“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” -Neale Donald Walsch Every living thing has this comfort zone they force themselves to conform to. It’s a safe place, a home, a shield, and a cage. You give yourself the invincibility of social acceptance, but at the same time you hurt your personal individuality. you can lose imagination, creativity, and the ability to form new ideas. For years i tried to fit in with people whose opinions i thought would make me happy. i would dress, act, and conform my entire being in order to try and find acceptance. I somehow tricked myself into believing that the empty opinions of my peers would supply me with all the happiness and comfort i would ever want. This being my first mistake, it took me years to realize just how miserable i was making myself. I Spent so much time worried about the social standards my peers set i never had the time to even really find what i enjoy. i lost out on hobbies, opportunities, and a lot of fun because i thought it would be looked down upon. Then one day a new girl came to my school. she looked, spoke, and acted ...
Conformity can be very crucial, infact a lot of people eventually start hurting themselves or doing drugs just because they don't feel themselves anymore.Why can't society change? why can't that one kid that always follows everyone in the back can turn into the kid that just hangs with the people they really wanna hang with?We need to embrace ourselves so we can stop all this conformity from consuming us.Tupac was a nonconformist, he always did what made him happy and always told the truth.
There often comes a point in time when we question if we could improve ourselves to fit in more or even become transfixed on a certain lifestyle that appears attractive to us. Dave in
In society, it's difficult to go against the norm. Individuals are compelled to act a specific way, or look a specific way in order to be accepted. For instance, teenagers may encounter pressure from their peers to partake in specific exercises that may not be moral, since they feel the need to fit in. This weight of conformity isn't just present in reality; it can be found in literature as well. The story "St. Lucy’s Home For Girls Raised by Wolves" by Karen Russell depicts that in order to conform to society, individuals abandon their selflessness and compassion and become selfish and apathetic.
Conformity means a change in one’s behavior due to the real or imagined influence of other people. As a teenager, the pressure to conform to the societal “norm” plays a major role in shaping one’s character. Whether this means doing what social groups want or expect you to do or changing who you are to fit in. During class, we watched films such as Mean Girls, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, and The Breakfast Club which demonstrate how the pressure to conform into society can change who you are. In the movies we have seen, conformity was most common during high school.
Everybody wants to be accepted, yet society is not so forgiving. It bends you and changes you until you are like everyone else. Society depends on conformity and it forces it upon people. In Emerson's Self Reliance, he says "Society is a joint stock company, in which the members agree, for the better securing of his bread to each shareholder, to surrender the liberty and culture of the eater." People are willing to sacrifice their own hopes and freedoms just to get the bread to survive. Although the society that we are living in is different than the one the Emerson's essay, the idea of fitting in still exists today. Although society and our minds make us think a certain way, we should always trust our better judgment instead of just conforming to society.
In the Milgram experiment, Stanley Milgram remarks, “Obedience is as basic an element in the structure of social life as one can point to”. I believe Milgram is saying that to fit in, we must abide by their rules and boundaries, with no questions asked. Rita Mae Brown quotes, “The reward for Conformity is that everybody likes you but yourself.” I believe Brown is saying that no matter how much you work and strive to be something you’re not, it is inevitable that you won’t feel the warm, fuzzy, comfortable feeling of acceptance. However, I believe that being an outcast is not a
Have you ever been happy trying to fit in? Whenever you try to fit in, you're always trying to make yourself happy by fitting in but they're actually not being themselves so they usually feel uncomfortable and unhappy mostly all the time. When I see the video of social experiments of conformity and it only takes about 4 people to conform somebody to do the wrong thing. There’s a few people that do not fall for it; usually the people who do not fall for conformity they are non conformist. If we didn’t have nonconformist this world would be all the same nobody would create anything because nobody would think out the box. Sometimes I see people as a flock of birds that all go one way. I believe people should not care about being judged because
Conformity, or going along with the crowd, is a unique phenomenon that manifests itself in our thoughts and behaviors. It’s quite simple to identify countless examples of the power of conformity in virtually all aspects of social life. Conformity influences our opinions and relationships with others, often to a higher extent than we realize. It is posited that people generally conform to the group in order to fit in and avoid rejection or because they truly believe the group is more knowledgeable than they are. After analyzing numerous studies and experiments on the nature of conformity, one will find that the motive of social acceptance is the greatest driver of conformity.
In the article The Desire To FIt in is the Root of All Wrongdoing by Christopher Freiman, the theme of fitting in, and how it's wrong is presented by a man who figured out people will do what you tell them if they feel lesser than you. All throughout the history we see mankind do wrongful acts but, why do we? Well, many people would say that the reason people do cruel things for others isn't because we “we care to little about others; it's that we care too much. To be more specific we care too much about how other view us, even if it means doing the wrong thing. The person doing wrong actions due to pressure in society is just as guilty as the person making them feel obligated. The reason people are willing to do this is because they “don't
Emerson, one of the greatest American essayists, poet, and thinkers, clearly understood the importance of self-acceptance. He believed in searching for truth from within our self. Emerson had experienced both the benefits and drawbacks of going against mainstream culture and society. The same message applies even in modern times. We are constantly bombarded by ideas that try to make us something else. We are told how to be, who we should be like, how to live, what our beliefs ought to be and what we should wear and the list goes on. We strive to fit in; we mold ourselves so that we can be like everyone else. If we deny who we are we can never find true happiness, we need to stop thinking about pleasing other people.
We believe that once we find our true “self,” we will attain happiness. In his article Thurman states, “[k]nowing something is a way of controlling it, being able to put it in its proper place in relation to us so that we can use it effectively” (Thurman 446). When a dominant party controls our impressions by means of peer pressure, we alter how we define ourselves in regards to the commanding group. Therefore, our sense of self is significantly affected by the peer pressure of external influences creating a lack of happiness. In addition to peer pressure from exterior factors, conformity contributes to the idea of self-validation and contentment. Conformity revolves around the concept of matching behaviors, ideologies, and decisions to those of a certain group. Individuals, such as us, want to fit in with the majority. Therefore, we alter ourselves by conforming to be accepted in a group. After we are accepted into the group, we attain positive self-validation. This constructs the foundation for what Johnson describes in his article when he explains complex systems. (INSERT JOHNSON SHIT HERE) Conformity leads us to be accepted into groups. From there, we look at ourselves in a more positive manner because we are validated by our peers. Outward entities make us feel valuable because with conformity, external influences significantly affect our sense of self and how we pertain to
My first year of junior high, (in our school that was seventh grade) I was not spending all my time trying to be popular like all the other people in my grade. I was just being me how I always had been. One day at I was sitting at the lunch table with a bunch of people I would hang around with sometimes. Some of them were talking about there weekends.
Conformity is vital to people’s life. Humans, being compound animals, live in a culture that works as a whole. Therefore, if there is a fault, the whole system might disintegrate. So, people are obligated to respect the affairs of others so that they can stay together as a whole. On the other hand Individuality, just like conformity, is necessary to life even despite the fact that modern person may not understand its worth. At one point people may want to be special from all the rest in one way or the other. As a result individuals might dress a bit in a different way as well as choose to do things we actually like. And, for on one occasion, we might create the opinions based on what we actually feel. However, earlier or later we are required to curb our impulsive desires so that society or culture does not tag us as eccentric or else weird, simply for the reason that people fear being alone.
Have you ever done something that you have regretted just to be accepted? When you follow the crowd you can get yourself into a uncomfortable position where you are not being honest with yourself. Mary Bender writes in the “Partying Habit That Can Put You In Danger,” doing what others do is a dangerous thing, One could be blinded to the truth of many possible dangerous situations when they follow their want! You can affect the people around you including friends and family. Desperation, extreme wanting, leads to the moral deconstruction of a person. It also can lead to falsifying your own image to impress others.
Many people say it is hard to fit into today’s society. We grow up in a world where we do not want to stand out because that is considered wrong. We want people to accept us, but we cannot do that when we do not fit in. You may not like the people who fit in, but you have to get to the top somehow. Some people feel they must help people in need because they have more than them and it sometimes hurts to see them have less. Some people are nice to others, but you can’t be nice to everyone. Can you really reach the top by fitting in and not standing out?