Everyone wants to succeed in life. The real question is what is driving them? Is one driven to succeed because someone tells them or does their passion come from within? What happens when their path of success is not the same as the person driving them to succeed? We live in a world where success is define as money, having a big house, a good job, and a lavish lifestyle. Parents and elders in today’s society plays a major role in their children’s career choices, because they expect their children to be more successful than themselves.
It becomes very dangerous when parents' unrealistic expectations create pressure and foster performance anxiety in their children. By pressuring their children to achieve at unrealistically high levels some of these parents are left disappointed and are left with the lingering question where did I go wrong. John Shipley a character from The Stone Angel, his role was very short but very powerful. John and his Mother Hagar Shipley went through this same problem. Although Hagar believes John is the spitting image of his grandfather Jason Currie, he was really more his father, Bram Shipley. He drinks a lot, does not seem care much about changing or improving his status in life. However, the way he dresses, talks, and finds it difficult to express emotion are all traits his mother. Hagar is so blinded to the truth that she cannot see John for who he really is despite John’s attempts to show her the truth about himself. Hagar expectation of John was by far way too much, Hagar expected John to be just like her father to be as successful. Hagar looked at john for redemption, she saw him as the one that would take her back to the lifestyle she was once so fond and accustom to. Her expectation of what she ...
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...ssful he was able to accomplish the goal he set his mind to without stress and pressure. John role was very crucial because if there was no John, Hagar probably would have put more pressure on Marvin causing him not to be as successful as he is. She would have probably would have not left Bram and most importantly she would have not became a Stone Angel. Despite the fundamental logic of helping a person better there future, that person may choose a different path in life. When the strain of someone else aspiration and desire for you to be successful is rested on your shoulder, it may cause you to lose your way and hopes, thus causing you to not be able to fulfill that their unrealistic expectation, leading you to disappoint them. Because when you constantly forcing your dreams onto someone it can cause an utter amount of stress thus causing one to lose themselves.
The author Wes Moore dad was a hard worker and he had dreams & goals set for the future. The other Wes’s parents didn’t have as much drive and ambition. The other Wes’s dad walked out on him and his mother was left to work jobs just to provide for the family. Author Wes’s parents ambitions rubbed off onto him and his mother’s love for education drove her to push Wes academically. The two mothers had different expectations and ambitions for their sons. The other Wes states “‘We will do what others expect of us, Wes said. If they expect us to graduate we will graduate. If they expect us to get a job, we will get a job. If they expect us to go to jail, we will go to jail.” (Moore 126). The expectation the families had on both Wes’s shaped who they were and that influenced the decisions they made, that caused their lives to end up so
It has become evident, more so in our day and age, that children often feel burdened by the expectations that one’s parents have. Blinded by their own pretences, parents pressure their children to follow a path which they themselves think is best. As seen in “The Boat” by Alistair MacLeod, the narrator endures a tremendous amount of pressure from his parents. In comparison to my own life, my parents also put a lot of pressure on me because they want me to be successful. However, I find that the pressure exerted by my parents onto me is not helpful at all. To start, pressure often leads to stress, which then leads to long term complications such as anxiety and depression. Ever since I was young, my parents have wanted me to pursue a career in medicine. I was not very happy as it was not a field that I found
Regardless of where one is born or how wealthy their family may be, having and maintaining a growth mind-set could then lead to success, and circumstances could help motivate one into trying harder and achieving more than they originally
...someone will be successful as an adult, college degree or not. Not to mention the obstacles that may get in our way through the course of years in us getting to the point of adulthood or the balls that on must juggle in their adult life. The teaching and learning that helps individuals to succeed, perhaps needs to come from parents and role models, as we are learning values, which begins to happen before we ever enter our years of formal education.
I was raised in an encouraging household where both of my parents greatly valued education. Although they were high school graduates, neither could afford to attend college; a combination of family and financial woes ultimately halted their path. As a result, my parents frequently reminded me that getting a good education meant better opportunities for my future. To my parents, that seemed to be the overarching goal: a better life for me than the one they had. My parents wanted me to excel and supported me financially and emotionally of which the former was something their parents were not able to provide. Their desire to facilitate a change in my destiny is one of many essential events that contributed to my world view.
This brings up another point on the negative side of having the desire to wanting to become successful. One must be willing to sacrifice the things of present wants and at certain times even things that are needs. To accumulate the knowledge needed to ac...
...im discovers that he agrees with Israel. John is a person who lives his life and has no regrets about his decisions. Jim discovers that John Silver is a mysterious and complicated role model. The most important lessons he learns from John is courage and how important it is to make decisions for himself.
Young adults are often asked what they believe success is. Many say the typical answers such as how much money you earn, your job and what materialistic items you own. Success is a word used frequently in society today and is mostly correlated with money. The key to happiness might be success because if you love your career then you will be successful doing something you love. One career that is recognized as successful is the profession of a nurse practitioner because of their high educational accomplishments, the many benefits, and the high demand for the job. “Nurse practitioners (NPs) are advanced practice registered nurses who provide care to patients throughout their lifespan, from premature newborns to the elderly." (Georgetown par 1)
...ronment they live in. Unfortunately many children struggle to obtain the support and faith from their mentors, leaving them broken and unhappy struggling throughout their lives. Instead of being unsupportive and unfaithful in dreams, parent should guide and encourage them to pursue them, aiding them in their way and sharing their previous knowledge in order for them to succeed and reach their greatest desires, therefore being part of their journey to success.
Effectively, success does not just happen. It is made to happen, especially through chasing personal dreams and aspirations. It is also made to happen when we consciously pursue our purposes in life, particularly guided by our own inborn abilities. We should never be discouraged by our heritage or cultural backgrounds. We should not even be worried about lack of opportunities. Pursuing our passion will certainly lead us into exploiting our full potential, as we contribute to the improvement of the welfare of humanity. Alongside, we will get what we rightly deserve – invaluable rewards.
Moreover, this concept of free will and becoming financially self-reliant is still prevalent in modern society. The mid-twentieth (20th) to the early twenty-first (21st) century has become the age of entrepreneurship, where peoples from all nations no longer desire to work “for the man” but create their own legacy of prosperity. Likewise, it is a period in time that has redefined the way in which those from all walks of life can obtain success and wealth. Hence, the evolution of reality TV stars, YouTube sensations and rappers from being ordinary individuals to becoming fashion designers, actors and CEOs. However, our definition of success is not only defined by wealth it also includes having a life of meaning that is similar to that of Dr. Martin Luther king Jr. and Malcolm X. Certainly, I am speaking of a life that encompasses the ability to change our world for the better.
Destiny is not arranged by God anymore in Franklin and Emerson’s view, so that develop individual self’s desire of exploring their potentials becomes necessary to succeed. Withholding various definitions of success, Benjamin Franklin and Ralph Waldo Emerson coincidentally stick with the same principle: everyone can succeed if he or she works hard enough. They have controversies over what is success, but the spirit of upward mobility exits in both of the authors and the time
My parents would often tell me, “We want you to be success.” They mean “successful,” but by striving to become a structural engineer, I strive not just to become successful but become a success. In their love for family, my parents have spent time and energy into unlocking the potential they saw in me. I would like to inspire people by building structures no one believed was possible and, by doing so, unlock the potential in others.
Having ambition to be successful is key in getting what you want in life. Ambitions of getting a great job, a family, and any other thing that will make your life more enjoyable is all do to setting goals. Setting goals of getting paid a certain amount of money by the age of 40 is a goal that will make you work hard, and do well in the business place. Having a family and a nice house is also a goal that will make you do well in the business place, to be able to provide for your family. Also, having those extra things that make your life more enjoya...
Regardless of age or major, every single successful person I have met throughout my life had the urge to direct their own lives. They were willing to accept primary responsibility for their own expectations and outcomes. Thus, they held themselves accountable and truly believed that their plans will turn out the way they want them to most of the time if they did the things that are necessary to make them become a reality. Instead of just saying what...