My Big Fat Greek Wedding

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Theoretical perspectives on families come in many forms. These perspectives help to provide a basis of understanding of the dynamic relationships found within families. Lamanna, Riedmann, and Stewart (2015) define the Interactionalist perspective as the communication and face to face encounters between to individuals and their ability to be aware of one another. This family view best applies to the father-daughter relationship between Gus and Toula Portokalos from My Big Fat Greek Wedding. Gus, the dominant rule setting father, has made it his goal to embrace their Greek Heritage to its fullest extent all while maintaining certain roles for each member of his immediate family. While Gus strives to protect the family’s roles and community …show more content…

While Toula kept her new boyfriend in secret from her family, the couple was soon exposed thanks to the tight connections within the Portokalos family. Gus was quick to once again comply with the interactionist perspective by first explaining to Toula the “rules” Ian was meant to follow in order to ask for permission to date his daughter. He later continues by inviting a preapproved suitor for his daughter who would help to continue and maintain their strong Greek culture. The climax of this conflict arises when Toula begins to feel the pressure from her father and tries to break it off with Ian. Luckily for Toula Ian was completely understanding of her family system; even when his own family was more “cookie cutter” in the way his family was smaller in size, they kept to immediate family, as well as weren’t as prideful of their heritage. The couple continues to date and Ian soon proposes to Toula. When she confronts her father with her news he begins to become outraged by the situation and the lack of respect coming from his daughter and her inability to uphold not only tradition but his own expectations of her. After Ian commits to converting into Toula’s Greek Orthodox faith as a way to make her father and family happy and more accepting, Toula proceeded to explain to her father that this is what she had been waiting for and was where she felt comfortable. Again we have some evidence of not only Toula but also her father complying with this idea of constructing a new reality to fit ones needs. Gus slowly begins to accept Ian thanks to his sacrifice and commitment not only to his daughter but the family’s traditions and culture as well. Eventually all turns out well for the Portokalos and Gus and Toula’s relationship becomes strong thanks to

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