Love is a strong affection for another individual based on personal ties according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary. Love has mean definitions throughout the world we live in today. In some cultures, love has been defined as the sexual devotion of a mother for her child and in other cultures the essence of love was the chaste devotion of a knight for another man’s wife(pg520). Although love has many definitions and interpretations it can be looked at in two perspectives. One perspective which is rooted in practical help and affection. Also, another perspective that only focuses on affection. In the perspective which practical help and some affection shows love for a person the individuals have to be in a mutually beneficial relationship were …show more content…
One view comes from Nancy Chodorow who defines the idea of love in feminine qualities. Mary Ryan suggests that love was feminized by the separation of home and workplace in the nineteenth century (522). Nancy Chodorow view was that at birth males and females have a strong attachment with their mothers. As both children grow differences take place in the male since they have to men they repress their capacity for intimacy but, in females they keep the connection for intimacy as they grow up to be women (522). Also Chodorow discussed that men see themselves as separate although women see themselves as connected to others and this cycle will continue if women continue to be the primary caretaker. Mary Ryan discussed that love began to be feminized as a result of the separation between men and women at home. Ryan’s perspective argued that both men and women were expected to work hard, be modest, and loving towards their spouse and children who basically stated that love was a reciprocal ideal (pg522 para3). Once capitalism came about money making left the household. The activities between men and women grew apart as the man worked all day to provide for his family while the woman stayed home with the children. As this separation grew more and more apart the world began to view the loving and personal environment at home as feminine and the powerful impersonal environment of the workplace to be masculine. …show more content…
A study in the late 1970’s showed that husbands had a greater need in taking responsibility to make sure all of the spouse’s needs were put first, and that they were spending an adequate amount of time together. Men focuses on practical help because that’s his way of showing is love towards his wife and kids. Men also separate sex and love even though they believe that sexual intercourse is the most meaningful way of giving love. In studies it has been stated by men that they feel very close to the wife and kids after intercourse and that they feel like a real family after that. The romantic attitude is another example of men’s love for their partner and in society men tend to be more romantic than women. This evidence is adequate to support Cancian’s claims of the utility of both forms. In some perspectives they clearly explain that the practical help and other expressions of love are just as equal as expressing
In the section Women Men Leave, the authors state that “when we know what affects relationships, we are then able to change them.” They elaborate more on how people assume love is too special and too fragile to tamper with, yet the reality is that love is governed not by quirks of fate, but by particular psychologies, ways of understanding and predicting how people will behave in certain conditions. They emphasize on the importance of understanding the dynamics of love. The need for commitment has brought with it a lot of concerns including women assuming men do not want to, but these authors present information about just what it is in a woman that makes a man want to commit to her. Some basic but poorly understood differences between sexes account for many of the confusions and tensions that arise in relationships, like how men do not have a biological clock that might drive them into reordering their priorities. Given separateness and attachment, there is a built in clash between bonding zones. Women feel both comfortable and fulfilled when they are close to the attachment end of the scale while men would rather be somewhere in the middle. Fear of rejection, abandonment, loss and one’s identity are also reasons why men would not commit. Withholding love and understanding so as to avoid exploitation by men leads to increased fear in women and resentment from men. The authors expand on how
Love. Probably the most exhilarating, fascinating, incredible experiences humans have the opportunity to have. It is natures beautiful way of keeping the human species alive, and prospering. A cocktail of chemicals in our brain entices us to fall in love. It takes between approximately 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide you are interested in someone. When you experience being in love your adrenaline kicks in (the chemical responsible for the butterflies in your stomach and your heart racing), your serotonin level rises causing you to constantly think of your new found love interest, and your dopamine level rises (the chemical responsible for desire and reward). You need the perfect amounts of all these chemicals to feel in love, too much or
According to Prothero and Loxton (2010) popular psychology contributes to perpetuating the myth that opposites attract is considered a “cultural landscape”. This is where people use intuition or subjective evidence to help others. There are many films, novels, and TV shows that display romantic relationships with opposites falling in an unbinding love. An example of this is the film Knocked Up (2007), where this is romantic matching of people mismatching. Giving the impression that opposites attract, there was a statistic found by Lynn McCutcheon that 77% undergraduates agreed that opposites attract in relationships. It is stated in this excerpt that interpersonal relationships, opposites don’t attract. The typical Type A personality life
From the daily actions of the husband in daily lives, we can see that his blindness to love hampers his definition of love into simple consideration. And such superficial love directly accumulates dissatisfaction and it is unleashed by the love test. His husband’s attention to do the housework appears when he “overheard a friend of his wife 's congratulate her on having such a considerate husband.” (1, Tobias
Three articles were chosen based on love and marriage and analyzed to the book. In one of the articles “What Married Woman Want” by Stan Guthrie interviews a sociologist Brad Wilcox on his study of married women. The article reads that women are the happiest in their marriage when they receive emotional engagement from their husband. In Chapman’s book he states that women and men have a primary love language that fulfills their love tank. The five love languages Chapman discloses are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, and Quality Time. Guthrie however argues that as long as women are provided with love, affectionate, and empathy she is the happiest. I found it interesting to read that she had stated that women prefer their husband’s emotional engagement rather than acts of service “We have to recognize that for the average American marriage, it matters a lot more whether the husband is emotionally in tune with his wife than whether he's doing, say, half the dishes or half the laundry” (Stan Guthrie, What Ma...
Almost everyone has experienced love whether they knew it or not. I feel like it is something all of us want. There are different types of love: Friendship love, relationship love, and family love. A lot of people have a hard time expressing love in words. Everyone experiences it differently, the main thing is that we know what is love, and what is not. Society has screwed the meaning of love up. They have twisted, and perverted the meaning. There are now girls who think being hit is a form of love. If someone really loves you, they will respect you. The world and Christians have two totally different meanings of love. So I want to show both sides of love.
True love is having an absolute devotion and everlasting admiration for your significant other. True love is not a temporary sensation that will end up vanishing over time. For some people it true love is a fairy-tale and for others true love is a dream come true. In order for two individuals to even entertaining the thought of becoming married, they must experience true love first. In the “Passionate Shepherd to his Love”, some of the readers see Marlowe’s poem as an indirect proposal to a woman he feels much affection towards. I believe that this is not the case at all; I believe that Marlowe is trying his best to false advertise his real feelings about the woman, in order to seduce her.
Many people have different perspectives when it comes to the topic of love. The word love has been tossed around by everybody and not very many people really understand the true meaning of love. There are some exceptions, but I think this is especially true for teenagers and young adults. I might be one of those people who do not fully understand the topic of love, but I hope to better understand the topic of love and its true meaning is this course.
There are many positive things and negative things about the movie and the story. In the movie
When I was about three or four, my parents had both their church and my grandparent’s church pray over me. My mother is fond of telling this story to me because we’re a religious family, and she says that it sets up a good example of what prayer can really do. She told me that most of the congregation had laid their hands on me, one by one, to pray that God would change me into a more kind and loving child. Whenever I think back on that particular story, the song “The Power of Love” sung by Huey Louis, always runs through my mind, and reminds of the power of love my family had for me.
What is love? Love is a very special and meaningful word to each human being. Each human being has his/her own thoughts about love to guide himself/herself to land safely and smoothly into the kingdom of Love. Without this preconceived idea of love, people would be acting like a blind person searching for the light with thousand of obstacles in front of him.
Do you believe in true love? It is at the core of every Fairy Tale imaginable. Fairy Tales usually begin with a charming prince and a beautiful princess intertwining in a miraculous tale of romance and wonder with an evil figure that must be defeated in order for the two to live happily ever after. With that being said, it doesn't seem to be too realistic or like it could be present in modern day America, or anywhere in the world for that matter, so I choose not to believe that it may exist.
Do you believe in a relationship that doesn’t involve two people being in love? I’m pretty sure most people will claim that this kind of relationship will go nowhere, that there is no future to it. But do we really need to share our lives with a person that we are madly in love with to be happy? That ONLY relationship with two people being in love will last forever? I don’t think so.
What does it mean to finish what we start? That we are to tie up loose ends, reach the finish line, or perhaps even to finish by ceremony. I have a story to tell, one that changed my entire life, that defined who I am as a person.
Fifth grade started it all, the pain the lied beneath my journal was more than descriptive words it was my story. At the age of ten, my uncle was addicted my body type he used to just stared at my figure, and when I would catch him staring he would pretend to not care. When I turned twelve he showed my porn for the first time, that was the first time I wrote about something so detail it made me cry. “A piece of me wanted to sink into the floor he was stroking my hands, my heart couldn’t take no more.” He asked me one question that is piercing in my heart to this day, “do you like what you see” I promise myself to obey. I listen to his every command and went to my room I fell asleep listening to his secular music he was giving my heart the blues.