Analysis Of Working At Single Bliss

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Anyone that has taken the time to ask a little girl around the age of six what she wants to be when she grows up, will most likely describe the same reaction. The little girl’s face lights up as she begins announcing a plethora of different jobs and possibilities. Fast-forward ten to fifteen years later and that same girl has become a young adult who gets the same reaction when you ask to see the Pinterest board she created for her wedding day. Women and weddings are two words that are always associated with each other. But what happens to the women that don’t favor being married to someone? Mary Helen Washington describes her own experiences with societies views of women and marriage in her essay “Working at Single Bliss”. In the essay she …show more content…

Women need to find a man, go through some heartbreaking event, but eventually need to end up in a heterosexual relationship where the man ends up being the missing piece in her life. For those of us that don’t fit that description, you fall under the assumption that you live a fancy-free life because it doesn’t not have a moral structure of responsibilities, says Washington. If a woman is not making romance a top priority, she is not living a fulfilling life in the eyes of society. You see that scenario play out in Maid in Manhattan. Jennifer Lopez’s character, Marissa, is a maid that falls in love with a wealthy politician. Despite the movie being a repeat of ever romantic-comedy ever created, the director adds an important storyline in the movie, and then very rarely returns to the topic. In the midst of all the romance, Marissa is also trying to get a promotion and become part of management. Instead of encouraging a storyline where the main character is purely trying to better herself, they throw in a love story because society does not view being a successful career woman as enough. Washington explains that the lifestyle of being a single and driven woman is exciting, but not an acceptable position to settle in. It doesn’t fall under the category of “The Thing That Made Life Complete”. Romance and marriage take that

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