Interest Based Conflict Case Study

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Background

The conflict I chose to analyze a conflict with my sister that also involved my brother. Basically, every Tuesday and Thursday morning my sister has class at 8 am at Concordia, so we share a car and leave at 7 am. My brother leaves for high school at around 7:10 am. For the whole semester, my sister and I have been getting late almost every Tuesday and Thursday. Since the beginning of the semester, we have made a plan that my sister wakes up the earliest, my brother wakes up at 6 am, and I wake up at 6:30 am. However, every time, my brother fails to wake up, so my sister wakes him up at 6:20 am. This causes me to be late because I have to wait for him to get out of the shower.

Onset of Conflict

On Thursday morning (April 21st), the same …show more content…

However, I told her that if anything, she could wake him up after I get out of the shower and help him realize it 's important that he wakes up on time. This way my sister and I wouldn’t be late (our interests) and my brother would become more responsible.

Aftermath of Using Interest Based Approach

Using the interest based approach was really helpful and useful in this situation, because not only did it address the underlying issue with my brother but it helped strengthen the relationship between my sister.

I used the 4 tenets of Getting To Yes (Fisher, Patton, Ury, 1991: 13):

1) I Separated the people from the problem

* people being my sister and the problem being that my brother was waking up late, which was causing me to be late.

* I did not attack my sister, I attacked the problem.

2)I focused on interests, not positions

* Both my sister and I did not want to be late and I did not want her to feel I was at fault for her being late. I did not use my power as the older sister and use a power based approach.

3) I invented options for mutual

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