Emotional self-care includes any intentional actions an individual takes to care for their mental and emotional health. How does one do that? How does one know that they have any mental and/or emotional problems? Are there any steps towards a healthy emotional and mental care? One is used to taking care of a cut, by simply placing a band-aid over the wound, but to handle depression, fear, pain, and mood-swings would result in another manner of confusion or rejection because of this others tend to further shut down their emotions and build up barriers. In Brené Brown’s TED Talk, “The Power of Vulnerability,” she states that a person has to be open and vulnerable to achieve joy; Guy Winch’s TED Talk, “Why We All Need to Practice Emotional Aid,” …show more content…
I hate vulnerability.” Her research done on vulnerability of many years—through focus groups, interviews, and letters—brought her up to discover a theory that people who had “a sense of worthiness—they have a strong sense of love and belonging,” and what separates these people from others who do not feel as worthy themselves is that these people “believe they're worthy of love and belonging.” For people to have this sense of worthiness they must contain this high self-esteem within them or acceptance of themselves that most people do not own and ergo struggle to obtain. When she came to this conclusion she continued to embark on her research to understand this notion further. She follows up with her theory by stating that, “They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others, because, as it turns out, we can't practice compassion with other people if we can't treat ourselves kindly.” An individual who preaches on the idea that one should be kind to others would be hypocrite if he/she was not kind to his or her own self. It is similar to how one would shoot out a compliment and in the process, thus receiving back a “Thank you” response, but if she was to receive one herself she would feel quite reluctant to take on that flattering remark because she might not feel as though …show more content…
He speaks of the emotional turmoil he had when he moved away from his brother for the first time and that is when they began calling each other every week. There was one day that Winch was waiting for his brother’s call and waiting and waiting; he figured his brother didn’t need him anymore, but then he realized he kicked the phone hook off and a second later his brother was calling. "I don't understand. If you saw I wasn't calling you, why didn't you just pick up the phone and call me," he brother questioned. Why didn’t he do that? Winch could have just called him instead of waiting for his call to see why his brother was not calling him in the first place, but he just assumed it. He explained that, “Loneliness creates a deep psychological wound, one that distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking,” and therefore, “It make us really afraid to reach out, because why set yourself up for rejection and heartache when your heart is already aching more than you can stand?” There is no harm in asking someone or taking the lead in an relationship to better understand the other individual and thus bettering the relationship, but when people are so used to the thought of rejection they tend to just end up assuming and that results in confusion from both parties. We are usually the hardest critics of on ourselves, “Especially after a rejection. We all start thinking of all our faults
So if we want joy, love, and empathy in our lives, we need to let vulnerability into our hearts.... ... middle of paper ... ... But instead of reacting negatively, I was pleased to see that Anabella and Francisco and Santos – and all my other students – understood. They saw that I was trying my best, and that for any positive change to occur, we, all, had to put ourselves at risk in the arena.
...e too fast on this”, “Since you put it that way—“, “Jesus, Ann. All right. No.” we can see how he don’t want to say “ no”, he was in struggling, although he want to make his wife happy and gave the answer she want, he can’t chat on her, because he loves her. The next awkward situation is not his fault, what he did was just told the truth to his wife.
The virtue of kindness is not meek it is not niceness. Kindness holds firm to its foundation and values, but it does it in a way that is gentle. Kindness is not naïve, it is wise and discerning (Corey, 211). People confuse being nice as kindness because on the outside both are soft. The inside is what shows the difference. Niceness has no substance, it will go wherever society takes it. Kindness is different, it has a firm, solid center (Corey xv). The components of soft edges and firm centers make kindness warm and inviting and yet it remains deeply rooted to its core beliefs.
Intention and action for the sake of others can only be one part of what makes a good person, one must also be in harmony with God’s will in order to attain grace. Jesus illustrates what such goodness looks like in his parable of giving to the poor, “ But when you give to the poor, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing so that your giving will be in secret; and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you” (Matthew, pg. 177). Reciprocity of action and intent for the sake of another is not in itself sufficient for goodness in Jesus’ eyes, according to him you must go beyond reciprocity and do things for their own sake in order to reach the favor of
Another example of a lack of communication from the poem Gray explains, "No matter how many times she tells him that he's not listening, he doesn't get it and keeps doing the same thing. She wants empathy, but he thinks she wants solutions" (Gray 15). This theory relates to the poem "Home Burial," because the wife wants her husband to show empathy about the child's death. The husband, however, does not seem to have the empathy she ...
Brown believes that if a person does not open up himself, then he will not connect with other people on level passed the surface. As I have learned through my Ethnographic Research course, vulnerability has the power to transform an embodied text and to knock at people’s perception of themselves. I have continued to notice when an ethnographer is distant from their text and hesitant to connect on a deeper level. As a result, the ethnographic text lacks the ability to evoke response or limits the influence of the journey on the audience. While there a lot of risk and even pain with exposing one’s emotions through vulnerability, there is even more rewards. Brene Brown is inspiring as a speaker because in addition to developing a strong argument on the power of vulnerability; she has the unique quality of perfectly models her message. Brown expressed in her Ted Talk that she spent a whole year struggling with vulnerability. Speaking about her journey Brown openly admitted, “vulnerability pushed, I pushed back. I lost the fight but probably won my life back… What are we doing with vulnerability?” If she was talking about vulnerability, but was unable to show something of herself, her message would have fallen short. However, Brene Brown not only shows us with her words and her research how influential authenticity is, but she demonstrates it to us on a human level. While I was already aware that vulnerability is an important characteristic to tap into, Brene Brown is an inspiration for how anyone can challenge himself or herself to become even more
On 1/13/16, I watched the TED Talk of Gregory Boyle, “Compassion and Kinship,” a founder and executive director of Homeboy Industries. He explained how we should form a relationship with others so that we can come together as one rather than being enemies towards each other. Specifically he claimed that having kinship and compassion breaks down barriers it allows people who don’t fit society’s standards know that their life has value, meaning, and worth. As he said, “How can we achieve a certain kind of compassion that stands in awe at what the poor have to carry rather than stand in judgement at how they carry it, for the measure of our compassion lies not in our service of those on the margins but in our willingness to see ourselves and kinship with them and mutuality.” Although some people believe that once they choose to make bad decisions, they have
Compassion is a feeling that humans portray towards others, but you also have to act in some way to aid them and to decrease their suffering. Barbara Lazear Ascher's purpose “On Compassion” of her essay was to distinguish emotions that people feel towards homeless people. She posed the question of whether or not people feel compassion or pity towards homeless people. The thesis statement is the first sentence, which encompasses the main themes that compassions revolves around somebody’s circumstances, rather than a situation that one can dream about. In other words, it is one’s reality. Specifically, “the man’s grin is less the result of circumstance
Gilbert, Dan." The surprising science of happiness." Ted Talks. Ted. Ted Talks, Monterey. 1 Feb. 2004. Lecture.
Firstly, self-awareness is referring to a person who have a clear cognizance of their personality, including thoughts, motivation, beliefs, weaknesses, strengths and emotions, further this skill allows people to make a better decision (Path way of happiness, 2016). Next, managing emotion, in other word, self-management: handling suffering emotional in an effectual way, moreover knowing how to lead yourself to positive emotions and not falling to negative thought. Furthermore, thirdly, empathy is a significant aspect of emotional intelligence. Following to the research from Cherniss (2000) discovered that most successful people in the workplace and social life having a capability to identify other’s emotions. Lastly, skill-relationship, which is all those three combined together and use it in efficiently way. As a matter of fact, by Goleman (2012), part of human’s brain supports social and emotional intelligence due to the neuroplasticity of the brain has a great influence on repeated experiences that influences to present and future decision. In addition, the executive function helps to manage emotion and helps one’s paying
The fact is, it is good to be vulnerable. Good to feel pain, hurt, and suffering. However, vulnerability does not always lead to pain and hurt. Instead it can lead to joy and happiness. Many people think vulnerability is an emotion, the emotion of hurt. Those people are wrong because vulnerability is nearly just an action that can lead to hurt, but can also lead to happiness. Brown says in her Ted talk, “What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful”. She is speaking to anyone with shame and fear. This really moved me because the thought that the pain that causes one to be vulnerable, also makes them beautiful. Brown also says “We numb vulnerability”, this is true with many people. Instead of facing their feelings head on, many people fear them. They want to stop feeling hurt and pain, so to get rid of the hurt they substitute it. When one feels hurt they will drink alcohol, or take drugs prescribed and illegal. But most commonly, they will eat. This is why so many people are addicted, medicated, and obese. Lives have been destroyed, relationships ruined, and careers lost. All due to the fear of vulnerability and because people want to numb it instead of facing it. After having visited the Brene Brown website there was a quote that really caught my eye. She says, “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness”. This is important for everyone to know, because without vulnerability one can never be truly
According to Dr. Doris Jeanette, PsyD., Emotional health is determined by the amount of emotional security you feel. If you are relaxed and secure in your everyday life, you are an emotionally healthy person. Someone who is emotionally healthy has an open heart and relaxed body. Emotionally healthy people have higher self-esteem and low anxiety. You are not going to have a negative auto-response to stressful or difficult situations that arise in your daily life. Instead, you will be able to maintain a calm disposition and be patient with yourself and others. You are not likely to be judgmental or critical of others because you have learned to not be judgmental and critical of yourself. Emotional health means you are able to address and identify with your emotions as opposed to avoiding or suppressing them. In order to be an emotionally healthy person, you must be able to express your emotions in and assertive but healthy way. You cannot reach emotional stability if you are unable to address your feelings or hide from them.
It isn’t always easy to be kind to others, nor is it easy to fake being kind. Some try to be kind by offering or showering one with stuff. People all around do this, they think giving people things equals being kind and fills heart the same way a compliment would. However, it does not work like that. One does not feel the same way after getting an object as they do when they are are told they look gorgeous, or when someone holds the door for them, or even when someone tries to be inclusive. Often when someone gifts something they do so expecting something in return, they did not do it out of kindness of their heart. A kind person is giving from their hearts, whereas those who give gifts thinking that is being kind are doing so to feel
Self-care is a necessary practice in everyone’s life. This practice allows people to relax and replenished themselves. The first time I heard of this term was in during one of my social work classes. As we began to discuss self-care it became clear, that without proper self-care people, not just social workers are doing themselves a disservice. Self-care encompasses more than general rest. Self-care deals with emotional wellbeing, good health and spiritual wellbeing. All of these areas are key to having good self-care. The reading provides a good description self-care, it stated that self-care is achieving an equilibrium across our personal school and work lives. Achieving equilibrium in my personal life will only increase my ability to support and help others.
Kindness is the key to most everything. Being kind means taking the high road, even when someone has wronged you. It means serving other people, even under inconvenient circumstances.It involves looking for the good in others, and even helping them to see the good in themselves. Kindness is spreading happiness to make other’s day better and by making them smile. Kindness is defending those who are picked on by others, sitting by those who are lonely, and saying hi to someone in the hall. Kindness is being someone who wants to build up those around them.