The idea of providing the upmost success to a child varies depending on the parent. For example, a parent can raise a child to become a young prodigy in his or her grade school and continue to become a success over a period of strenuous work which would cause anxiety and stress to both the parent and child. While another parent could let the child independently work their way to success. It’s less stressful but, not as successful compared to the parent who forcefully works their child to the limit. Amy Chua and, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” implies both sides of the argument but, takes wing to the first idea for it does provide positive results. However, Janice Mirikitani and her poem “Suicide Note,” describes what effects apply with …show more content…
What if, Sophia was called garbage because she got an 84 on her exam and, the reason she received that grade was because she felt sick in the middle of the exam or she felt extreme pressure and/or anxiety? How could Chua know if she didn’t ask? There can be situations where she can disapprove by mentioning that “there aren’t any excuses,” while there others situations that she could sympathize with such as, being sick in the middle of the exam. Showing no sympathy however is the main name in the game according to, Mirikitani’s poem which is based off a true suicide note. Whether if you’ve “worked very hard,” you’re “not good enough.” If you’d given all of what you’ve got “bone by bone, perched on the ledge…,” you’re “not strong enough”. Mirikitani uses a those characteristics repetitively in a melodious tone that would immerse almost anyone reading it. Her way personifying that the character is a botched bird signifies that the person is a failure to her parents and, he/she hopes that they would one day have their sorrows …show more content…
Chinese parents believe that there children can get those grades. If they couldn’t achieve a perfect grade they understand that they either, didn’t push the child hard enough or that there child isn’t fully disciplined. They follow by taking a course of action and hope that it would increase their child’s performance. This is what makes a Chinese parent believe that their kids are permanently indebt with their parents. The similar ideal goes with other Asian parents but, Westerner’s from what Chua perceives have a different view on this idea. A westerner believes that it’s the complete opposite. The parents were the one that choose for children not the children. Which is why they shouldn’t be forced to be
Amy Chua believes that Chinese mothers are more superior than any other mothers because they raise such stereotypical successful kids. In her document “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” I believe that she does a great job of explaining why she believes they are more superior. Amy Chua uses examples, facts, and emotional connections to provide information to the reader about why Chinese mothers are superior. Rhetorical appeals can be defined as three elements that are used in the art of persuasion. They are logos, ethos, and pathos. In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” Amy Chua I believe that the rhetorical appeals that Amy Chua uses are effective in informing the reader about Chinese parenting over Western Parenting.
For both Amy Chua and her daughters, growing up under the "Chinese" parenting style has been a trial. But through exhibiting confidence in what her girls can do, maintaining great expectations of what they can achieve, and most importantly devoting as much direct time as possible to raising the girls, Amy has shown that a great resolve to see her children do well can return outstanding results. She parented at 110 percent so that her kids could know how great they be living at 110 percent, or, to put it a more "Chinese Mother" way, extra credit is always worth doing.
In the article, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” Amy Chua writes about how to raise a child, focusing her analysis between the modes of childcare as per Western and Chinese cultural dictates respectively (Chua 408). Amy outlines several things that her children are not allowed to do including: watching television for inordinately long hours and even, taking sleepovers. Amy’s methods have been shown to be very strict and pedagogical, quite unlike those adopted in the Western communities. She believes that Western parents tend to be soft when dealing with their children and instead, only exert dedicated effort towards the attainment of their children’s goals, unlike the Chinese mothers (Chua 408). The article makes the reader think
To be more specific, authoritarian parents are close to their children because they usually get involved in their child’s every activity. According to Amy Chua, the author of “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, she claims that, “Chinese parents spend approximately 10 times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children.” Chua’s point is that Chinese parents are likely to spend time with their kids to make sure that their kids are doing well and safe. For example, when kids have assignments from school, helicopter parents would help with their kids’ homework. Some strict parents may not teach their kids’ homework, but they would force or push their kids to do homework by keeping an eye on them. In this way, raising children by forcing and controlling them also makes children more successful in their academic skills because children would develop a sense of
As the four women entered America, which is far from their motherland China, they experience a change of culture, the American culture, which was dominant than the Chinese. The Chinese mothers are faced with a difficult task of how to raise their American-born daughters with an understanding of their heritage. The daughters clearly show a gap in culture between the Chinese culture and American culture. The mothers wanted their daughter to follow the Chinese traditions, but the daughters followed the American traditions and even some of them got married to American men. The mothers tried to tell their daughters the story about the Chinese ancestors but the daughter could not follow them and the daughters thought their mothers were backwards and did not know what they are saying. As much as the mothers tried to show love to their daughters, the daughters usually responded negatively. They often saw their mothers’ attempts to guidance as a failure to understand the American culture. Being Chinese and living in America, both the mothers and the daughters struggle with many issues like identity, language, translation, and others. The mothers try to reconcile their Chinese pasts with their American presents; the daughters try to find a balance between independence and loyalty to their heritage
Amy Chua (2011) names off three reasons that support her argument in why Chinese children are more successful. First, she mentions that Westerners worry too much on how their child will accept failure, whereas Chinese parents assume only strength in their child and nothing less. For example, if a Western child comes home with a B on a test, some parents will praise the child on their success and some may be upset, while a Chinese parent would convince their child they are “worthless” and “a disgrace.” The Western parents hope to spare their children’s feelings and to be careful not to make their child feel insecure or inadequate, while Chinese parents demand perfect grades because they believe their children can get them (Chua, 2011). Secondly, Chinese parents believe their chil...
Cs and Ds do not make us worse people but it is just a sign represents that we need to find a good solution and we have much room to improve. Therefore, parent should provide assistance when they are overcoming failure, instead of telling them just to study more. Western parenting is compelling illustration of not forcing children to get A’s, but let the kids themselves figure out how to improve their grades as well as make adjustment from downs. Western parents are more likely to give more care and encouragement to their kids even the kids can’t meet their expectation. In the article “America’s Top Parent”, Kolbert claims that, “Americans have been told always to encourage their kids. This, the theory goes will improve their self esteem, and this, in turn, will help them learn.”(1) Encouragement should be given to the kids when they try their best because it helps the kids build up their self-esteem again. In contrast, insulting will destroy the children’s self-esteem and make them feel no hope at all. It will not make the children perform better in a long run. However, in Chua’s case, insulting and threatening does work. In the article “Mother Inferior”, Chua says, “I would threaten to burn all her stuffed animals unless she played a piano piece perfectly.”(Rosin 1) But as I read the quote, I feel the ultimate pressure, her daughters take under her parenting style. I also disagree with the threatening method she uses because it can result an extreme consequence such as suicide if the kids can’t take much pressure especially kids are mentally weak. Parent should not force them to be the best of the best but let them learn and adjust from the
For example Chua said that her father called her “garbage” because she was disrespectful to her mother. Western parents on the other hand would never think about saying that to their children. Education is a huge part of Chinese culture so Chinese parents do not let their children to get below an “A”. If a child gets below an “A” then a chinese mother will find tons of resources to help their child succeed. Chinese parents do not let their children give up, they will make them practice for hours at a time. Chua made her daughter practice over and over on the piano until she got the song right. Chua even threatened her daughter that is she did not get the song by that night then she would never get to celebrate a holiday again and that her toys would be donated to the Salvation Army. After countless practicing her daughter finally got the song correct. Western parents would not push their children like that and let them give up. Chinese parents will tell their children what they are and are not going to do and they will override their child's desires because they know what is best for them. Chinese parents think that their children owe them everything
Chua believes that Chinese parents force their children to be academically successful in order to reach “higher” goals in life. She emphasizes this when she states “…Chinese parents have … higher dreams for their children…” (Chua 8). Although Amy set higher s...
The Wall Street Journal published an article by Victoria Ruan that was titled “In China, Not All Practice Tough Love”. In her article, she briefly discusses what we think of as typical behavior between children and parents in China. She describes the brutal relationships between children and their parents when it comes to schoolwork and being the best possible student in the class. Ruan states how in years past children have been pushed in their studies by their parents to the point in which children start to lose their individuality and love for “not so important” hobbies. According to Ruan, chinese parents don’t just push their children to extremes in order for their children to be as smart as possible, the main goal of this “tough love” mannerism is to ensure that their children have a happy and successful life. However, Ruan believes that in recent years we now have less reason to believe in these stereotypes about chinese parents and their children.
This view makes children feel like an instrument, rather than a loved human being. Children don 't choose their parents, let alone choose to be born. Kids do not owe their parents, and if anything, the parents owe their kids everything. Parents should not choose the routes that their kids go in life, but rather influence it keeping in mind their child 's desires and passions. It isn 't that Chinese parents don 't love their kids, instead it is quite the opposite. They love them so much that they feel that have to do everything for them to guide them in the right direction by making all the decisions for them. This a form of "authoritarian parenting." This means parents establish rules that must be followed with no exceptions. Authoritarian parenting comes with forceful measures which "may result in children who are unhappy, have a large gap in social skills and often have low self-esteem" (parentingabout.net). This shows that Amy Chua 's form of authoritarian parenting as a tiger mom can have major long term effects on her
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Mothers such as Chua are convinced that they know what’s best for their child in almost every aspect of their life. Between school and activities out of school, decisions are usually made up by the mother and not by the child in the Chinese parenting method. Western parents would much rather hold back on making every decision, instead teaching the child to make their own decisions and to weigh out the consequences. Again in Chinese parenting, mothers also believe that it is better to be harsh on the child rather than baby them throughout development. Western mothers on the other hand will take a different path and will always keep the feelings of the child in mind when conducting punishment. Both of the methods are correct in some aspects, but sometimes it takes a little more than just a compromise between the two in order to
The two notable parenting styles discussed in Amy Chua’s article, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” are the Western style parenting and the Chinese Tiger Mom style parenting. Chua explains the methods, the advantages and the disadvantages of both styles. She believes that Tiger Mom parenting is superior to Western parenting. In her article, Chua proves that raising children with the firm belief that failure is unacceptable will prepare them for the future.
“Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” is an excerpt from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, a Yale Law professor. In this excerpt the author explains why Chinese children tend to be more successful in life and expresses her dislike towards Western parenting. The first idea Chua explains is a list of activities her daughters are allowed to do and not do in order to focus solely on academic progress. Second, the author demonstrates the contrast in mindset between Chinese mothers and Western mothers by explaining how Chinese mothers feel differently than Western mothers in regards to academic success and learning. Furthermore, she describes how Chinese mothers can demand things from their children. Finally, they can also say