Unique Types of Family Systems

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Most people have a set view on what a normal family system may look like but as a social service provider I know that a family system is unique to each family. In today’s society we see more single-parent homes leaving the hierarchy to be shifted. A hierarchy is determined and maintained by the systems rules, boundaries and interactional patterns (Gehart &Tuttle, 2003). There are many different situations that can shift the hierarchy such as single parent homes, cultural differences, and effective parenting. If any one of these is stressed then child abuse and maltreatment may be prevalent in the home. Majority of the people would agree that the ideal family system would look like a two-parent house-hold governing the children. In this particular family the father would be seen as the head of house hold and the mother as his help mate. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior (Ephesians 5:23, ESV). To some families as in my household this is very important. Where as in other families such as single parent homes this may not be as such as there is no father present within the home. Within these families there should be boundaries, clear relationships between the members, which are clear and defined. I feel that if these boundaries are not clear this is where the confusion comes in at. I can remember before I was married and was living with my now husband we often had disagreements about who was to do what and when. This caused a lot of stress on our relationship and tended to cause some aggravation. I believed this was because we came from two totally different cultures even though we are both African American. This is when I began to understand the diffe... ... middle of paper ... ...3). I said all of this to say that it is important for a family system to be whole and not broken. Cracks within a family system can lead to a lot of issues within families. Most importantly I feel that parents don’t realize how they can affect their children psychologically, emotionally, and physically. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things (1 Corinthians 13:4-7, ESV). This passage means that with love in our hearts and lives our family can and will make it through anything thrown our way. There is nothing to big or bad that our Lord cannot handle. Put God first in any and everything in your life.
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