Dealing With Grief

Everyone can experience grief when they lose someone in their live. They may need to spend a long period of time to deal with this feeling; especially, if the person you had loss is one of your family's member. How people react is depends on a lot of factors like how close they are to the person who died or whether the death is sudden or expected. The people close to the person who die is more likely to experience grief longer and harder than those people who not close to the person who had died. If the death is expected then we will have time to prepare for it, so the hard feeling will not last too long. If the death is sudden then we will be shock and may experience the feeling of not accept the truth. I will never understand all this thing

if it not because of my friend, Sofia, who had died two years ago. After her death, it take me and her family around six month to recover to our normal life. So, the death of a person is really effects on those people who have left behind, especially is on their emotion, their thoughts, and their relationship.

Right after a loss of Sofia, my emotion was went down immediately. I have trouble in believing that the lost was really happened. Some people will cry over and over every day since the loss, because they are so shocked, and sad, and could not accept the fact that they could not see that people again. And, so am I. At that time, I was only sixteen years old. Sofia and I were go to the same school since we were still a kid. We were really close to each other, and treat each other like sisters. Her parents are so nice to me and treat me like their family member. So, when she was gone, I keep lies to myself and acting like Sofia is still here. I often stop by her house to visit her parents and take care of the stuff every day, and waiting for her to come

back. I end up broken and I knew I will be, but I still choose to believe that Sofia will come back to at least make myself feels less pain. In some case, people will end up by getting mental problems because of the shock of the loss of someone they loves. I feel so lucky that I did not end up like that even I did went to a really hard time of loss of Sofia.

After The death of Sofia, I have thought a lot, and it make me realize many things about life.

Life is short and unfair. So, if at this moment, you still alive, you still have things to eat, and some place to sleep, then you should feel lucky about yourself. There are a lot of people that did not have anything. Some people did not have parent to take care of them, or even they did not know who is there parent. There are some people who don’t even know what they can find to eat for tomorrow or even today. You should respect what you have, because you are lucky, and because you will never know if you still alive or you will be death tomorrow. Comparing to Sofia, I am luckier than her. I still get to live, but she does not. I still have chances to meet and hold my family, but she does not. So, I should respect my life by spending my time more meaningful. I remember in the show Death Like Me, when George know that she is death, she have say that “I'm only eighteen, I haven't done anything. This isn't fair”. It make me think of Sofia, I wonder if she ever though like that. She still too young. She still have a lot of thing that waiting her to do. I realize that should stop wasting my time of watching drama or television shows all day. After I am death, I do not want to ask myself that question. I will spend more time with family and friends. I should spend more time to explore the world around me, and do what I want to do, and go where I want to go. I have to finish all the plans

that I have make for myself as soon as possible. So, I would not feel regret if I have to die tomorrow.

When a person died, their death will also effects on their family member relationships to each other.

It may make their family relationships become closer, but it may also make their relationship become broken. Before the death of Sofia, her parents always fights with each other. They almost scream at each other every day when Sofia was still here. They will not care how Sofia is feeling when they are fighting. They do not even know where Sofia was going on the day she die. After the death of Sofia, her mother cry a lot, she spend all day just to cry over Sofia. She feel regret of not treated Sofia right. Her father is broken, too. He does not cry, but you can feel how sad he is just by look at his face. Sometime, you can see he crying alone in the backyard. He does not want anyone to know that he is crying because he need to stay strong to comfort her mother. They need to help each other to go through the hardest time in their life. After a while, when everything come back to normal again, their relationship were become closer than it used to be. They seems like they have understand each other after their loss, and also learn how to respect other people opinions. Sofia's death have bring their family member relationship become closer to each

other.

The experience of loss someone you love is the worst experience that no one would want to go through. It will leave you so much pain and loneliness. It will have a lot of effect to your life. Sofia death make her family and I goes through a lot of pain, and sometimes, we were refused to believe that she was gone. But, her death also make me realize how lucky I am to be here. It make me understand how to respect my life. Her death also help to make her father and her mother's relationship become closer. Even when Sofia was death, she still make things right to people. I feels very lucky to have a friend like her, and I will never forget Sofia.