Losing a loved one is always a difficult and traumatic time that every person in his or her life has to go through. People go through many stages of grief and react to death differently. Some people tend to have flat a fleck, while others are seen whaling to miss that loved one. Many people feel an intense sadness or lost when someone close to them dies. This affects the way they react to others, extend of their physical and mental health in which is tested as well the length of healing to get over this devastating time. For this paper I will discuss the effects of Military Death and the families’ reaction to losing their loved ones.
Serving your country is one of the best things an individual can achieve. It gives a sense of security to know that you are able to fight for the rights of others and maintain this great level of freedom that our fathers, uncles and brothers fought for in the war. Since 2001, thousands of military soldiers have been shipped to Iraq and Afghanistan, where they have been killed in combat operations, where families of those individuals won’t see them again. Families who lose individuals during war face the similar grievances to that of other families. There are certain unique aspects of military family lost that people should be aware of.
One aspect is “military deaths during wartime are part of public events, which diminishes the privacy that families usually have when grieving. The lack of privacy can make it more difficult for the family members and other caring adults to protect children from unexpected or unwanted intrusions into family mourning. A family may prefer that the death be kept private” (Retrieved from http://nctsn.org/sites/default/files/assets/pdfs/military_grief_medical.pdf). The only ...
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The Vietnam War tore some families apart (Olson). Some families were getting divorced. Being gone for so long can be hard on families and soldiers. The War lasted up to at least 15 years with United States involved. Loved ones were gone and not being able to take care of their families and loved ones. The deployment of loved ones was hard to comp with some families (Logan). Children were sad to see their dad have to leave and not knowing if he will come back. During the war many terrifying images were being showed (Friedman). The images made families and loved ones worried and scared if their loved ones had died (Friedman). The families with soldiers that had lived had to deal with their loved ones having Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (Logan). Not only do the families have emotions during the war so do the soldiers. Soldiers who had lived were feeling guilt over them living and their friends dying (Friedman). Soldiers were wishing it was them that had died and not one of their brothers. Some soldiers had committed suicide years after war had ended because of the guilt they had felt for living. (Fallstrom). The soldiers didn’t only have emotions after war they had some during war. A war veteran had said “every time I pull the trigger, I was killing a little bit inside me. “ (Friedel).Even knows he wasn’t physically killing a little bit of himself, mentally he was.
Growing up I always had to deal with the fact that my father was involved in the military. My father was deployed twice: once in Germany, and later to Kuwait. I was only four years old when he first traveled and almost every day I asked where dad was. The second time I was fourteen, and I was devastated that my best friend wasn’t going to be home for a year. Both times he left, it was awful for my mom, my brother, and me because he was the one person that kept us together as a family and once he was gone we were just broken. A military family goes through more than a regular family does in a year. Those veterans have families, how do people think they feel. Children who live in a military family have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, and other mental issues. Although many people believe that we should send our soldiers overseas to keep our country safe, there is no reason why our
Picture one of the most important person to you being killed with no goodbye. Thousands of soldiers die with no goodbye, leaving families devastated. Leaving sons, and daughters devastated. Leaving wives, or husbands
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