Why Being A Jerk Is Bad For Picking Up Women
Don 't Be A Jerk - Don 't Even Pretend To Be A Jerk
There are a lot of jerks teaching other guys how to be jerks - or at least portray a jerk. I see them all over the place, but because they seem confident, tough, and like the kind of man who gets a lot of women, a lot of guys sign up for their bullshit.
I don 't believe in playing hurtful games and using tricks to pick up women. I don 't believe in acting like you are better than women to pick up women.
I do believe in the power of self-confidence, communication, and attitude. I also believe in understanding women, and using that knowledge to your advantage.
But, in my opinion, guys who promote violence or abuse (mental or otherwise) should
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I 've never been to one of his seminars. I don 't know if he 's a jerk or a decent guy. But the impression I have of him is not a good one, and a lot of people agree with me.
The point is, I don 't follow him and get a balanced view of what he is about, so if he sends out some (or a lot of) messages that sound sexist or hateful, the chances of me not liking him are
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As far as I can tell, he claims that this was supposed to be funny, but is this really something a sane person would post as funny?
A disturbing slide from @RSDJulien 's 'how to control women ' seminar that men pay $1000s for. #takedownjulienblanc pic.twitter.com/L2dMVgMfpo
— The Daily Rupert (@TheMurdochTimes) November 7, 2014
The truth is that he was promoting abuse, whether he admits it or not.
Whether he is joking or not joking, it offends women and, to be honest, it may just seep into the mind of some insane guy who thinks that this advice is something he should use. (You can 't tell me that there are not some guys who may take this advice literally!)
Bottom line: It 's not something that should be said jokingly or otherwise.
People were pissed off about this and social media quickly became a campaign of shutting this guy down. Following is a protest outside one of his seminars that actually got it shut down.
On the flip side, following is a video compilation of him giving his seminars and the news accusing him of being an abuser. As you can see, he seems to be giving some pretty decent non-violent advice.
Don 't Joke About Being A Jerk
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