When Should I Get Married? - 5 Important Questions That You Should Answer Before Tying the Knot

When Should I Get Married? - 5 Important Questions That You Should Answer Before Tying the Knot

Long married couples usually have this to say to marrying couples as if to warn them of a future that is bound to get doomed; “Marriage is not always a bed of roses. It is a responsibility starting from day one.”

This sounds scary. But no one can deny the ounce of truth that is embedded in its every word. The question, therefore, is not how to make it a bed of roses. It is rather more important to answer the “5 W” questions of who, what, when, where and why when deciding whether it is really the time to finally utter that once-in-a-lifetime “I do”.

1. Who is the one responsible for a successful marriage—wife or husband?

The thing is, marriage is for two people who made a promise to be one in sickness and in health, for poorer or for richer, until death do they part. This is not recited just for the heck of it. Nor is it being recited to sound a little bit more like madly in-love individuals.

It is actually recited to remind the couple of the life that they are getting themselves into. As soon as couples get engaged, plan for the wedding, and finally exchange vows, they are already beginning to live a life of partnership.

It means that every decision does not lie on the man or the woman alone. Choosing the wedding motif, deciding on the venue and picking which food to serve the guests are all part of a journey of a lifetime together and it should not end after the honeymoon.

What used to be trivial matters of food choices escalate to more serious marital concerns including parenting, budgeting and waning intimacy. Truth be told, the only way to face them is by being effective partners-in-crime.

In very simple words, the success o...

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...o a failed marriage—miscommunication or no communication at all, waning levels of intimacy, growing mistrust, etc.

It is very important to keep communication open, maintain friendship in marriage and to nurture intimacy with each other even after 30 years. These three things possess the magic that makes most marriages successful.

5. Why will I ever want to get married?

Let’s face it. Single blessedness is nice. But being married is awesome! To march down the aisle is only one thing. But to spend a lifetime with a person who knows you more than you know yourself (sometimes) is the real thing.

Imagine going home to a loving husband after a stressful day at work. Still not convinced? Just imagine having someone to celebrate all your birthdays with, finish that seafood pasta that your tummy could no longer take. It is going to be one less lonely girl in the world.