Parenting is one of the greatest honors, commitments, and trials a person will go through. It will test resolve, health, and even sanity but it can also provide the greatest sense of love and accomplishment in a person’s life. Whether a parent’s style is strict, laissez-faire, or somewhere in between, the choices made by parents for their children will leave their marks on the character and development of their children long into their lives. Amy Chua knew this. She also knew how dangerous it would be to her children’s future to raise them in a style that would leave them open to falling short of the opportunities they would start with due to her own, and her parents’, successes and she resolved not to allow this to happen on her watch (22). Although she has repeatedly, and sometimes correctly, been criticized for her parenting style, Amy Chua demonstrates throughout her book a definitively visible result and a love, though sometimes misconstrued, that is fully evident in all the dedication she has given to her daughters' development into outstanding people. Through exhibiting confidence in what her girls can achieve, maintaining great expectations of what they will accomplish, and most importantly devoting as much time as possible to directly raising the girls to be their best, Amy has shown that great love, coupled with great tenacity, given in a “Chinese mother” style, proved to make an enduring mark on her children’s development. For the nature of a child’s psyche, strength is the assumption. This was basically how Chua classified one of the primary differences of “Chinese mother” parenting from Western styles (52). Most often Chua expressed it through believing her children already could do something and overriding any incli... ... middle of paper ... ...(46). In the end, most of the parenting equation comes to time. While effort is involved, there must be enough time spent in focus on the children, both working and relaxing with them, in order to raise them well. For both Amy Chua and her daughters, growing up under the "Chinese" parenting style has been a trial. But through exhibiting confidence in what her girls can do, maintaining great expectations of what they can achieve, and most importantly devoting as much direct time as possible to raising the girls, Amy has shown that a great resolve to see her children do well can return outstanding results. She parented at 110 percent so that her kids could know how great they be living at 110 percent, or, to put it a more "Chinese Mother" way, extra credit is always worth doing. Works Cited Chua, Amy. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. New York: Penguin, 2011. Print
The Wall Street Journal published an article by Victoria Ruan that was titled “In China, Not All Practice Tough Love”. In her article, she briefly discusses what we think of as typical behavior between children and parents in China. She describes the brutal relationships between children and their parents when it comes to schoolwork and being the best possible student in the class. Ruan states how in years past children have been pushed in their studies by their parents to the point in which children start to lose their individuality and love for “not so important” hobbies. According to Ruan, chinese parents don’t just push their children to extremes in order for their children to be as smart as possible, the main goal of this “tough love” mannerism is to ensure that their children have a happy and successful life. However, Ruan believes that in recent years we now have less reason to believe in these stereotypes about chinese parents and their children.
Did you know, that some studies show that compared to “Western” parents, “Chinese” parents spend about 10 times as much time schooling their children in mathematics? Though many people have evaluated their parenting techniques, since the release of Amy Chua’s book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, I personally believe that we should portray the idea that there is no perfect parenting style.
One of the conflicts between East and West is clash between the hard work ethic of Asian parents and the easier-going standards that Western parents have for their children. Watching a little Chinese girl playing the p...
The topic of this article is Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior. From the topic itself, we can roughly know what the article is about. The article is about the difference in parenting styles between the Chinese parenting style and the Westerners parenting style. The author’s major findings is that Chinese mother are better in parenting than the Westerners mother.
Her daughters need to experience socializing outside of the classroom, and outside of the safety of their home with their parents. David Brooks, a columnist for the New York Times, said in “Amy Chua Is a Wimp”, in regards to “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”,
Chinese parents believe that there children can get those grades. If they couldn’t achieve a perfect grade they understand that they either, didn’t push the child hard enough or that there child isn’t fully disciplined. They follow by taking a course of action and hope that it would increase their child’s performance. This is what makes a Chinese parent believe that their kids are permanently indebt with their parents. The similar ideal goes with other Asian parents but, Westerner’s from what Chua perceives have a different view on this idea. A westerner believes that it’s the complete opposite. The parents were the one that choose for children not the children. Which is why they shouldn’t be forced to be
She voices out her opinion of western parents being too “soft” that will not contribute anything to the child’s growth. According to her, “her ways” may seem strict to people’s point of view, but it will prepare the children the most for their future. I think that Amy Chua is not all wrong yet she was not all right either. I believe the best way of every parenting is to be balanced and adapting because everyone is different and needs to be treated differently. “What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you 're good at it.” ( Chua ). This was true to me after years passed where I had been cursing, mocking, and being unsatisfied of my parents for forcing me to take all of these lessons that would improve me. My classmate was feeling the same way, “ I used to hate practicing the piano so much, but I am so proud that people were acknowledging me for my Piano skills.”( Uyen ). Sure the practices and all of those hard work were not fun at all, yet they created the greatest joy of my life being competent in doing
The social norm for parenting is that parents should encourage their children to do their best. Parents should be happy for their children’s success, no matter how big or small the success is. Parents should always offer words of encouragement to their children. These are parents’ guideline that most children grew up with and that parents follow. Amy Chua does not follow these social norms parent guides. Chua is a Chinese mother that orders her children to be the best, her words of encouragement are insults to the Western parents, and there is no celebration of success because her children are expected to succeed in everything. In “Why Chines Mother Are Superior”, Amy Chua explains the effectiveness of the Chinese mother parenting style and the differences between Chinese parents and Western parents.
Saudi moms raise their children to be confident and able to make their own decisions. Moreover, they stress that the child does what they like and enjoys. Adversely, Chinese moms force the child to do what they see as successful, and believe in the saying "academic achievement reflects successful parenting”. Thus, they make sure that their children are getting the best grades along with extra activities, without putting much thought if their children enjoy it or not. This method affects the child's self-confidence in making their own decisions and problem-solving skills. Saudi parents put a lot of effort in respecting their children’s uniqueness in their personality, and they make sure that they follow what they truly love and find passion in. Therefore, they always support their children’s choices, decisions, and provide them with a positive supportive and caring environment. This has a positive impact on the child's confidence and ability to be independent. By contrast, Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children, therefore, they control their children's preferences, desires, and behavior. They also believe that the best way to prepare and protect a child from the upcoming future is by pushing them and to let them explore their capacities. This approach is successful in the child’s career
Amy sticks to the Chinese parenting she learned, but she doesn’t get the desired results with Lulu. After growing up and seeing such different standards for her peers, Lulu begins to disobey her mother. However, Amy being the Chinese mother she is does not condone her daughter’s disobedience and feels the need to double down. She responds with “Had I not been strict enough? Given her too much” (173)? Amy’s past orientation causes her to think she didn’t do a good enough job of Chinese parenting, when instead it is the opposite problem. Lulu wants more Western values to be incorporated and for the restrictions of Chinese parenting to be gone. None of her friends have parents who exert as much control over their lives. In America, freedom and individual choice are valued, and Lulu’s mother doesn’t give her much of either. Lulu and her mother get into a fight where Lulu says “I know-I’m not what you want-I’m not Chinese! I don’t want to be Chinese” (205). The expectations and important values that Lulu is introduced to in her school life goes against what her mother values and expects of her. It is clear from the way she acts out and says that she doesn’t want to be Chinese, that she doesn’t like this one bit. While Chinese parenting might’ve worked in China, it is more difficult in America because Western values are bound to affect children growing up there, who might then start to see that style as extreme-just as Lulu
When Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother was published she stepped on a lot of “western” Mothers toes. A lot of parents took Chua’s book as her saying that Chinese mothers are better than American mothers. Although people have their own opinion of what “good parenting” is, good parenting must involve loving one 's children, being proud
In the article, Cultural Differences in Child Rearing: A Comparison of Immigrant Chinese and Caucasian American Mothers, authors, Michelle L. Kelley and Hui-Mei Tseng takes thirty-eight Caucasian American mothers and thirty-eight Chinese mothers and compares the parenting skills of their 3 to 8 year old children using a Parenting Dimensions Inventory (PDI) and a Parenting Goals Questionnaire (PGQ). Results found on the PDI that Caucasian mothers scored better on sensitivity, nurturance, rule setting and consistency. Whereas, Chinese mothers score higher on physical punishment and yelling at their child. Interestingly, on the PGQ, “Both immigrant Chinese and Caucasian American mothers place more emphasis on manners, school-related skills, and
Parenting, which is somewhat akin to teaching, should be regarded as one of the three cooperative arts. Thus conceived, it calls upon parents to assist their offspring in the process of growing up, doing so by observing carefully the steps the children themselves take in the process and doing what is necessary to facilitate their progress. Parenting departs from being a cooperative art, as teaching does also, when it tries to be the active and dominant factor in the process -- when parents or teachers think that what they do should be like the molding of passive, plastic matter.
Today’s parenting model was composed by diversity, through media and books that parents got to know different parenting styles. Since more and more people focused on how to cultivate the next generation, the difference between Chinese and Western parenting styles would arouse controversy. It seems like Chinese and Western parenting methods are totally different, which give both Chinese and Western parents a shock. However, what interesting is that both parenting methods can foster elitists. Amy Chua in “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior” discusses her typical Chinese parenting style, which is a coercion way to love her daughters. She always pushes her daughters to play the piano and do school works. In a word, she wants to take every of her
Every parent uses different ways of parenting some parents like to be lenient because they value independence, and others like to be very strict because they value more culture and family but both want to teach something to their kids and succeed in different parenting experiences. In the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, Amy Chua writes about her experience of raising her two daughters in a very strict “Chinese” way. In her book Chua claims that Chinese “strict” parents raise their kids better than Western “lenient” parents. Chua raises her daughters Sophia and Lulu with strong habits, skills and self confidence for their future. Expecting a lot from her daughters, Chua forces Sophia and