The Importance Of Communication In Communication

It 's fair to say that guys and girls communicate differently. Girls are more supportive in their speech; attempting to keep spirits raised among their peers. Compliments are natural and create an atmosphere of cooperation. Their situation sensitivity also serves as a management tool, knowing when subjects or jokes have overstayed their welcome in the conversation. Men, on the other hand, are seen as being more dominant in their communication style. Insults among friends are used, not as weapons to harm, but tools to ascend. They feed on a mixture of egoistic ideals and hierarchical ladders. Never wanting to be at the bottom, they use information to become established as the alpha male; bouncing on anyone that dares to invade on their territory.

During the football playoffs, I remember hearing my mother frequently screaming during the games. Her screams always came on scoring drives, and sometimes she didn 't know who scored. Internally, I always wondered why she got excited when she didn 't know what was. Immediately, I noticed the "women don 't know anything about sports" mindset begin to creep into my mind. Women, engaging in sports talk with men, don 't have the same flexibility to engage in conversation about what 's happening. Referring to Tannen 's theory of male dominance in conversation, women are entering a battle of egos with men. A woman that knows about sports can be challenging to a male, since it represents someone who 's on their turf. It 's even worse if she is correct. Not only is she knowledgeable in a subject that 's culturally viewed as male oriented, but she knows more than the guys. The blow to the ego is swift and fierce, causing him to feel defeated and wanting to regain his position. This explains why guys tend to laugh at girls who comment during sporting events. "What do you know about sports?!" and "You don 't know anything?!" are attempts to forcing the girls into a corner of intellectual uncertainty, allowing the male to take back his position at the

They talk about her looks, potential, and things that are eye-catching. However, it 's interesting to note that conversations concerning her possible interests or mental/spiritual/emotional traits are rare. The physical traits are immediately available, and lead into "what I would do to her" conversations. Citing The Bro Code, "Men have been taught, from a very young age, to view woman as sexual fantasies." This insight became more apparent as I listened to guy conversations concerning women. Any type of sex story is judged on looks and frequency. How many in one night? Was she blonde/brunette/Asian/black? Was she good? Once again, these questions represent a mindset of physicality that men have been trained to accept. Physicality is instant, but it doesn 't stick around long. The saying goes "out of sight, out of mind", and men talking about sex is no exception. Once the deed is done, it 's another notch on the gate. However, that 's where the journey stops. Long term plans are RARELY brought up, and if so they 're probably targeted towards a girl he 's been with for a long time. (Time varies among groups, but it 's much longer than a