It's So Much Work To Be Your Student

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The statement “children with social skill problems become adults with social skill problems” hit me hard. Before I watched the video “It’s so Much Work to be your Friend”, I just thought that students with social skill problems only struggled in school situations where everything almost evolves around good communication skills. So, I thought after the student got out of school, all of these problems would disappear, but I was wrong. I learned that these students brought over some of the same struggles that they had to deal with in school, into adulthood. The movie mentioned that students who have a social skill problem, often have problems with proxemics, vocalics, artifactual systems, and kinesics. These problems could lead to devastating …show more content…

The movie said that 93% of how we communicate with each other is just through paralinguistics and this includes gestors, posture and tone. If a student has a hard time understanding nonverbal language, they normally have a hard time understanding sarcasm and also would have a hard time at picking up facial cues which would cause the student to take everything word for word. A good example of this from the movie is when the speaker said “You guys are a great audience” in a sarcastic tone. This shows that the words mean one thing, but the tone means something totally different. A student with poor social skills probably would take the message word for word and misunderstand what the speaker was trying to say completely. This same thing could happen in the school setting with a student misunderstanding a different student because of their use of sarcasm. A powerful example in the movie of a student not being able to read facial and body gestors was a story about a young boy who was driving his toy truck back and forth across his desk. The teacher soon became annoyed with it, so she glared at him to stop but he did not. She then crossed her arms and frowned at him, but he still did not stop. Finally, she yelled at him to stop so he did. All of the other students were confused why he did not stop earlier before she got really angary but because of the student’s poor social skills, he was unable to pick up on the facial and body signals that the teacher

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