Conflict resolution Introduction A conflict is an expressed disagreement between two or more people who have different perceptions of a situation. Therefore, conflict acts as interference for each party to achieve their goals in a situation. Conflict develops as a result of differences among people’s perception of situations and people around them. Diversity in character and nature of human beings brings about differences in likes and dislikes hence the development of conflicts among people. The extent of every conflict is, therefore, based on the extent to which people differ (Picard, 14). Sarah and I (Desidra) have been roommates for one year. We have not only shared the house but also ideas, interests and wonderful moments. Out of this sharing developed a great friendship that has been well cemented with trust and mutual understanding. Though we live together, Sarah and I are different in character especially in the areas of interests in hobbies and leisure activities. However, this has never been an area of division between us, for we both understand each other and respect our diversity. I am a conservative and traditional; I prefer indoor activities while Sarah likes adventurous activities that involve interaction with the environment. Our friendship has, however been greatly affected by a conflict that has arisen recently after I brought home a new puppy. This paper is an analysis of this interpersonal conflict between Sarah and me. It highlights the different elements of conflict and the process of conflict resolution in relation to the character of the individuals, the process of conflict resolution and the theories of conflict resolution as discussed in this course. Conflict overview According to my analysis, this rela... ... middle of paper ... ...e-lose resolutions brings division and resentment among the individuals. Additionally, the feeling of loss on one or both parties is an indication of egocentrism which eliminates trust in a relationship leading to deterioration and finally termination of the relationship (Wood, 241). The win-win method of conflict resolution is beneficial to all parties involved. I, for example, have used it to resolve a conflict involving television conflicts among my siblings within our home environment. The conflict was based on the time spent watching television and less time on take-home assignments. To solve the conflict, a memorandum of understanding was signed allowing individuals to watch television only after completing the assignment. This resolution has enhanced performance at school and allows for television time. This solved the conflict surrounding television viewing
...to be achieved, years, decades, lifetimes, conflict is intended to fulfill this need. Ultimately, conflict theory is about the struggles, ideologies, representations, and power that the haves possess and the have-nots want to exert. These concepts come into play causing conflict between the groups which ends in social change.
As much as some of us dislike conflict, it is inherent in human nature. After all, it is like a wall that keeps us from moving forward in the path of life, but we must understand that those walls merely act as temporary challenges that are yet to be solved. Some conflicts may be insignificantly trivial, and some may be quite immense. Some conflicts may be happening within ourselves, and some may be accompanied by another person. Regardless, we must learn not to run away from conflict, but rather to run over them with a determined demeanor as the conflicts that we encounter in our lives are what helps us learn and grow as an individual. Furthermore, learning and growing from conflict is what shape individuals and what prepares us for the upcoming challenges that life will throw at us in the future.
We all go thru different phases and life changes in our lives creating more needs and solutions to our problems. Many of us handle conflict negatively and think conflict is bad. Therefore, the best way to resolve conflict is learning how to handle things in a better way. This means understanding the person and understanding what has created the conflict and miscommunication. The book, “Difficult Conversations,” helps us learn different perspectives and needs to our conflicts and learning how to resolve conflict and what has created people to have different standards in their personal culture.
My brother, Andrew stated that he felt betrayed how his best friends go out and party with him, then turned around and call my mother, Faye, and told them that he was addicted to cocaine. Two days went by; my brother, Andrew, avoided all phone calls from my mother and his best friends. Finally, on the third day after the confrontation, my oldest brother, Gary, and mother, Faye, showed up at Andrew’s dorm room and explained to him if he went with them to get a drug assessment then he would be able to stay in school and keep everything that my family had threatened to take away from him. My brother, Andrew, had already lost most of his trust in his friends, but he agreed to take a drug assessment because he did not want to lose what he had.
Chapter eleven has very important key concepts when dealing with managing interpersonal conflicts. In order to realize how beneficial it is to incorporate the right set of communication skills in our daily lives, we must learn about some of the conflict styles that can arise when being in certain relationships. It’s easy to see throughout the movie Adam and Emma’s relationship have a parallel conflict style where both people shift there behaviors from one issue to another just most other relationships. Most often we see people use accommodating a lose-win factor, to handle and resolve the issue in the most calming way possible. This happens when we let the other person get their way instead of being able to express our own point of view within the relationship. Emma insists on
Chapter two elaborate on style of conflict, worldview of conflict, negative view, positive of conflict, lens model of conflict, and description of conflict. Chapter encourage me to think about conflict in my life, and the chapter introduce lend model of conflict. The lens model of conflict has benefits in perspective and analysis the conflict. The perspective within conflict would help to understand both side of the conflict. Analysis the conflict would help come to resolution, compromise, or agreement. Also, conflict was seen different with everyone. Even culture has influence on conflict. Overall, I believe that patience would be most helpful in managing conflict.
The interpersonal conflict revolves around my mother and I. We have always had a strong relationship but lately, have been at constant odds between each other. There is conflict between us because of our conflicting views on whats the better option for our beloved dog. My mother will always hold the power most of the times by default, she is my mother after all, but when it comes to this specific interpersonal conflict, I certainly hold the power. Other family members know of this dilemma as well including my grandmother who is just as conflicted as my mother and I are. My grandmother has a strong attachment to our dog and would effect her emotionally.
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According to McShane and Von Glinow, conflict is “a process in which one party perceives that his or her interests are being opposed or negatively affected by another party” (328). The Conflict Process Model begins with the different sources of conflict; these sources lead one or more parties to perceive that a conflict exists. These perceptions interact with emotions and manifest themselves in the behavior towards other parties. The arrows in the figure illustrate the series of conflict episodes that cycle into conflict escalation (McShane and Von Glinow 331-332).
Any conflict can be resolved through correct and effective communication.
There are many different types of relationships. From your neighbor to your significant other, experiencing different relationships is a part of everyday life. Wether you posses good or bad communication skills will affect the interpersonal relationships within your life. The popular television series Modern Family is a good example of the different types of friendships, types of love, and relationship theories that encompass the everyday person.
Weeks, D. (1992) The eight essential steps to conflict resolution: preserving relationships at work, at home, and in the community. New York: Tarcher/Putnam.
In conclusion, Dr. John Gottman demonstrates how communication is vital in any relationship and not just marriage. Personally, I consider a relationship to be a reciprocating affair in which every party plays a role to sustain it. In the event of a conflict with my partner, my go to plan is not to criticise, but to give room for dialogue in order to establish the root cause of the conflict.
Conflict is unavoidable and connected to a world where different ideas and opinions are challenged. Negative conflict occurs when voices are not expressed appropriately, discussions are not in control or different parties reject moving forward with a solution. There is difficulty resolving disagreements because there are multiple reactions to disputes. However, a positive conflict supports debates without a destructive outcome. They improve communication, introduce principles that are important to others, and reduce chaos. On the other hand, the approach that a person uses to address conflict dictates the outcome they receive. Methods for resolving conflict include avoiding the problem, smoothing out a situation, competing against the ideas
In American colloquial English, the word “conflict” has come to be used almost exclusively to convey a negative experience or encounter such as a war, battle, fight, or other dispute. Current conflicts in 2016 include the United States’ wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, the presidential election, and Black Lives Matter vs. municipal police departments. However, one of the definitions of the word “conflict” includes a “mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands” (Full definition of conflict, n.d.). The important part to note in this definition is that while the existing “opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands,” may be incompatible, the use of the word,