Haidt believes that we can gain positive benefits from adversity, but only under the right circumstances. First, the person must successfully make sense of the situation. Meaning they must cope with the situation well. The two appropriate coping styles are action and rehearsal. People who are naturally optimist are more likely to use these to coping style and benefit from adversity. These people expect that their work will pay off, so they continue to work even when it becomes difficult. Pessimistic people are more likely to use the avoidance coping style which makes them less likely to deal with their adversity. They end up managing their pain instead of dealing with it. The key is to draw constructive lessons for your adversity. Second, people who express their …show more content…
The optimal age to experience adversity is late teens to early twenties. If the person it too young, they will become overly vigilant and distrusting. Too old, and the person will not be resilient enough to overcome the adversity in a beneficial way. Throughout all of this, we see that the key to adversity is fully overcoming it by searching for useful, constructive lessons. The message above is overly simple. It says that we can do it, which Haidt would agree with, but it gives no tools. Haidt would say that we can do it only if we have the proper affective style, age, and support network. It is not always fully your choice whether something gets you down or not. You could have a negative affective style, or not be at the right age to deal with your adversity. As far as “you can do it” Haidt would agree that this is true, anyone can overcome adversity, but it is once again not that simple. Every person is different and those difference effect how much we can benefit from a situation. In short, I think that would technically agree with this statement, but would agree that it is not that simple. It is not just not letting it get you down, it is what you are able to pull
I believe you can be positive during a conflict. When being positive during a conflict, a better outcome will occur. For example, 6 million people died from a tragic event, the Holocaust. Many lives were lost, a majority were frightened, and most were hopeless. Yet, some people stayed positive during this horrible time.
Once, a wise soul has spoken, “Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful”. Adversity means having troubles and difficulties. It’s what you need to persevere through in order to do something you’ve wanted to do for a long time. If you want to pass that test, you’ve gotta conquer your fears and fight through all the troubles that arrive in front of you. Become your own hero. Adversity is a situation that took place in the novel “The Outsiders”, by S.E. Hinton.
Adversities are often given a negative connotation and view, as most consider them to be hurdles which impede progress. Nevertheless when taken in and accepted under a positive light, adversities can serve as stepping stones through which an individual can better their character. In the face of looming obstacles individuals who persevere come out of the situation as stronger, determined, and more hopeful for the future.
Adversity can be defined as a state or instance of serious or continued difficulty or misfortune. Many things in life can bring one adversity, however some are faced with more adversity in their lives than others. Overcoming this adversity can be one of the most difficult things that a person encounters, and at times, it may consume them. People attempt to persevere through adversity in many different ways. One of the most effective ways is to keep pushing through and to never give up. If one loses sight of what is driving them to persevere through adversity, it will swallow them up with no remorse. Staying mentally tough and focused on an end goal is how people not only persevere, but thrive through adversity.
Having a positive outlook can be very important when being involved in a conflict or trying to solve one. This is how Anne Frank and Louise Ogawa from First Read: Dear Miss Breed got through the roughest times of their lives. They kept a positive outlook on things and tried to make the best of the worst. Just looking on the bright side, even if it feels like there isn’t one can make a huge difference. As a great thinker, such as Joyce Meyer, once said, ‘’A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances, having power over you’’. If they did not maintain a positive outlook, then who knows how they would have survived. Having a positive outlook gives you the strength to keeping going
Mr. Green said, “The real hero’s journey from strength to weakness.” Surprisingly the uniquely unwanted situations created by these phases is the best part of the game called “life.” It is the journey that matters, because the harsh truth is, that the destination of human kind is death. A great example of one of these phases would be a college student graduating and stepping into the real world. The strength in is this particular situation is the college degree that is obtained by the student and just the feeling of being at a good point in life and just the great satisfaction , until of course the weaknesses slowly builds with time in this entirely new phase called reality. Many students come to realize after college that the amount of money they need to pay back in student loans is extremely enormous and that to for a person that doesn’t have a job. On top of that in the real world, you’re nobody with no identity and most the time people just don’t care for you. So you start to feel worthless even with a college degree and you just have no support system to guide you to your comfort zone. However there is good news also. Mr. Green says that due to the situation, it will help a person not be a jerk. Which is always good to have morality on your side. In this stage of life a person has to work hard make his/her identity and become self-motivated to find a great job. Which helps a person grow in their experience in their field. These stages only do well for people and makes them a stronger person. Every phase is like a test once you pass you’re ready to start again on the bottom of the next phase. Then the cycle just repeats and this will help you empathize or even be a mentor to a
Other coping styles to acknowledge are optimism versus pessimism, where optimism is positively related to coping strategies that enhances adaptation to changed circumstances and overall psychological well-being. Studies showed that the psychosocial adjustment of optimistic individuals are higher (Miller, Manne, Taylor, Keates and Dougherty, 1996). Individual who resort to repression uses avoidance as a coping strategy in an effort to not have to deal with the threat (Krohne, 1996). When an individual exercise self-restraint or cognitive restraint as a coping mechanism, they and place themselves in control of the threat. This coping strategy also show a high correlation with psychosocial adaptation (Manne et al,
Horace is a Roman Poet. He states “Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which is prosperous circumstances would have lain dormant”. This means that when you are going through afflictions, your strengths and talents tend to show more than during easier times. I agree with Horace’s statement because people have more emotion when they are going through tough situations. People like artists, actresses and actors, singer, etc. Adversity means difficult or distressed moments in one’s life.
A person’s character is developed by the surroundings around them as well as their experiences. The Roman poet Horace quotes “…Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents in which in prosperous circumstances would have lain dormant…” I agree with the Roman poet, Horace, in that adversity has a way of waking talent from slumber. Adversity can encourage people in ways success and wealth cannot, as there is a benefit in the hardship. In Henrietta Lacks, by Rebecca Skloot, as well as Macbeth, by Shakespeare, adversity has developed the characters. From my observation, I strongly agree that experiences, such as hardship and danger, shape a person.
Adversity affects people’s characters and personalities every day. Although adversity may not affect everyone, an abundance of individuals are affected every day. I have faced adversity in my life. Ever since I was little I have been playing soccer, and every day I have been trying to get better and better. My sister plays soccer as well and I have been compared to her my whole life. Being compared has changed me into a more hard-working individual and made me a better person as a whole. See, adversity does not always change people for the worse. Sometimes, like in my case, it can coerce people into becoming stronger. Adversity shapes a person’s character through displaying different forms, altering individuals for better or worse, and encircling
“Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which in prosperous circumstances would have lain dormant- Horace.” After analyzing this quotation about adversity from the Roman Poet Horace, it is evident that his assentation about the role that adversity plays in developing a person’s character is accurate because without some sort of hardships or trial majority of the celebrities and population wouldn’t have been as successful. For example, world renowned soccer players, Walt Disney, Famous authors, and more wouldn’t have been prosperous without their misfortune pushing and inspiring them to want a better life for themselves.
Success without adversity is impossible. Everyone in life has their ups and downs and nothing in this world is perfect. At some point in life, hardships begin to occur and that’s when the real test begins. Some people rise up and try their absolute best to take a stand against the challenge. Then there are others that would crawl back into their shells, crying for mercy. There should be no excuse for giving up or not putting in the effort. People are only successful in winning the battle of adversity when they are mentally tough. The intense game of adversity can be referred to football.
It is stated in the article, How People Learn To Become Resilient “But the remaining third developed into ‘competent, confident, and caring young adults.’ They had attained academic, domestic, and social success—and they were always ready to capitalize on new opportunities that arose” (Konnikova). Although there had been children growing up in the same conditions there was a handful that became people you wouldn’t have thought they were capable of becoming. The children all had been facing the same adversity, so why did only one third become better people than they started off as? The answer is simple, they had the drive and capability to overcome the adversity instead of submitting to it. Instead of being content with the life they were given, they sought out to create opportunities for themselves and it benefitted them immensely. In the article The Deafening Silence Nancy Johnson states: “I dreaded speaking” and “Soon I’d drive home to take my place at the anchor’s desk or in the field…”. The two quotes are said at two points in Johnson's life; the first, when she was a young child and afraid to speak, and the second, when she was an adult with more confidence she thought she was capable of. The adversity faced may seem trivial to others, but the effort taken to overcome the adversity is exceptional. It may seem that she gained resilience from other people, but she gained her confidence from within, although it cannot be seen. Johnson could have easily succumbed to her adversity, but because of her will to achieve her dream, she overcame her fears and has fulfilled her wishes. No matter what the adversity may be, if the person has enough will, they can overcome and live a life they are content with. Although people have the ability to overcome adversities and be
Overcoming adversity is imperative. In fact, you can 't have the happiness and success you want unless you have adversity in your life and overcome it. It is essential for progressing into who you want to be. It shows you what you are made of. It teaches you more about yourself, how to approach what you want, and how to maintain the success that you have. Without it, you wouldn 't know how far you could go or how capable you are because you wouldn 't have anything to push you or compare to.
People don't truly accept life for what it is until they've actually tasted adversity and went through those misfortunes and suffering. We are put through many hardships in life, and we learn to understand and deal with those issues along the way. We find that life isn't just about finding one's self, but about creating and learning from our experiences and background. Adversity shapes what we are and who we become as individuals. Yann Martel's Life of Pi shows us that adverse situations help shape a person's identity and play a significant role in one's lief by determining one's capabilities and potential, shaping one's beliefs and values, and defining the importance and meaning of one's self.