Communication is a tool which allows people to express how they are feeling through verbal or nonverbal messages. Communication is used differently among relationships and in different scenarios. To observe communication in action I went to a laundromat and took notes of the types of communication people had. The way in which people communicated depended greatly on the type of relationship they had and how close they were in that relationship. During my observation I watched how three pairs of individuals, two female friends, two male friends and a mom and her young child communicated during different circumstances. Two teenage boys approached an arcade game determined they would beat the game. I observed how the boys used jargon, slang, …show more content…
In this relationship, the communication concepts used were volume, masking, tone and deception. A mother was trying to finish folding her laundry, but she kept being interrupted by her son’s impatience and tugging. To try to get her son to stop interrupting her she used deception, an attempt to convince her son of something that was not true (O’Hair et., al). The mother assured her son that they would leave in two minutes and told him to be patient. It was obvious that with the two large loads still drying, that was not going to happen. After hearing that the little boy calmed down and played with his toy on the floor. A couple of minutes passed and the mother was not done yet, again the boy got impatient and started screaming that he wanted to go home. By using high volume the boy was expressing his anger and frustration towards his mother for still being at the laundromat. The boy started having a tantrum, a sure way of getting his mother’s attention. The mother used a low angry tone to communicate that she was upset with her son’s behavior and that her patience had been slipping. The mother tried to mask her embarrassment by smiling at the neighboring mothers and people around her. The mother desperate to get her son to stop screaming went to the vending machine and bought her son some Cheetos Puffs and M & Ms to keep him entertained while she finished folding her clothes. The mother and child had a different way of effectively communicating what they
I had to get on the phone and say in an adolescent voice that was not very convincing, “This is Mrs. Tan.” And my mother was standing in the back whispering loudly, “Why he don’t send me check, already two weeks late. So mad he lie to me, losing me money. And then I said in perfect English, Yes, I’m getting rather concerned. You had agreed to send the check two weeks ago, but it hasn’t arrived.” Then she began to talk more loudly, “What he want, I come to New York tell him front of his boss, you cheating me?” And I was trying to calm her down, make her be quiet, while telling the stockbroker, “I can’t tolerate anymore excuses. If I don’t receive the check immediately, I am going to have to speak to your manager when I’m in New York next week.” And sure enough, the following week there we were in front of the astonished stockbroker, and I was sitting there red-faced and quiet, and my mother, the real Mrs. Tan, was shouting at his boss in her
From reading this story I am able to understand the problems in these situations, and how to improve communication between sexes. The three types of communication Deborah Tannen discussed in “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” are linguistic battle of the sexes, listening to body language, and the sounds of silence. First, Deborah Tannen argued that in the linguistic battle
Suzie attended the IEP meeting for one of her new clients. While in the meeting, the client’s mother began crying. Suzie quickly told the mother that it was neither the time nor the place for crying. Following the meeting, Suzie met with the mother and told her she should do her best to hide her emotions.
Communications generally occur in body languages: how the individuals interpret each other. Her essay is an event that is reoccurring more and more lately. The event results in a failure in marriage. In today’s society more and more people are splitting up or having divorces due to miscommunications. The essay, “Sex, Lies and Conversation,” that Deborah Tannen wrote is much use of today because it explains where miscommunications happen and she has her own studies and research to back it up. The essay goes into depth about her ideologies that cause miscommunications. Look at a miscommunication twice and do not be quick to judge because it will save plenty of
This time both parents were asked to come. Donny’s academics had only improved slightly but new problems had arisen. The principal enlightened Daisy that her son had been cutting classes, breaking into lockers, even smoking and drinking. However, on Daisy’s mind was how stupid she looked sitting in a principal office as a delinquent parent. She is self-conscience and embarrassed to the fact that that she is an overweight house wife in a cotton dress. This woman is more distraught of what the principal is thinking about her than the issue of son’s
Throughout the semester, we have studied numerous communication theories. Their purpose is to help understand exactly what happens when we interact with others. We might not necessarily agree with all of the theories, but the idea is to develop tools to evaluate situations we may encounter. Often, when the theories are explained in the readings or lecture, it is beneficial to apply the concepts to a "real life" situation. Using this approach, I will use a situation that many of us have faced, or will face, and analyze it according to a particular communication theory.
Communication involves the exchange of messages and is a process which all individuals participate in. Whether it is through spoken word, written word, non-verbal means or even silence, messages are constantly being exchanged between individuals or groups of people (Bach & Grant 2009). All behaviour has a message and communication is a process which individuals cannot avoid being involved with (Ellis et al 1995).
A group of boys high fived each other making it seem as though fortunate occurred. A little girl grabbed her knee as if her knee was hurting for some reason. At the same time, another young man was waving his phone at his girlfriend as if to tell her to check her phone. A little girl sitting with her family at their table made an upset face at her mother, which seemed to say she had too much to eat. An older man in a suit was sitting with his wife and he pointed to his watch communicating he probably needed to leave to a prior arrangement. A little boy urgently grabbed his private parts, bouncing around, making it obvious to his mother that he needed her to take him to the
As I walked out of the courthouse and down the ramp, I looked at my mom in disappointment and embarrassment. Never wanting to return to that dreadful place, I slowly drug my feet back to the car. I wanted to curl up in a little ball and I didn't want anyone else to know what I had done. Gaining my composure, I finally got into the car. I didn't even want to hear what my mom had to say. My face was beat red and I was trying to hide my face in the palms of my hands because I knew what was about to come; she was going to start asking me questions, all of the questions I had been asking myself. Sure enough, after a short period of being in the car, the questions began.
The street lights outside flickered with age, popping and gently fizzing with every stream of electricity that ran through the bulb. Sat inside of the laundromat and watching the flickering lights, I was awaiting the wash cycle’s end. Clothes that were dirtied from last night were being rehabilitated by vicious lashes of water and soap. It was the holy cleansing we all deserved. The shirts, pants and socks all pushed up against the restricting glass of the washing machine’s door, fighting for freedom while I just sat there, aware of the cruelty and the drowning but yawning my cares away. The inside of the laundromat was cast in a harsh cyan light that pained the eyes at such late times as these. It was around 9 p.m., and the only people present included myself and a
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other; organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond and our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate.
As I carefully unloaded my bags from the car, I quickly overlooked the crowd of people that were already there before me. Noticing that it was not too busy a smile crawled its way onto my face. With the aide of one of the many utility carts, I placed my bags into them along with my supplies and proceeded into the laundry mat.
Odile had just heard the news of her mother’s illness. Her husband was in Texas. She had nowhere to take her four children. Odile explained that she had no other choice than to leave her children with Mamzelle. As Odile left, Mamzelle stared at the children, contemplating them. She was unsure of them being with her in her home. During this time of contemplation, she was figuring out what to do with the four children. Mamzelle began to feed the children. During the first few days she realized that she was incapable of taking care of Odile’s children. She had no experience in childcare. Over time, Mamzelle became very familiar with each child and their personalities. She had gotten used to the laughing, crying, and talking coming from each of the children. Each day, she got the children up and ready for the day. She fed the children and bathed them. When the two weeks had passed, she no longer complained about the
Communication is a source of delivering messages form one to another. Through communication people share their ideas, feelings, thoughts and emotions. Man carries out his needs and also helps others by knowing each other.
Communication is essential to human life. Every aspect of our daily lives is affected by our communication with others. It can be different types such as verbal, nonverbal and written communication. It is indeed a complex process filled with countless elements, all of which play an important role. The process of communication between human beings has been studied and analyzed outwardly since the beginning of time. The term itself cannot be defined in only one particular way because communication exists in a certain context and is dependable on the communicator and the audience. Example of describing communication is as “the transmission of information, ideas, attitudes or emotions from one person or group to another (or others) primarily through symbols” and “social interaction through messages” (McQuail, 1993). Furthermore, Watson and Hill describe the process of communication as “one which begins when a message is thought up by a sender, who then encodes the message before transmitting it through a particular channel to a receiver, who in turn decodes the message with a certain effect as an outcome” (Price, 1998).The complexity of the whole process is seen through the use of verbal and nonverbal communication on a daily basis, as well as the ability to interact with other human beings on multiple levels, mentally and emotionally. We begin communicating the moment we come out of the womb and do not stop communicating until death. This essay will try to compare and contrast two different communication contexts- interpersonal and mass communication, by using relevant communication models.