The Main Psychological Roots of Infidelity

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The Main Psychological Roots of Infidelity

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Men have extramarital affairs because of their dissatisfaction with

the marital relationship, emotional emptiness, need for sexual

variety, inability to resist new sexual opportunity. The loss of the

high level of passion and desire that existed in the beginning of the

relationship may result in boredom or develop into a feeling of

indifference towards the partner.

Insecurity may be personal, whereas one feels unworthy of their

spouse. They donÂ’t feel on equal level to their spouse and always fear

that they will lose their spouse and relationship. The fear becomes

great in these people and they seek ways to resolve it. Believing that

the dissolution of their marriage is inevitable, they never consider

options such as counseling. Instead they turn their attention to

minimizing their fear and pain. This is where an affair enters. The

affair serves as security for if the marriage ends. The adulterer

feels that they have a safety net to rely upon. They may also choose a

partner who they feel equal or superior to. This temporarily relieves

their feelings of inadequacy.

Moreover, mental and emotional neglect also serves as a main reason of

infidelity. Sometimes, when a couple has been together for a long

time, they begin to neglect each other. They donÂ’t talk with or

inquire about each other as often. This leaves a person feeling

frustrated and undesirable.

Neglected people are the group that affairs find them; they donÂ’t

always look for or initiate affairs. Neglected spouses can become like

wounds in desperate need of a bandage. They may use work, religion or

an affair, unknowingly, as their bandage. Or they can end up in an

affair because somebody provided them with the attention that their

spouse had neglected to give them.

However, it might be sometimes that men unable to resist sexual

temptation and having a sexual relationship with women when

opportunities are available. A clinical psychologist says that. "When

a man walking into the kitchen and seeing a chocolate cake sitting on

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