Four Facets Of Parenting

When it comes to the idea of being a parent and raising children there are numerous ways in which fathers and mothers can rear their kids. This paper will identify four of those ways and my personal beliefs and biases towards the four different aspects of parenting. It is important to clarify that there is no one perfect way to nurture a child and this is an opinionated piece. The four facets of parenting that I’ll be critiquing include parenting styles (authoritarian to permissive), attachment theory, behavior vs. relational parenting styles, and punishment (specifically spanking). There are four tenets that exist in the overview of different parenting styles that vary from extremely rigid and strict to relaxed and indulgent towards the behaviors
The characterization of these four parenting styles is identified by their levels of control and structure, in addition to the degree of warmth the parent and child have. Control and Structure are classified as high or low. Parents with a high perception of control and structure might develop inflexible rules that govern a child’s life while parents with a low conception of control and structure might have rules but aren’t enforced. Warmth is best classified as the manner in which parents and children interact together and must be perceived by both parent and child. For example, a warm connection between a parent and young child could be when the child is hugged and showered with affection, both physically and verbally, after playing well with other kids and not hitting or bitting another kid. The most intolerant of the parenting styles are considered authoritarian parenting and is characterized by the parent's high sense of control and structure within the family combined with low warmth. Authoritarian parents can be unrealistic and unjust with the enforcement of their rules and in combination with the distant emotional attachment parents implementing an authoritarian style might provoke resentment from their children. Second is the authoritative style of parenting, distinguished as a
The Attachment Theory suggests that as a children interact with their parents they begin to develop perceptions of relationships have lasting consequences into adulthood. Basic Attachment Theory pushes four principles (secure, preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant) guided by two competencies (anxiety and avoidance). A child who was consistently provided for in an endearing manner is more likely to have a secure attachment where the child isn’t likely to avoid relationships and have low anxiety about being abandoned. A preoccupied attached child wouldn’t stray from relationships yet will be pensive about being abandon by any friends they make. Preoccupied attachment occurs when parents meet the need of their child but in varying ways; at times the interaction between parent and child is comforting and other times it is hostile. When parents don’t meet a child’s needs at all and are absent in care a child is anticipated to develop a dismissive-avoidant attachment. The child doesn’t seek relations nor does the care about the abandonment of relationships. Last is fearful avoidant attachment, this evolves as the parents inconsistently meet the needs of the child but remain consistent in their interactions albeit warm or cold. The confusion of caused in this relationship causes the child to avoid relations because of the