Before reading this paper one needs to know a little about me, Megan Koons. I am the youngest of three girls, my oldest sister is six years older than me and my middle sister is four years older than me. My parents are together and have been all my life. Growing up I saw my sisters fight and so I knew what not to do and got along wonderfully with both my sisters. I saw my oldest sister fight with my mom and my middle sister fight with my dad, so again I knew how to not make me parents mad and got along with them wonderfully as well. This paper will focus on a set of questions answered by my mother.
I started out with a broad question asking her to describe our relationship in high school in her own words. Her response was “We had a close and
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Why so much or why so little? She replied with “We trusted you immensely. You knew who you were, and believed in yourself. How could we not trust you.” Which lead right into my next question about freedom. I asked why would you say you gave me so much freedom? And she responded with “maybe it had something do to with being the 3rd child but it wasn’t because we spoiled you, no matter what your sister’s say. You knew our expectations and watched how things went with the older two. You learned and showed us the respect that earned you your freedom.” We have talked about and heard that the order of birth does have an effect on how you were raised and I couldn’t agree more. As mentioned in the introduction I saw a lot of what not to does in my class that lead me to have such great relationships with my family …show more content…
The first question I asked about this was did you ever fear I was falling into the wrong crowd? She said, “We can HONESTLY say NO! That was never a fear of mine despite who you dated.” My choices of boyfriends in high school was never very smart but again my parents never interfered and let me work it out or find it out on my own. Then I asked did you see my personality change with who I was hanging out with? She replied with “No, your personality never changed with who you hung out with. YOU WERE ALWAYS YOU!! That is why you didn’t hang with some of the other girls in your class because they WERE that way.” Finally I asked did you think my friends in high school were positive influences on me or not? Again she had a similar response of one she had before “Yes they were cause they helped you become a stronger you! I was always impressed with the way you handled both sides of a situation and didn’t jump off the
She would mostly be alone and sit by herself being buried in books or watching cartoons. In high school she attended a program for troubled adolescents and from there she received a wide range of support from helping her get braces to helping her get information to attend community college. (59) Even with this she was already too emotionally unstable due to her family issues and felt like she couldn’t go through with her dreams to travel and even go into the art of culinary. She suffers from psychological problems such as depression and worries constantly about almost every aspect in her life from work to family to her boyfriend and just hopes that her life won’t go downhill. (60) Overall Kayla’s family structure shows how different is it now from it was in the 1950’s as divorce rates have risen and while before Kayla’s type of family structure was rare now it is becoming more common. This story helps illustrate the contributions of stress that children possess growing up in difficult homes in which they can’t put their own futures first they must, in some cases, take care of their guardian’s futures first or others around them. Again, this adds into the inequality that many face when it comes to being able to climb up the ladder and become successful regardless of where one
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She felt that I maintained eye contact and reiterated her responses in a way to made her feel heard. The open-ended questions that I had integrated into the interview allowed her to realize the inconsistencies between her current behavior and her future goals. I big point from her was that I allowed her to do majority of the talking which she believed put her in control and that I wasn’t forcing her into a particular direction of change. She could tell that I wasn’t completely confident in the way that I asked my questions, using a lot of “um’s” and “so’s “. We also discussed how she felt about the amount of pauses I took in order to respond and how this made for a awkward silence, taking away the comfort of the setting. It was also brought up that I could have used more empathy when responding to her as it would of let her knew that I am taking into account the difficulty of the change for
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I interviewed a fifty-five year old female named Theresa Geis. She is married to Robert Geis and they have four daughters including me. They reside in Denver, Colorado with one daughter still in the house. Theresa graduated with a master’s degree in teaching with a focus in special education. She grew up in Greeley, CO but enjoys Denver and where she is currently at. Theresa and Robert have had the same house in Denver for twenty-one years now and have recently bought a cabin in Estes Park which is on the border of Rocky Mountain National Park.
My parents always treated my peers as if they were their own kids and they always had a perfect bond. My parent’s interaction with the school was quite overwhelming. They always went to my parent- teacher conferences, volunteered when we had student activities, helped out in school when help was need. They bonded with the teachers very well and even outside of school they maintained communication. Every single day when my siblings and I got home from school, mom would sit down with us after dinner and help us with homework and to study. She always found a way to make homework and studying entertaining and not boring. My community would make tournaments and have activities for the kids to go and participate. Including but not limited to basketball tournaments and coloring contests. When it came to having field day at school, my community would help support it by volunteering, making sure we were safe and having fun. When there were soccer games and baseball games at school, people from my community would come and cheer for the kids playing. There was never a dull moment when it came to the kids in the community. The community always seemed to have something in mind for us. The mesosystem showed how having family/friend together helped a child’s growth in a positive
Parent-child relationship is a key in the adolescent developmental process. As a psychologist, I would educate parents about Erikson's psychosocial theory in order to nurture and facilitate healthy development. Teens show a dramatic change in their behavior around their parents when they are transitioning from children to adolescents. This is the time when they're starting to separate from their parents and become more independent. Teens this age are increasingly aware of how their friends see them a...
For my oral history I decided to interview my mother. My mom’s life is filled with so many interesting stories and they always take me to another place. I chose her because I wanted to more, I wanted to see if my mother was more like me when I was younger. Mother was a straight A student in high school and involved in many clubs. She was born and bred in Cleveland, she grew up in a different and exciting time; it was the eighties. Here is my mom in not so many words :
It seemed like a normal day when I entered Mrs. A’s AP Language and Composition class, but little did I know that she was going to assign a very important project that was going to take forever. I took my seat and wrote down what was on the board. Then I sat patiently and waited for Mrs. A to come explain what we were doing today. When the tardy bell rang, Mrs. A glided into the room and gave us all a stack of papers. She then proceeded to discuss our upcoming assignment, a memoir. As she explained the very important assignment, I wondered whom I would write about. No one really came to mind to write about and I thought for sure I would never be able to get this thing done on time. I finally decided that I would write in on my mother, Kari Jenson. I knew I would probably put the project off until the very end and do it the weekend before even though it would get on my mom’s nerves. Putting work off was just how I did everything, it worked for me. When I arrived home from school that day, I told mom about the project. I told her I would most likely write it about her and she was overjoyed.
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Emma Sorbring stated it best when she said that a teenager would be willing to disclose their experiences with their parents if they have always had good experiences talking things over with them and