When Divorce is for the Better

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My family changed eight years ago because my parents’ got a divorce. Most children aren’t happy about their parents getting a divorce and it causes more issues, but for us, we were happy. Things changed for the better.
Before the divorce, my family was a wreck. My father was always working and was never there for us. My mom was left balancing school, work, and three children almost by herself. Even then she managed to get us out of bed and ready for school each morning while still keeping the house clean, my mother was always there for us and didn’t miss anything, such as concerts and sporting events. We were her first priority. But my father, on the other end, didn’t care about any of that. All that mattered to him was work and money. Those were his priorities. his were always third to him. There were many times when we would go days without seeing him. He would leave for work early and come home late at night because he had to stay at work and work on a new computer from work. He didn’t make it to many concerts, field trips, sporting events, or any of that. He was always too busy for us.
When my father would get a day off, he would spend it working on well, work. Even though he wasn’t physically at work, he was mentally at work at all times. He wouldn’t take time off to spend with us children unless it was to eat, and even then he didn’t converse with us much. Even though he was there physically he wasn’t there for us emotionally. He was only around because he couldn’t go anywhere else. He wouldn’t cook, clean, or help my mom with raising us. My mom was stressed out but still managed to make us happy. She was our only parent, really. A father that is never home--does he count as a parent? I don’t think so. Although ...

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...ave. He doesn’t know how to take care of them or even love them. His biggest priority is work and his second is telling us children how many mistakes we make and rubbing them in our faces. He’s good at that. He tells me that I’m worthless all the time along with my brothers. While my mother on the other-hand has always been there for us and showed us affection. She is a true parent.
I don’t bother to see my father much anymore because it’s a waste of time and completely pointless. I live with my mom full time now and it’s the best choice I could’ve made. She’s always stayed by our sides and gave us everything she could, even when she struggled to make it by. My step-dad is more of a father to me than my actual father, but thats okay. Things are going well and life has been well lately. Oddly, I can say that divorce is the best thing that has happened to my family.

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