Object Relations Therapy

Another interesting aspect that can affect Christians is the reality of forgiveness. Following Hamilton (1988), “forgiveness depends on the acquisition of whole object relatedness. One must be able to hold two emotionally contradictory images in mind, one of the object as frustrating or harmful and the other of the object as valuable and loved” (p. 109). This is incredibly truth in Christianity. A genuine forgiveness comes from an intimate and deep understanding that our offender is still a creature who bears the Image of God, and, thus, he/she is not an enemy of God, but rather a loved and precious person in His eyes that hurts us.

Overall, the more general philosophy of Object Relations Theory is profoundly connected with Genesis 1: 1-2.

In my opinion, one of the most powerful strengths of this therapy is the wide realm of psychological mechanisms in which the therapist can educate the client to see unhealthy development and false mental representations that have been affecting their relationships for a long time. For several individuals, coming to the realization that their childhood object relations have had a terrible impact on their motivations, drives, feelings and relationships can bring peace, maturity, freedom and acceptance of themselves. A person who sees others more realistically and integrates good and bad aspect of internal object can gain an authentic existence. In the therapeutic exchange - with transference and countertransference – clients may have the unique opportunity to find new internal skills and strengths that can be used to relationships outside of the counselor office.

Perhaps, because the success of object relation therapy is mainly dependent on the authenticity of the therapeutic relationship and on the therapist skills, this can be even considered as a weakness of the model. In absence of a secure relationship with the counselor, the therapy is at risk of a premature