egan Krachkowski
Writing Assignment 9
Young adults in college typically are not looking for commitment, but rather a positive sexual experience. Two outlets for this preference are friends with benefits (FWB) and hookups. Hookups involve two people engaging in sexual activity with the foreknowledge that there are “no strings attached”. For people who actively avoid commitment, and emotional involvement hookups are preferential. This is because the two can engage in meaningless sex for the sake of pleasure. I remember once reading a New York Times article that calls hookups appealing because they are low cost, low investment engagements. Factors such as the false consensus effect, social media, and the modern collegian attitude influence the
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Hookups can range in degree of sexual act, but in the college setting, the most common type of hookup ends in sex. This is because individuals have the freedom to be selfish and pursue personal pleasure, whereas in a committed relationship, individuals tend to please their partners rather than themselves. There is also no pressure associated with the sex because there is no commitment and therefore lower expectations. One perk of hooking up is that partners can explore different positions and desires. I myself have never experienced a hookup because I am in a long standing committed …show more content…
Relationships are not convenient for college students, whereas hookups or booty calls are. The lack of emotional connections and commitment are what draws millennials to hookups rather than committed relationships. Although, hookups do have drawbacks as well. For instance, hookups can lead to STIs or even unwanted pregnancy is precautions are not taken. All in all, hookups are becoming more and more popular and are on their way to totally replace intimate relationships in the college
Donna Freitas “Time to Stop Hooking Up. (You Know You Want to.)” First appeared as an editorial in the Washington Post in 2013. In this essay Freitas aims to convince her readers that hooking up may seem easy and less stress than a real relationship, but in reality they become unhappy, confused, and unfulfilled in their sex life. “Hookups are all about throwing off the bonds of relationships and dating for carefree sex” personal experience, compare and contrast are a few techniques Freitas skillfully uses to strong convincing essay.
¨Grease is the word¨, and ¨what team? Wildcats¨ are well known phrases that emerged decades apart, yet come from almost the same movie. With a twenty eight year age gap between the movies Grease and High School Musical, there was bound to be some differences in the way the characters handled their problems. The leading characters being protagonists, Sandra Dee with Danny Zouko and Gabriella Montez with Troy Bolton all being influenced by how their time period saw women. Grease takes place in the 1950’s; a period often viewed as one of conformity. Sandra and Danny portrait traditional gender roles; she desperately craved his approval (evidence). Gabriella, on the other hand, being brought up in the early 2000’s was independent and did not seek
Conor Kelly argues in her article, “Sexism in Practice: Feminist Ethics Evaluating the Hookup Culture” that the hookup culture is sexist and disempowers women. Although, he mentions it is difficult to define “hooking up” but majority of the students will agree that it involves “some level of sexual activity without the constraints and expectations of a relationship” (Kelly 65). In other words, when two people have casual sex with no strings attached, when they both finish they both can go on with their lives without
When a young adult decided to go to college they have a very big decision to make about what their future will hold and where their future will begin. Once the decision has been made and college has begun, new friends are made and the actions they do shape who they will become. Weekends come and go, but the decisions that are made are different for each and every individual that attends college. There are those who choose to stay on campus and spend the weekend doing things around school with new friends, others choose to go home for different reasons, such as being homesick and wanting to be with family or spending the time off of school for work to help pay for tuition, also there are the students who choose to go to other institutions to see new friends they have made or visit old ones from high school. What I am attempting to understand is with my target population, is not only what the group chooses to do with their weekend time, but also to try and understand why they choose to do what they do with that time.
In the essay by Vanderkam, she says that hook ups “have all but replaced dating at most colleges” (Vanderkam 345). Some support that she uses when proving this was that she said “only half of the women .. had been on six or more dates...a third had been on no more than two” (Vanderkam 345). This shows that this is not just some fad that some kids at colleges are trying to start but rather it is something that is already implemented and has affected most college students. In the short story, Jackson was explaining how all of the citizens were coming together for the lottery when she said “The other boys soon followed his example” after she had saw one boy who had picked up some stones on the way to the lottery. Later in the day after the selection process of the lottery had been completed a person from the crowd yelled “Come on, come on, everyone” (Jackson 1243). Both of these quotes show how quickly the citizens are to listen to and follow the actions of other people. These qualities have even been taught to the children. These two texts show how people are quick to follow the lead of another and that stems down to the younger generation which means that the trait of following will only continue to grow. Also in the essay, Vanderkam said that hook ups have “pervade[d] college culture” (345). This shows
As stated in the book, “college students have much to teach about sex” (8). That is because the values, ideologies, and worldviews of the students are representative of greater American culture. Although flawed, hookup culture on American campuses hold the possibility of accepting a culture of inclusivity, care, pleasure, and freedom while also rejecting predatory behavior, racism, classism, and abuse. Dismissing hookup culture all together is blind to the reality that young adults are going to have sex, and since sex is non-negotiable, one’s aim should be to foster open dialogue and critical thought onto a future where everyone enjoys the ability to freely explore sexuality, sex, and gender on their own
They base their findings on the National Health and Social Life Survey, which found that those born after 1942 were “more sexually active at younger ages” than those born from 1933-42, and the trend toward greater sexual activity among young people “appears to halt or reverse” among those born from 1963-72. In addition to these facts, an English survey of more than 14,000 students from 19 universities and colleges about their hookup, dating, and relationship experiences revealed that 72% of students experience a hookup at least once by their senior year in college, but hooking up hasn’t replaced committed relationships and is not a new concept to young adults. The evidence is convincing and shows that students often participate in both at different times during college (69% of heterosexual students participated in a relationship lasting at least 6 months by senior year as well.) Based on this, the amount of hookups and committed relationship by college students seems to even out over
Donna Freitas in The End of Sex gives her thoughts on how hookup culture is affecting specifically college students. Her judgment comes out of a space where she wants, “to empower them (participants in hookups) to seek the kinds of relationships they want…” (16). Though her perspective comes from a good place, her argument has points that are shaming, archaic, dismissive, and one sided. Her argument seems to be that of a pro-woman stance at times, neglecting one of the key feminism ideals of choice. Freitas uses patriarchal arguments to back up her ideas, tarnishing her perspectives that come off as woman empowering. The book, The End of Sex, neglects to be conscious of female independence
According to the article “Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse,’” “People used to meet their partners through proximity, through family and friends, but now Internet meeting is surpassing every other form” (Sales). Jo Sales’ point is that the Internet is overtaking other ways of meeting a partner. In the past, the way of finding one’s potential partner was through family members, but now society is moving in the direction of using the Internet as a way to find their partners. Students in college provided a great amount of information regarding hookup culture, which supported Jo Sales arguments. According to Martin Monto and Anna Carey, “Current research and the popular media have claimed that the hookup culture is a widespread phenomenon that has replaced traditional dating...” (Monto and Carey 606). In making this comment, traditional relationships that were once said to be loving and caring have moved to sexual activity called hookups. Research shows how hookup culture has overtaken the roots of traditional dating and will continue to expand in the future. The study shows how college students were involved in one-night stands frequently knowing that they do not want to build a long lasting relationship. Traditional dating in the past formed stable relationships, and the idea of hookup culture was not even a topic of discussion. Questions
Hooking up on a college campus has its positives and negatives. First off men benefit more from hooking up than women do. Women benefit more from traditional dating. The article “To Hook Up or Date: Which Gender Benefits?” by Carolyn Bradshaw, Arnold S. Kahn, and Bryan K. Saville explains how men benefit from hooking up and how women benefit from traditional dating. It explains the consequences of hooking up and the consequences of traditional dating. Hooking up has become so popular on college campuses that it has become the norm. In the article it explained how both genders have a similar ideas to hooking up as well as similar ideas to traditional dating. Both genders said hooking up is more popular than traditional dating because there is no commitment to continue the relationship. You meet a stranger at a party and if there is alcohol involved it makes the “hooking up” an easier process. You then start flirting with the stranger and engage in sexual behavior whether it is kissing or having sex. Traditional dating does have its benefits as well because you have the feeling of being liked/loved and also your partner is a friend to share happy moments with. The article did mentioned that both genders wanted a traditional date if you knew the other person had the same feelings for you.
The Broke Female The 60’s was certainly a time of women’s curiosity and venture outside of the norm “homemaker” role. Women not only found pleasure in the world, but in themselves as a whole and as a woman. Sex and the Single Girl by Helen Gurley Brown played an important role here as her intent was to guide women - or more specifically the single woman - in her pursuit of independence and pleasure. Sex and the Single Girl most definitely lead the readers on to believe that it was to empower women; even to break away from the norm and advocate the unattached female. My response will focus on the contradictory nature the guidebook, and other literature like Cosmopolitan, create when advising a woman to do and be something on the one hand while having an underlying message on the other.
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For years, people’s definition of ‘sex’ and ‘virginity’ have changed continuously with the adaptation of new cultures, ideas, and identities. In the nineteenth century, virginity was sign of purity and innocence, as sex before marriage was seen as a sin. If he / she had sex before they were married, they were deemed unfit and ‘dirty’ in society. But this idea changed in the 1900’s, when people gained more sexual freedom. Sex was no longer limited, as both men and women began to have sexual relationships before they were married. Men now saw their virginity as a negative feature and sought to lose it early, while women still saw their virginity as something to be value and were not so eager to lose it early on in life. Compared to the past, the definition of ‘sex’ and ‘virginity’ today have become more
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