I hope to convey not only my understanding of the word submissive, but also my understanding of the dominate-submissive relationship as I envision it. While researching this subject, I have been drawn to a quote from Casey K. Cox in the book “The Seduction of Alec Caldwell.” The quote, “He couldn’t even jerk himself off; there was no one to give him permission to cum” sums up what I feel the dominate-submissive relationship is all about, and hopefully I will convey that in this essay.
BDSM encompasses a wide range of practices involving bondage, dominance,
Results indicated that butches and femme lesbians did not differ in sexual versus emotional jealousy. Broemer and Diehl (2004) established that people experience higher levels of jealousy when compared with an attractive rival with similarities to themselves as it challenges distinctiveness. Sadalla, Kenrick and Vershure (1987) study claimed that women are more sexually attracted to dominant men therefore it could be assumed that males would be more jealous of a dominant rival than a submissive
Some of you may have seen my threads before and that I'm not particularly into 'submissive' females, which is true. However, what I mean by that isn't that I'm not into domination/submission scenes, it's just that I find passivity boring and am much more interested in the concepts of reluctance, 'taking' control, or unwilling submission - whether it be through seduction, manipulation, mental intimidation or physical force - than willing subservience.
According to the information by Darling (2011), adults who grew up in this type of environment might also try to control the relationships because of
This is a strong indication of the power that society has to influence people. The roles of men and women are clearly shaped by the traditions and customs of society, as well as the biological attributes that come with men and women. Bibliography Gilbert Herdt, and Robert J. Stoller 1990 Intimate Communications:Erotics and the Study of Culture. Columbia University Press Mimica, Jadran 2001 " Sambia Sex Cultures: Essays From the Field," Australian Journal of Anthropology.
Men and women are very different, especially when it comes to sexuality. They have different feelings and emotions. Gender role expectations influence a huge impact on our sexuality. Gender roles refer to how a person behaves as male or female, we close to masculine or femine, which are chararestics that yourself or other notice. Boys and girls have always been treated differently. Males are treated more as the tough one, with no emotions, and females as the one’s whoe were emotional and needed to more attention.