The Lack Of Personal Identity: The Influences On My Identity

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I believe that I have three primary influences on my identity that have moulded me into the person I am today. My parents have had a significant impact, as well as my peers, and past romantic relationships. Even though I was often unaware that my everyday interactions with these people would work to construct my identity, in retrospect I’m extremely grateful that I was made to associate with each of these entities as they shaped me into the woman I am today.

One prevalent piece of information I pulled from Rosenburg’s “Nonviolent Communication” was the idea of self-forgiveness. Often when I was younger, I would reach out to my parents for needs that I wanted them to meet, whether it be love, comfort, compassion. More often than not I was …show more content…

It seems that they can easily disclose information, while I find it particularly difficult to self-disclose. For example, my friends from highschool are privy to my entire being. I’ve built a foundation of trust with them over many years, and the topics of our conversations vary in breadth and depth; but when we’re all in a safe place, we are comfortable sharing our intimate thoughts without fear of “negative impressions” as the term is coined in “Looking Out, Looking In”. We have a very close bond, and we all understand that what is being shared shapes our identities, but doesn’t completely define us as people. In contrast to my high school peers, I feel a higher risk of negative reactions if I choose to disclose personal information to my college peers. Often, when we’re in a safe space, my friends feel comfortable communicating their innermost experiences. However, I’ll remain silent, which “Looking Out, Looking In” calls an “alternative to self-disclosure”. I believe once I can further develop my relationships with all of them I’ll be able to more effectively communicate. But for now, it is something I need to work

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