Belonging And Lieberman

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Following extensive research, Mathew Lieberman found out that social pain arising from rejection or loss of a loved one is as real as physical pain. He also asserts that social connection is as important to human beings as the basic needs. Right from infancy, one needs people for survival. This need to connect with others and the pain that comes from separation is the force behind the human’s motivation to live and work. Apart from the ability to connect, the human brain possesses another wonder, the ability to read minds. Though not in a perfect way, human brains can imagine the kind of response that another person is going to give. Lieberman calls these two abilities the social superpowers. Humankind is a social species. Evolution has made the human brain depends on the social world in order for the species to thrive. Belonging, understanding, controlling, enhancement of self, and trusting have been identified as the five core social motives. These motives are the center of people’s thoughts and behavior. They help people fit into groups and hence, increase their chances of survival (Fiske, 2014). …show more content…

On top of being one of the core social motives, belonging is also the foundation of all the other core social motives. The other four facilitate and service belonging to help one function well in social groups. Belonging is the motivation to bond and affiliate with others. To belong, one must be able to establish a clear social understanding. Enhancement of self-makes one socially worthy and enables them to fit and belong to social groups. Trusting enables one to view the world as a benevolent place and hence, sets the stage for the formation of relationships. Trusting also helps people to participate in social

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