“No.” That was the phrase I heard most while growing up. If I had a nickel for every time my parents said no to me, I would be a millionaire. My parents had me in their mid-forties, so they’re old fashioned when it comes to most things, especially raising kids. Their parents were strict on them, therefore they were strict on me. In hindsight, they were probably punishing themselves more than me since I was an annoying child who needed constant attention. Even in high school, my parents were still strict. There was no hanging out after school with friends or staying out late on weekends. I couldn’t question their judgment or try to get them to change their minds. As my parents always said, “it’s my way or the highway”. Eventually, my mom grew more lenient towards the end …show more content…
She found that there are three parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Strict parenting falls under the authoritarian style, the style of parenting that expects complete obedience and lacks communication with their child.The permissive parenting style is one that lacks discipline and control. Parents who are your best friends and don’t discipline you would be an example of permissive parenting. The authoritative style is a nice median between the authoritarian and permissive style. They’re easy going yet not afraid to discipline their child. Baumrind states that a complication of children who were raised under an authoritarian style of parenting may later rebel and become aggressive. The authoritarian parent uses control and obedience in order to shape their child’s behavior and attitude. This type of parenting believes in keeping the child in its place by “restricting his autonomy, and in assigning household responsibilities in order to inculcate respect for work” (O’ Reilly 2014). They keep their child on a short leash and set rules that their child should follow without
... readiness to connect with their children, implore their opinions and use reasoning to gain the looked-for behavior, and “Nurturance” is related to parental expressions of warmth and support, and protection of children’s physical and emotional well-being. Using these four dimensions, Baumrind identified four parenting styles: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive-indulgent and permissive involved (Greenwood, 2014). With knowing about all the parenting styles, when I have children I will raise them with the authoritative parenting style.
Authoritarian child rearing Diana Baumrind (1971) classified it as low in acceptance and involvement, high in coercive control, and low in autonomy granting (Berk 279). Authoritarian parents force their children to follow and obey the rules unconditionally if not will get punished. Parents will usually appear irritable and angry and will not express much warmth or nurturing (Cherry). There is little open communication between parent and the child. Their way to communicate with their children is usually by yelling and little or
Parents object to strict parenting while others praised such parenting style. I was raised in a strict household. I grew up in a family of 10 siblings’ and authority was the only way for my parents to have all of us under control. I always thought it was the worst way to live and hated every minute of it. I felt guilty when I had to explain to friends why I couldn’t hang out with them or stay over at their house. Now, as an adult I fully understand why my parents were hard on us and treated us the way they did. Although, authoritarian parenting style has some rewarding outcomes it has some drawbacks as well. For instance, I owe my academic success to the fact that I had my parents checking up on me and making sure I stayed out of trouble, even
Darling and Steinberg (1993) have defined parenting styles as “a constellation of attitudes toward the child that are communicated to the child and that taken together, create an emotional climate in which the parent’s behaviors are expressed” (p. 488). In order to fully understand how these parenting practice influence behaviors and habits on academic performance or achievement you must understand the differences between the practices. In a more concise explanation, authoritarian practices are parents who are extremely strict, admire obedience, and discourage communication between the parent-child and express low levels of warmth. Authoritative practices are parents who have rules and boundaries, open communication between themselves and the child and have an equal balance of warmth for the child. Permissive practices are parents who are warm and loving, however have no rules and boundaries, in other words, these parent have no limits or expectations for their child. Uninvolved-neglecting practices are those parents who do not impose discipline or encouragement, these parents do not engage with their child. With these definitions in mind a parent can be any one or a mixture of
To begin with, of the four Baumrind’s parenting styles, authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and disengaged, I chose authoritative. Authoritative parenting has a high level of demandingness while at the same time exerts the same amount of responsiveness leading to a child who is independent, creative, well-balanced, and leads a relatively social lifestyle. I feel that laying down rules and expectations for a child gives them the guidance they need at a young age or they will be left to guide themselves blindly leading to irresponsibility, impulsiveness, and a tendency to engage in substance use. Equally important is a parent needs to warm, attentive, and not only say they love their children but express through actions and understanding as well (Arnett, 2016).
Diana Baumrind’s theory on parenting was defined by four different types. The types are, authoritative style, authoritarian style, permissive style, and uninvolved style. My parents have an authoritative style. Authoritative is when the parents give certain limits and restrictions but keep it to a minimum and are usually pretty reasonable, providing reasoning for their decisions. This type of parenting style expresses tenderness and warmth. When the rules come into conflict with something, authoritative parents bend the rule more often than other types of parents.
Authoritative style remains high in all four domains. Authoritative parents’ use of appropriate discipline such as using time-out or mild punishment ensures their children’s independence along with children’s compliance with parental demands. Compare to children with any other parenting styles, children raised by authoritative parents have higher self-esteem, self confidence, and better grades in elementary school, high school, and college. They are also less likely to abuse alcohol or tobacco as adolescents. In general, children of the authoritative parenting style show more altruistic
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
A parenting style that focuses on responding to a child’s behaviors but also focuses on not being too demanding or aggressive. Permissive parenting can be another for of parenting that leads to harmful results on the child or minor. Another term for permissive parenting is indulgent parenting. These parents have a tendency to be tolerant while attempting to maintain a strategic distance from any confrontation with their child. The advantage of this parenting style is that they are normally exceptionally sustaining and cherishing. The negatives, be that as it may, exceed this advantage. Hardly any guidelines are set for the offspring of tolerant parents, and the principles are conflicting when they do exist. This absence of structure makes these children grow up with minimal self-control and poise. A few parents receive this strategy as an extraordinary inverse way to deal with their dictator childhood, while others are just hesitant to do anything that may annoy their kid. It might appear as if this would be a child’s most loved parenting style as it gives a feeling of flexibility without results, in any case, childrens hunger for a feeling of structure to influence them to feel safe and. It is critical in a child’s improvement for there to be obvious parental and child positions that are played. Tolerant or permissive parenting can have long haul harming impacts on
This style of parenting is best described as the child having more control over the parent. There are a lot of parents today that seem to have no control of their child actions and even words. This in which can make the parents question what are they doing wrong when it comes to raising their child. This type of parent have very low demands and are highly responsive, maybe even too responsive to the child’s needs. Although these parents are very loving of their children they do not have many rules that their child should abide by (Cherry, K. 2017, para.1). Not setting ground rules gives the child the freedom to do whatever they want and know that they will not receive a harsh, if any punishment at all. Also, parents who are permissive tend to want to be their child’s best friend. The child in this parent in child relationship tends to have more control than the parent. If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para. 9). Permissive parents should give the child rules to follow and discipline them if broken, to ensure that their child follow the right path throughout
The authoritarian style of parenting is control focused and militaristic in approach. This parent has high expectations and demands strict obedience. They often rule by fear and punishment. Dr. Gwen Dewar states, “… Little nurturing, lots of psychological control” (Dewar). On Consistant-parenting-advice.com the author communicates this type of parenting can result in abusive discipline that can be emotional and physical; however this writer is also including verbal abuse to the list.
With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well each style has its own advantages such as; acceptance by peers with commonality. Child rearing for most parents is an evolving set of skills. It could be said that, with any style of parenting, there is no explicit set of rules for every situation, and what works for one child may not be effective for another.
The first type of parenting style is called authoritarian. In this parenting style the parents are the boss. They make strict rules and they enforce them. They focus more on restrictions than a loving relationship with their child. They believe it is their job as parents to catch their children being bad and punish them. These parents use external control on their children instead of taking time to tell the kid what they did wrong and why they should not do it again. Something these parents do not realize is that they do not catch their kids being good. Authoritarian parents are firm and unsympathetic. Authoritarian parents love to use discipline.
Well first off to discuss the advantages and disadvantages of the parenting styles between the Harsh-Hearts and the Easy-Goings, their styles of child rearing must be categorized first. Child-rearing are combinations of parenting behaviors that occur over a wide range of situations. There are four different categories of combinations in child-rearing: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved. After studying these two different cases, it can be declared that Mr. and Mrs. Harsh- Heart use an authoritarian child-rearing approach while the Easy- Goings use the authoritative child-rearing style. Authoritarian child-rearing is “low in acceptance and involvement, however high in coercive control, and low in autonomy granting.” (Laura 216)Authoritarian parents have a lot of punishment and usually resort in spanking for discipline. The parents are the boss, there are rules, its tyrannical, there’s structure, and the parents are directive. Meanwhile on the other hand, authoritative is the complete opposite and it is said to be the most successful approach. Authoritative child-rearing “involves high acceptance and involvement, ad...
Authoritarian parenting, is low on warmth/nurturance, harsh, and strict on discipline, and high on expectation. Parents instruct and order, they do not consider the children 's opinion as a group, and discourage verbal give-and-take. With this parenting style, children are more susceptible to antisocial peer pressure during adolescence, a time when peer influence is the greatest. Boys in this category have the highest level of violence. Teenagers become less self-reliant, persistent, socially poised, and have lower self-esteem.