Active Listening Essay

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Decoding: Engaging in Active Listening (5.7) is not about “hearing” a person speak but
Actively Listening to what they are saying. The most common problem that managers have is “hearing” employees instead of listening. Managers that enjoy the power of speaking only tend to talk over the employee and barely let them communicate their problem. The most effective tool in Active Listening is the use of just your ears but also your brain. A manager should ask questions about the employee’s statement then paraphrase the problem back to the employee to clarify that the manager’s perceptions are in correlation to the employee’s and if so then you can conclude before responding or giving a solution.
I have always had a problem with listening and even …show more content…

I am finally starting to feel more confident in my listening abilities. It was not easy for me to break the habit of wandering into a different world when someone was speaking but through practicing my methods I finally achieved my overall goal. The biggest way I noticed this was through being a Peer Leader this semester. I had a lot of students coming up to me asking me questions and giving my long accounts of their concerns or problems. For once I did not just talk quickly to give them an answer like it was a timed game show. I listened to their problem, I asked them questions about their issues and then paraphrased back to them what they had said then I thoughtfully came up with a solution. The reason I believe these methods worked so well for me was because I actively using my brain when they were talking not just my ears. My mom and I still continue to practice our weekly TED Talk listening sessions because to be quite honestly although I have thoroughly improved on listening instead of just “hearing” I think this problem will come back if I do not continually go through practicing active listening every single day.
Increasing Others’ Dependency (7.2) is the function of having power over someone because of their dependency on you. (1) Dependency is increased when asset is perceived more important. (2) Dependency is increased when the resource you manage is scarce. (3) Dependency is increased when the resource you manage does not have a subset. The more someone needs you, the greater the power you have over

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