People Come and Go

In life friendships come and go. Some friendships are meant to be forever and others are meant to be temporary. Several friends are in a person’s life until they reach an obstacle. There are many reasons why people become friends and why people stop being friends. My friendship with Brittney escalated because of our proximity. However, our friendship de-escalated because of proximity. Furthermore, in this paper I discuss the escalation and de-escalation of the friendship with Brittney, I talk about how our friendship escalated because of proximity and also aided to decline our friendship, and lastly I conclude with a final reflection of my friendship.

My friendship with Brittney initiated in high school sophomore year. My friend Marysol introduced me to Brittney when she invited me to sit with her friends. At first we would say hi to each other and eat together. As time past, we began to talk about our background, culture, values, and beliefs, which would be considered exploration stage. We would have small talks to learn about each other. I would also observe how she would she react to other people to learn what I should say or not say. Furthermore, our friendship was at the intensification stage. Brittney would call me “sweetie pie” and we would joke around. Additionally, senior year I joined the tennis team with her. We were good school friends. However, when we graduated from high school, our friendship declined. We did not talk anymore at all. We both went our separate ways.

My friendship with Brittney escalated because of proximity. Proximity means “a state of physical nearness (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012, p.G-11).” In other words, people become friends because of nearness. For example, a person makes a friend in their psycho...

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...calated because of proximity.

Many times people are going to have escalating and de-escalating friendship as life goes on. As for me, proximity caused my relationship with Brittney to escalate and de-escalate. Proximity made our friendship strong and then weak. Brittney was a great friend. She was very intelligent, confident, and caring friend. She influenced me to become competitive by trying to obtain the highest A in my classes. Also, I am grateful she encouraged me to join the tennis team. In future, I will try to maintain my friendship even if do not have the same class or spend time together. I will try to keep in touch through Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat. Keeping in touch with them, will keep me connected and updated.

Works Cited

O’Hair, D. & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication an introduction. Boston, CA:

Bradford/St. Martin’s.