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Alexa Matthews

Scientists say that the brain chemistry of infatuation is akin to mental illness—which gives new meaning and understanding to the phrase ‘madly in love.’

I first met *Ben in second grade, which can be a seemingly non-momentous time in life. When you’re eight, romance is hardly the most prominent topic in mind (at least hopefully not), and so, although this would eventually be a meeting of enormous impact, I didn’t really it until many years later, as we so often don’t. We hardly talked again until freshman year of high school. That year, we were both assigned to the same math class and given seats right next to each other.

In our class, we used to use these calculators that also

At the time, I was infatuated with someone else, and didn’t pay much attention to this proclamation. When he asked if there was a possibility whether I would like him back, I told him “maybe,” because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. I didn’t think it would actually happen.

Afterwards, we continued to pass notes everyday, but our interaction ended when the class did. I hardly even saw him until the beginning of sophomore year. Homecoming.

I went to homecoming with my friends, but as luck would have it, one of my best friends at the time happened to be dating one of his best friends. Because of this, we ended up dancing in near proximity for a while, and my mind was racing with ideas. I really wanted to dance with someone, and I remembered that he had had a crush on me last year, so I decided it would be best for me to stay close to him as I was dancing, in hopes that he would get my (unobvious) hint that we should dance. At one point, all of my friends decided to get a drink of water; I felt fine, so I stayed behind, not realizing that I was going to be left with only the boys in the group. I immediately felt awkward, because I hadn’t known any of them super well at the time, and also because I was a teenager and they were

I was instantly crushed. I honestly wasn’t even sure how I was going to be able to move on. I knew I had the strength to get up and go about my life, but what I also knew was that it wasn’t something that I wanted. But even as I read that text, I knew that we did need to break up, and it was something that I had known for a while, but when you’re in love you don’t listen to that voice in your head as much.

Even so, I did my best to fight for him, as much as I knew we were wrong for each other.

The thing is--as far as I can see, we tend to have this issue with ignoring the flaws in the people we love. We want to see the good in them, and so we make excuses for the things that go wrong or we don’t agree with.

An article in Psychology Today has done research on this as well, and can back me up. They have stated that “we learn how lovable we are and how valuable our love is to others only by interacting with the people we love,” despite some people who might be rather bad for us. Our internal mindset might not always have the ability to be on the same page as our heart or go hand in hand with our common sense.

This is not to say that “Ben” was a bad guy. I have only good things to say about