My good friend said that, “counseling is a way to get rid of evil”. I didn’t quite understand what she meant by her statement, at the time, but now going through my counseling sessions, I get it. Her statement or quote means to let go of what is troubling something you, then, now, or in the past to be able to vent out to someone that is completely not bias or one sided. I guess maybe this not the right answer to the testimony that my friend said but I realize that counseling for me has been a way to vent and understand myself. Even though, my friend’s quote stuck out to me and was thought provoking my feelings towards doing the counseling sessions was something that I did not want to do. I dreaded and dislike the thought that I felt that
That was doubt was my own collection of not having my own self-gratification. I needed to realize that I needed to have own “self-talk” meaning I needed to really sit down with myself or when I was in a situation and practically talk to myself to ensure that was person of quality and substance. Also, it gave me chance for self-medication, and recognize that I’m a person with a voice (even though I’m not perfect) to use to help others that are going through what I had gone through. This realization was in my seventh session. I dealt continued to deal with not making the progress of accepting that my behaviors are not helping to succeed. So to me I think that I was growing but also weathering
I feel now that I’m on the right tract to making sure that I’m the best person that I could be. The more and more that I figure out that I have the capability to succeed with killing myself is great feeling. The more and more that I think of my friend and her quote, “counseling is a way to get rid of evil” and I felt that getting rid of this evil was getting rid of some the baggage that I have. I think about my friend said each day. I really feel that she insight to your experience made me more conformable to confront my own experiences that I’m going through. I just know now that I can make a difference in myself without the guilt of feeling that I’m selfish or have an ego. I know that now through self-talk that I can be a better me. That I know that I can be a person with quality and
In conclusion, after reading this essay you should be better able to help your friends and loved ones with the problems they may face through the use of psycho therapy. You should be able to pick one or more of the four types of therapy and choose one that is right for you and your personality, combined with the situation you are faced with. Who knows, you might even become famous for your talents someday.
feedback of my counselor. I found this beneficial in helping me reflect on the information
Cloe Madanes once said psychotherapy is the art of finding the angel of hope in the midst of terror, despair and madness.
¬When considering what my own personal philosophy of counseling would be, it was eye opening to consider who I was a person and how much I have grown. The self analysis was new to me because I never thought about how I do that on a day to day basis. Reviewing the questions I found that a lot of my focus surrounded family, my significant other, and close friends. Constantly living in a diverse population and having that as my surrounding also made its mark in my answers. I also noted that both past and present influences, but primarily the present, play a large role in my own perspective. By following the prompt, I was made to understand that my thought process makes me think of what is occurring in the present and how I can alter these happenings to help shape the future that I want.
Your therapist will not judge or try to interpret what you say, but may restate your words in an attempt to fully understand your thoughts and feelings. When you hear your own words repeated back to you, you may then wish to self-edit and clarify your meaning. This may happen several times until you decide that you have expressed exactly what you are thinking and how you feel. There may be moments of silence to allow your thoughts to sink in. This client-focused process facilitates your self-discovery, self-acceptance, and a provides a means toward healing and positive growth. Person-centered therapy was a movement away from the therapist’s traditional role—as an expert and leader—toward a process that allows clients to use their own understanding of their experiences as a platform for
.... This is where the freedom comes in. If the Therapist were to force something on the client by saying this is what's wrong, and here is how you fix it, they might head in the right direction at first, but not because of their own will. By allowing them to make a conscious effort to help themselves it will mean more and last longer. In reading this book I learned a lot about the way existential therapy works, and how I can go about helping people that come to me for advise. Not only do I understand that people have the freedom to make there own choices, but also now I understand that people have the freedom of responsibility which allows them to change their lives and better themselves.
Seligman, L., & Reichenberg, L. W. (2014). Theories of Counseling and Psychotherapy, Systems, Strategies, and Skills (4th Edition). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc.
Let the stream begin. Some body, some things, life and me, communicated the idea to talk now, not to leave it, to stay, and face up to the past, the places, the people, the pain, the many reasons why I left my home and family, all those years ago, to become a drug addict, an alcoholic, a wanderer, move nomadically from house to house, year to year, to live inside a prison, real and imaginary. I met hell. I met the devil. I met them both inside my head. I found out the hard way that humans could easily imagine evil. The path forward comes from the push to write and to deal. Yes, I felt happy in between the miserable spaces. My family helped me to survive and still do now, even more so than before. Without them, I would not exist, for in the darkest moments I realised that they kept me breathing. I want the virtual picket fence, ideal partner, children and career. They may or may not eventuate. Now as I regroup, look upon me with sober, straight and clear eyes, I can have anything. I walk to a lake, to sense nature, to allow the anxiety to live on these pages, to take shape, and mould into a form that speaks atonement.
Values, Morals, and Beliefs are components that play a role in an individual’s self-identity. The establishment of these components shape human nature, behavior, and the development of an individual’s purpose. The basis of these fundamentals has contributed to my desire to become a counselor. This paper will discuss my views of human nature, factors of behavior changes, goals of therapy, the roles of a therapist, and the counseling approaches that I chose to incorporate in a practice.
When I initially found out that we would be required to make an appointment for a success consultation, I was not expecting the experience to be helpful. After hearing that these meetings have been designed to help students improve their performance in their classes and enhance their study skills, among other things, I was convinced that this would be a cookie cutter experience for everyone. However, I was pleasantly surprised to find out that this consultation would not be focused on the stereotypical study and success skills such as going to class and not procrastinating. Instead, it presented me with the opportunity to reflect on my overall success throughout my college career thus far, and gave me the opportunity to set long term and short
The counseling session began with the introductions where I introduced myself as the counselor and later introduced my client. This stage is important in any counseling session since it is the time of exploration and focusing according to Gerard Egan as quoted by Wright (1998) in his essay on couselling skills. It is in this session that I was able to establish rapport and trust with my client in order to come up with a working and fruitful relationship with him. During this stage I made use of skills like questioning, where I would pose a question directly to my client, sometimes I would choose to just listen to what the client wanted to speak out while in some instances I would be forced to paraphrase the question if I felt the client did not understand the question I had asked previously. There were also other times when I would reflect through silence. During such a period, I got time to study the client and the information he had given. This being a difficult area, since some clients may not be able to volunteer information to you as the counselor, I decided to assure the client of confidentiality of any information he was willing to share with me with a few exceptions which I also told him about. Being open to him about the only times the information may not be confidential was part of my building rapport and establishing trust with him. I therefore, decided to ask the client what information he wanted to share with me and lucky enough he was ready to speak to me about different issues that he was going through.
This leads to the question of, “How do people change?” Self-awareness of one’s current plight, whether it is internally or externally, and an intense desire to discover new ways of living are two main ingredients to spur change. People must be fully aware that their current behavior is causing more harm than good in their lives. And on the same token, discovering that there are alternative ways of living can also make people change. However, in order for change to actually occur, people must be willing to live out new ways of behaving and thinking. For people who want to make changes, but find it difficult to make a step, a counselor can help facilitate change through encouragement and various self-empowering
Corey, G. (2011). Theory and practice of counseling and psychotherapy. (ninth ed., pp. 291-301). Belmont, CA: Brooks/Cole.
This is possible as it contains a step-by-step method that an be taught to the client and further applied outside of therapy sessions. The method can be simplified to follow the small actions of attitude adjustment, problem definition, creating alternate solutions, outcome prediction and fulfilling the chosen path (Dobson, 2009, p. 212). Altering the attitude to being positive about the problem is crucial as it sets the mental state to place in which motivation to solve the problem can thrive. Furthermore, defining the problem realistically is vital as it allows the individual to understand the full scope of what a realistic goal for overcoming the problem may be. From there the client must create alternate possible routes for them to undertake to possibly solve the problem. The Client must then assess the alternate solutions, predict the positive and negative outcomes and pick the best perceived option. Finally, the client must then try out the chosen path. They should monitor the situation and to understand progress. It is important that if the client does not receive a successful outcome that they do not give up. Rather they should repeat the cycle until a positive outcome takes place, considering any additional information gain from this
This stood out to me for a variety of reasons. Empathizing with the idea that a client may seek feedback and advice from the counselor, I was confused and disagreed that a counselor should refrain from such actions. This initially did not sit with me well because I am a naturally indecisive person and when faced with a difficult decision, I will seek the counsel of others. I appreciate the wisdom, perspective, and insight they have on a situation. It often frustrates me when people will not outrightly tell me what they think I should do or what they would do in my situation.