Applying Adler and Horney's Theories to My Life

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Now that I have discussed the major events that took place throughout my life until where I am now, I would have to say that the two theorists along with their theories that relate most to my life are Alfred Adler and Karen Horney. I am going to start with Adler; his theory is called individual psychology. “This stresses the wholeness and uniqueness of each person as he or she struggles to overcome feelings or inferiority by aspiring toward some future goal” (Hergenhahn, Olson & Cramer, 2014 p. 123). For Adler’s theory on individual personality the first point I am going to discuss is his view on inferiority. In class I learned that Adler grew up with an older brother, thus leaving him to develop feelings of inferiority and causing him to always …show more content…

I believe that events in my life can relate to these topics. The first event I will be discussing which is related to Horney is parent-child relationships. As discussed above, my parents got divorced when I was twelve years old leaving me to become emotionally and mentally scarred. During the divorce there was emotional abuse that was mainly directed towards me through my dad, there was also addiction problems where my dad was concerned. Due to the emotional abuse and addiction I found myself developing what Horney would call basic hostility towards my dad. Basic hostility is defined as “a feeling generated in a child if needs for safety and satisfaction are not consistently and lovingly satisfied by the parents” (Hergenhahn, Olson & Cramer, 2014 p. 454). What this means is that I could no longer depend on my dad to take care of me and I no longer looked to him for comfort, in a sense I lost all respect for my dad. Throughout my parent’s divorce and developing basic hostility towards my dad I also found myself developing basic anxiety. What this means is that I no longer trusted anyone but myself because I thought that they would all do the same thing that my own dad did to me, and I still believe that to this day. This left myself moving away from people and creating an invisible bubble around myself, what this means is that I can now only depend on myself. I need to be independent, in control, and everything needs to be perfect. For example, I have a hard time committing in relationships because I do not want to get emotionally attached to someone and them emotional traumatizing me again. It took a toll on me when my dad did it, I do not need it again. Throughout these events I also became somewhat of a perfectionist. What I mean by this is that I have the need to have everything right, and if its not I will sit down wherever I am and

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