Why Children Should Be Strict

When I was a child, my stepfather was very strict. I remember when he came home from

work, he asked me to bring my homework and showed him. If I did something wrong, he got

angry and raised his voice, and he told my mother to not let me play with my friends because of

mistakes. Since I was a child until now, I can see I don’t have enough confidence in my life

because of my past experiences with my step dad, and I always have stress in my life for every

single thing. However, hopefully my mother wasn’t strict enough as my father, so she let me

enjoy my life as long as my step father wasn’t at home. Children grow up and become who they

are based on parenting style, and the environment that the parents create for their children.

However, I disagree with raising children in a

strict environment because of three reasons.

To begin with, enjoying childhood is a right for children, so they should have it. There is

a reason that people categorize humans based on their ages, and people call “children”, humans

from infant to teenager, which means that they are not adults, so they should do things as

children suppose to do such as playing with their friends, having surprises from their parents in

praise of their good behaviours, and etc. As the result, parents who don’t let their children to

have their childhood and put them in a very strict environment, they are taking cruelly their

children’s opportunities to enjoy their childhood. The example in the beginning of this article is a

good illustration of taking the children’s right by setting strict rules; when the Kim two sisters

asked for candy bars, their Korean parents told them that if they read a book, they will earn the

candy, which means that children as kids can’t have the right of getting candy unless they

When children become a grown up person, they won’t be

happy of recalling that moment of their lives, and they will look at it as a humiliation from their

parents who took their rights of enjoying their childhood. So, enjoying the childhood is a right

that every child should have.

The second reason is that having strict rules for children will cause mental damages on

their brains. Raising in the strict environment causes children to do not achieve what they want,

so they feel empty and become aggressive, depressed and do worst things in their lives. Also,

since their parents are the one who make decisions for them, they won’t learn how to control

their lives by their own. As the result, they become moody people who one day want something,

but the next day they change their mind about that. For instance, I remember when I was a

teenager, I had a friend whose parents didn’t allow her to come to my house and let us spend

some time with each other; the reason was that they thought if she spends some time with her

friends, it will impact her education in a wrong way. As the result, my friend got