The Value of Authoritative Parenting There are many approaches to parenting and everyone has their own preferences as to what they think is best. In a fast paced rush around society, it is hard to know what the best choices are for your children. There is a struggle to balance what needs to be done with what can be done, and this has negative and positive feedback on the children. Parents play a critical role in shaping and guiding their children into functional confident adults. An effective parent will learn as they teach in order to grow into understanding with their children. Authoritative parenting has a stronger positive outcome due to the balance maintained within the structure of this parenting style. According to developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind, “Authoritative parents are firm, setting limits for their children. As the children get older, these parents try to reason and explain things to them. They also set clear goals and encourage their children's independence,” (Baumrind 2005). For example, a young boy wants to play video games all day and the parent decides this is unwise. It is a nice day outside and the parent wants him to go out and play. An authoritative approach would be to sit down with the child and explain the positives of playing outside rather than the negatives of playing video games. The parent would appeal to the child's interests in order to engage the child in effective parenting. The child would then be able to see the positive side of the decision rather than just the negative consequences. The parent would want the child to make a decision based on what would be the best for them rather than just what the child would want to do. This encourages him to make an independent decision base... ... middle of paper ... ...d Baumrind, D. (2005). Patterns of parental authority and adolescent autonomy. New directions for Child and adolescent development, 108, 61-69 Pantley, Elizabeth. The No-Cry Discipline Solution. New York: McGraw-Hill, 2007. Print. Renner, Tanya, Feldman, Robert., Psychsmart. New York: McGraw-Hill, 2013. Print. Walsh PhD, David. No: Why Kids—of All Ages— Need to Hear it and Ways Parents Can Say It. New York: Free Press, 2007. Print. Weiss PhD, Michael J., Wagner PhD, Sheldon, and Goldberg, Susan. Drawing the Line. New York: Warner Books, 2006. Print. Mayberry, Stephanie. “Why Self Confidence Is Important.” eHow, 2014. Web. 1 May 2014. Steinberg, Laurence, Elmen, Julie D., and Mounts, Nina S. “Authoritative Parenting, Psychosocial Maturity, and Academic Success among Adolescents.” Child Development, Vol. 60, No. 6 (Dec., 1989), pp. 1424-1436. Web. 1 May 2014.
Children need structure. It is a parent’s job to instill structure and rules in their child. Although we need to raise independent children, the life skills taught to children are more important than any style of parenting. Teaching children unconditional love, time management and the proper attitudes, and skills, children grow up confident and feel loved.
The authoritative style is known as the “ideal” parenting style and it seems to make more children come out with high ranks of self-reliance and self-esteem, who are socially accountable, liberated, and achievement-oriented according to Education .com. Authoritative parents set clear expectations and have high principles. They keep an eye on their children’s behavior, use discipline grounded on reasoning, and inspire their children to make choices and learn from their mistakes. They are also warm and nurturing parents, giving their children kindness, respect, and affection (Greenwood, 2014). These parents supply firm and constant guidance, united with love and affection (Coon & Mittterer...
Parenting style used during adolescence can be a significant factor in the types of outcomes that occur during adolescence. It has been found that an authoritative parenting style that incorporates both responsiveness and demandingness has the highest probability to produce positive outcomes in adolescents, as well as young children. Authoritative style parenting can also
When Ezra was eight years old, he had a psychologist report done that asked a set of questions not only to him but also to myself about my parenting style. I scored high in the top 15 percentiles in not only warmth and affection but also discipline and control. Being high in all four aspects of parenting styles puts me into the authoritative style (Bee & Boyd, 2012). In The Developing Child, the authors describe the parents with this parenting style as those that are “setting clear limits, expecting and reinforcing socially mature behavior, and at the same time responding to the child’s individual needs (Bee & Boyd, 2012, p. 326).” As I reflect on certain situations, I can tell that this style guided my parenting. For example, when Ezra was 6 he frequently cheated at games if he knew he could get away with it. My response, with accordance to my authoritative parenting style, was to beginning teaching him right and wrong, not getting upset, but to bring up the cheating and tell him to play by the rules despite him not having a “strong sense of mortality (Manis, 2008).” I decided to use that option because I wanted Ezra to learn from the experience but continue to play the game and have
This parenting style is mainly concerned with not being too overbearing; letting the child make many of their own choices. The parent wants them to grow on their own, without anything to hold them back. It focuses mainly on the freedom of the child and how much they let them handle on their own. Most of the time letting the child make choices that they are not suited to make, learning the wrong lessons. This style gives children a lot of freedom and encourages the child to make decisions for themselves and to not conform to society. The parent allows the child to make just about any and all decisions on their own, giving little guidance and expecting them to create their own rules and paths. Children raised this way most often end up rebellious, immature, and unable and/or unwilling to handle responsibility in life (Parenting Styles).. This leads to children making bad choices, as they are not fit to make them all on their own. These bad choices affect them and their sense of responsibility; most of the time ending up thinking that their poor choices in the past are what is correct. Some parents will choose to not care at all what choices their children make, showing no support
Authoritative style remains high in all four domains. Authoritative parents’ use of appropriate discipline such as using time-out or mild punishment ensures their children’s independence along with children’s compliance with parental demands. Compare to children with any other parenting styles, children raised by authoritative parents have higher self-esteem, self confidence, and better grades in elementary school, high school, and college. They are also less likely to abuse alcohol or tobacco as adolescents. In general, children of the authoritative parenting style show more altruistic
Parenting styles have been widely defined by Baumrind into three categories, authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Parenting styles can be defined as a pattern of attitudes in how parents choose to express and communicate with their children. These styles are categorized based on the level of nurturance, parental control and level of responsiveness (Dwairy, 2004). Authoritative style exhibits high levels of demand, responsiveness and nurturance; authoritarian style exhibits high levels of demand but low levels of responsiveness, permissive style exhibits low levels of demand but high in responsiveness and nurturance (Dwairy, 2004). These parenting styles have been proposed to have a significant impact on a child’s development as well as academic achievement and psychological well-being. Children reared by authoritative parents are stated to have the highest levels of academic achievement, self-esteem, emotional adjustment and well-being according to Baumrind’s category of styles (Dwairy, 2004). However, these three categories are based on Western samples and have been said to describe parenting styles mainly in the West and question its limitations in describing parenting across cultures, as each style’s defining patterns may have different meanings across cultures.
In this study, another relationship between parenting styles and child development is presented. Participants were 7,836 adolescents enrolled in six high schools in San Francisco. They were provided with a questionnaire that included student background information, self-reported grades, parental attitudes and behaviors, and family commutation information. The study included three parenting styles, which were authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Each one of the styles were described in the students’ questionnaire. The authoritarian style included the idea that as a response to a bad grade, parents tend to get upset, and when good grades are achieved, parents tell the student to do even better than what they have done. On the other hand, permissive parenting style was described as parents no caring about the students’ grade, and that hard work in school is not important for them. Then, they included authoritative parenting style as supportive parents that praise the student when good grades are achieved and more freedom to make decisions is given, but when poor grades are obtained, freedom is taken away and students are encouraged to try harder and some source of help is
Ishak, Z., Low, S. F., & Lau, P. L. (2012). Parenting Style as a Moderator for Students’ Academic Achievement. Journal of Science Education and Technology, 21(4), 487-493.
Successful parenting may be judged by many different standards. Raising a child to be a respectful, mature, and independent adult requires a great deal of effort. There are several parenting styles, and not all lead a child to reaching their full potential. Overpowering sternness leads may lead to a rebellious child, while passive parenting may lead children to inept for the challenges of adulthood. Parenting requires more than teaching children submissiveness, or building of self-importance. Children learn best from a role model who is admirable. Parenting is a great opportunity to set the course of one’s entire life in the right direction.
In the previous study, Milevsky, Schlechter, Klem, and Kehl (2008) states that adolescence with either both parents are neglectful parenting style or one of the parent is neglectful parenting style score lower on self-esteem than adolescence without neglectful parenting style parent. In daily life, parents that let their children involve in making family decision lead their children to higher self-esteem level than parents that only want their children obey without giving any reason. Parents with authoritative parenting style are more flexible, openness to discussion and also willing to compromise toward their children. In a sample of 230 college student, Buri, Louiselle, Misukanis and Mueller (1988) found that
Authoritarian parents, show very little acceptance, have very high expectations of their children and are extremely controlling. These parents are strict, and use a prohibitive and punishment method. According to a research done by Kimberly Kopko from Cornell University, it “reveals that adolescents of authoritarian parents learn that following parental rules and adherence to strict discipline is valued over independent behavior. As a result, adolescents may become rebellious or dependent” (2). The adolescents who come to be rebellious may showcase hostile behaviors, while those who are passive are likely to stay relying on their parents (2).
...actual outcome that the child will have in later years in life. Parents must be vigilant and cautious of their actions in front of children. Parents must maintain an active status in the child social and academic life, to be able to guide the child on the most correct manner as possible. No parent or teacher is perfect but as a parent of facilitator one must be open minded to negative development in any stage of life of a child.
Authoritative-parenting who are flexible and responsive to the child's needs but still enforce reasonable standards of conduct.the authoritative approach involves effective parental communication with their offspring. Developing empathy and understanding creates a positive atmosphere in which the children can thrive. With a heavy leaning on pyschology, this approach replaces spanking with talking. The weakness to this method, doctors point out, lies in the lack of authority that the child receives. They see ...
Children are the future of the world and need to be nurtured and educated in the best conditions. Thus, parenting is one of the most challenging and admirable responsibilities that people can experience. Parenting plays important roles in the development of children’s characteristics. Some people nurture children depending on their own ways. Others get advice from friends or books. Parenting can be divided into three groups: authoritative, permissive, and democratic parenting.