Life is unpredictable. It does not always bring happiness and gives us all that we want. Regardless how hard we try and how much we desire to move life according to our own direction, it does not move according to our wishes. In our life, we have to make important decisions. There are few decisions that give direction to our lives. So, in order to make these decisions it is imperative that all the rationale and logical factors should be taken into consideration. But, often, times come when we take decisions under the influence of others. In this family, relatives and friends play important role in my life. If i rewind my life, then, I can also think of various events where I made decisions under other people’s influence. We put on others that make us to follow and obey what others say to us our priority and value. One of the decisions that pinch the pain and dubiousness in my heart and mind is related to continue friendship with a friend at school. I still do not know whether I made that decision rightly or not but I often think about that. In my school, there was a boy who had no friend. He used to greet everybody but he did not have any real or close friend. This aspect of his has always made me to suspect his personality. One day I found him in the library and we started a conversation. After that, we often began to see each other in the library. Slowly and steadily, we became good friends. The feeling that was appearing in my heart that I am being a friend with someone who was alone used to make me feel delighted. When I became friend with that boy, it revealed to me that he was really lonely and painful. He badly needed someone to share all the things that he was suffering from. In the times of troubles, I was a supporter and...
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...n which situation. But, the fact can also not be ignored that there are forces that manipulate and influence the decision making power of an individual. In this regard, I would like to raise the question that in the circumstances and situation in which I was is it fair that other people exert that much pressure to take the decision of their choice? Is it all right that if a person is on wrong path so we do not talk or be friend with him? Is it not right that we should be friend with that individual and try to bring improvement in his life? Is it more important to listen to your parents and consider the wishes of your friends than the humanity? These are some of the questions that often pop up in my mind. These are the questions that have become the mystery of my life. I hope to find out the answers of these questions before the counting of my breaths come to an end.
Friendship can be debated as both a blessing and a curse; as a necessary part of life to be happy or an unnecessary use of time. Friends can be a source of joy and support, they can be a constant stress and something that brings us down, or anywhere in between. In Book 9 of Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle discusses to great lengths what friendship is and how we should go about these relationships. In the short story “Melvin in the Sixth Grade” by Dana Johnson, we see the main character Avery’s struggle to find herself and also find friendship, as well as Melvin’s rejection of the notion that one must have friends.
Everyday, humans are faced with moral or logical decisions constantly alter the universe that surrounds them. One can assume that these decisions are fabricated based on one’s knowledge or previous experiences, and not influenced by outside factors. However, independence is merely a social construct, designed to induce the feeling of supremacy over one’s actions. Similar to animals, humans live in a society where each member must fulfil a role in the community, follow a pre-established social protocol, and follow the “herd”. Any individual who deviates from the protocol, or disagrees with the general consensus, is shunned by the community and branded as an outcast. It is this common practice that influences one’s decision making process, wondering
...riendship, or the love to your friends. After reading two different essays, I think why we have to struggle with those things we don’t have to. Why don’t we just let it go and love will answer everything?
As you grow older, you’ll be faced with some challenging decisions to make in your life. Some don’t have a clear choice or right or wrong answer- like should you listen to a person and make the decision to hurt someone or should you not listen to them. That is the decision you need to make. Making a decision on your own is hard enough, but when other people get involved and try to pressure you one way or another it can be even harder. Like said earlier in the essay, we pass the hat down to someone else to make the decision for us because we cannot make the decision
It is an act to ultimately benefit one self. Conversely, it is also what is known as self-righteousness, where one claims to be charitable and or virtuous towards others, when all the while there is a hidden agenda to benefit one-self. The so-called “friendship” is only to benefit the oneself. Unfortunately, this type of self-love can lead to loneliness and loss of true friendships. As much as people may believe that true friendship is not necessary, it is our inherent human need to be in a relationship with other human beings, and/or to develop a form of friendship. To prove the theory that friendship is necessary, an article published by the Journal of Clinical & Diagnostic Research suggests that there is a correlation between loneliness and psychiatric disorders. According to this study, they stated that as human beings, we are a social species which require safe and secure social surroundings to survive. Friendship and/or social relationships are essential for mental and physical well beings (Mushtaq, R., Shoib, S., Shah, T., & Mushtaq, S. (2014). Without social interactions, loneliness ensues, and loneliness can lead to various psychiatric disorders like depression, alcohol abuse, child abuse, sleep problems, personality disorders and Alzheimer’s disease, just to name a few. Not to mention, it can also lead to physiological disorders. Most importantly, loneliness can have serious consequences for mental and physical health of people (Mushtaq, R., Shoib, S., Shah, T., & Mushtaq, S.
In the writings of Aristotle, seen in Nicomachean Ethics, it is evident that Aristotle believes that friendship is necessary for a virtuous and therefore happy life. I believe that this is accurate due to the similar conditions necessary for a complete friendship and a happy life. It is also evident that friendship is useful in achieving a happy life because friendship can make performing virtuous actions easier. His interpretation can be misunderstood and mistakes in practice can be made, so we will need to discuss these follies as well, in order to understand all the effects of friendship on achieving a happy life.
He lost his best friend, who he spends a great deal of time living alongside. It is unjustifiable to lose a friend, especially for no reason or due to an uncontrollable disease while having to watch in absolute terror not being able to help, but only wish and prey. Subsequently, simultaneous to losing a friend he is struggling to progress on in life during school and extracurricular activities, “none of the boys had ever made overtures of friendship towards him” (Selvadurai 26). Imagine not having any friends in addition to feeling a sense of isolation, only being able to rely on
Friends come and go, it’s the good ones that stay. In the book “The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-time India” The author convey many themes but friendship is one of the biggest. Throughout the book, Junior the main character talks about his life and how friendship is very important to him. He learns to make new friends and understand to let go of some.
Friendship is like a flower. It must work hard to spread its roots to obtain nutrients, build a strong stem to maintain balance, and develop a bud to fight against the elements. All of these steps are important and a flower cannot bloom until each phase is complete. Much like the phases of friendship. Understanding human imperfection while spreading roots within a relationship gives the opportunity to find the important nourishment. Fighting against the urge of human prejudice verses self-sustainment creates a balance only maintained by a strong stem. And being exposed to the struggles such as losing a friend helps the bud battle against the elements. Although there are many obstacles, and torments to overcome the beauty from a bloom of friendship
...in our whole life. All of us can find some buddies for their life, and I want to say, don't let them down, don't waste their friendship. When I was studying in middle school, I don’t know the importance of friendship. All my classmates don’t know me a lot, and I don’t, either. I never thought what they thought and never care about their feelings. And the worst thing is that I don’t want to know, all of things I cared about was studying. It lets me seem unfriendly, and now I realized and want to fix it, of course, thanks to the movie, I’ve been trying to make more friends and keep closer to them.
More often than not, a person will encounter themselves in a difficult and problematic situation. Life is not a walk in the park when it comes to making decisions. Making choices may not be feasible when under pressure and stress. Ideally, this applies to those choices that are not black and white. In relation, this is where a person's morality comes into play which reveals their
“We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over. So in a series of acts of kindness there is, at last, one which makes the heart run over.”
Nancy Sherman summarizes that we need friendships at different points in our lives to serve different purposes whether it be for guidance or stimulation (Sherman, 208). Another way of putting it is by saying that friends are ways for us to practice our virtuous activities. Friends are also valuable because they belong absolutely to happiness. Happiness without friendship will be unfulfilling and the good life won’t be as meaningful. What Aristotle holds generally about friendship is that without friends, the good life will be harder for us to obtain because we are limited in what we are able to do
In life we come across many people. Some will hate us while others will adore us. The ones who hate us can be referred to as enemies and the ones who show us adoration are referred to as friends. There are three types of friends. They are the aquaintinces we make in school, the friends we loose as one grows, and best friends who may stray, but never too far away.
When growing up in this day, with many of our fellow men and women trying to get a taste of the good life. They will try to obtain happiness in very different ways with how they treat each other. The choices I have made have given me great opportunities to create a better and more fulfilling life for me. The reason I believe that choices affect our lives so greatly is because most of us our given a fair chance in todays world. An example from my life is being able to get over family problems with my dad. I made a life choice not to have contact with him because of the man I saw when I was a child. The troubles in my family will help me be a strong and more independent person throughout my life. Having independence will help me continue to grow into a hopefully more successful adult. Making the choice in not having contact with my father was a difficult decision. It was hard to keep a relationship with my real brother because he still keeps in touch with my dad. My older brother may look down on my choice, but I believe that I made a better choice. In the future I may have regretted in not speaking to my father, but for right now I think it is better to cut all communication with him. Being able to make a hard choices in cutting communicati...