With recent advancements in technology (e-mail, phone, text, social media, and video conference), couples can manage and maintain their relationship with a simple touch of a button. Foremost, communication through technology is important to couples involved in long-distance relationships (LDRs), as the demand for relational development requires constant attention.
The term “long-distance relationship” can often carry a negative association for those seeking love. There is a perception that geographical distance will prevent a strong and happy relationship from developing; however, it does not deter all couples from staying together. LDRs are identified by several factors, including: distance, the length of a relationship, and time living apart. Reasons why couples (married or dating) find themselves in LDRs include career, college, military deployment, and/or preference.
In LDRs, relational dialectics contribute to the future or demise of an existing or developing relationship. To some, the benefit of living apart from their partner allows the individual to establish autonomy within the relationship while allowing a connection to their partner through communication. However, additional effort may be required to guarantee assurances to the partner who desires more security and closeness. Moreover, couples in LDRs have the freedom to attain privacy while also providing open communication when required by the situation. Therefore, it is pertinent to identify these trends in relational dialectics through four studies examining LDRs.
I became inquisitive about LDRs when a co-worker disclosed her husband lived in New York. I found their living arrangement interesting. She claimed it was not necessarily an obligation to live apart,...
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Communication is the key to any healthy relationship along with other factors. When text messaging is the main type of communication a relationship is bound to have many problems. Communication is supposed to be face- to- face and not electronically. Text messages are also a thing that alters trust between spouses. Many times people use text messages to be sneaky. There are many times when text messages have caused many scandals. Text messaging also lacks a needed amount of emotion. You can not always express the way you feel through a message because it can be taken that seriously. Text messaging is the downfall of many intimate relationships because it results in lack of communication, trust, honesty and emotion.
First, the impact of the transition is focused on relational uncertainty, which is defined as the doubts people have about the nature and future of their relationship. It consists of three factors and serves as sources of ambiguity: self uncertainty, partner uncertainty, and relationship uncertainty. Self uncertainty encompasses the questions individuals have about their own participation in a relationship. Partner uncertainty includes the ambiguity people experience about their partner’s participation in a relationship. Relationship uncertainty refers to the questions that arise about the state of the relationship as a whole. Second is the interference from a partner, which is defined as the actions of the partner that serves to hinder the progress towards a goal. The logic is that relational uncertainty and interference from a partner will be heightened at levels of intimacy as seen in relationships undergoing transition. This theory has been applied to several researches
This societal acceptance has made it easier for couples to live together without being married. Many of these men and women decide to live together because they consider the cohabitation a "trial marriage." They fe...
In every interpersonal relationship, whether it be with a friend, family member, or romantic partner, we constantly find tension occurring. This is not something we should run from. We are wired to naturally have a contradicting nature and have opposing desires to that of our partner. The constant contradiction that occurs in our closest relationships can be explained through the Relational Dialectics Theory. When reviewing the different theories and case studies, Case Study 6 was the obvious choice to use in my paper to exemplify issues that Relational Dialectics Theory addresses. In Case Study 6 – I Need Some Space: Friends Through Good Time and Bad, we see two friends, Ashley and Jacinta, continuously experiencing different relational behaviors between themselves. I will help explain these tensions by connecting key terms from the theory, such as openness-closedness, to issues occurring between the two friends.
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The best cement of a couple’s relationship is comprehension, and conversation. “Sex, Lies and Conversation” by Deborah Tannin points out that the lack of conversation is one of the major reasons why people divorce. Distance is created quickly if a husband or a wife does not share his or her feelings, does not tell his or her partner what is happening, and keep the feelings; however, a successful relationship constantly keeps the lines of communication open.
...ip. Couples in LDRs faces more challenges than GCRs, therefore the commitment to maintain a relationship with their significant other is stronger. Despite the results being in favor of the research questions. Some of the challenges that LDRs face are limited communication and high idealization. Couples who are truly committed in LDRs will be able to overcome all challenges and barriers that may arise. In order to accomplish a satisfying and authentic relationship filled with longevity, its vital to reduce idealization and maintain a healthy communication line. Being in a LDRs is not an easy task, therefore, more studies containing research on positive and negative attitudes of LDR would be recommended. All data on LDRs are very limited therefore, its important that all marriage counselor gain adequate knowledge and coping strategies for couple experiencing LDRs.
The information in this article is very helpful for my paper for various reasons. One of the main reasons is the fact that the information will help readers get a better understanding of how the theory itself helps different types of relationships. My situation involves misunderstanding in our relationship communication which is very similar to the couples in the articles. Having examples of how the Relational Dialectics Theory helps these couples in the article is helpful to implement into my research paper as well.
Intimate relationships give meaning to life, a sense of identity, of well-being, of security, and of being needed. These relationships allow us to love and be loved. They bring a sense of security and lessen loneliness. Without intimacy there is emotional isolation, and emotional isolation increases the risk of physical and emotional disord...
Social networking can connect strangers across the world. As the evolution of communication continues, technology progresses and social networking grows. Social networks like Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook have grown to have billions of users. In fact in today’s society, it is necessary or nearly expected to use one if not all of these technological communication networks. The increasing use of social networking has had both a negative and positive effect on communication in relationships. The purpose of this literary analysis is to answer if social networks are helpful or harmful to relationships.
Long distance relationships (also known as LDR’s) are one of the toughest types of relationships to maintain. Many variables can affect this type of relationship
One could argue that the effects of social networking sites could make an individual more inwards due to the lack of direct social contact. As the Journal of the Royal Society of Medicine suggests (in Sigman, 2009) “Social networking encourages us to ignore the social networks that form in our non-virtual communities”. However as Lewis & West (2009) found, Facebook seems to have the opposite effect and encourages an individual to be more social in some ways due to the structure of the site as it is less direct than a phone call and with no monetary costs attached to it, but always with the ability to communicate with multiple people at one time with other individuals about to respond to a message and view others responses. If a person does become inward and slightly withdrawn from society through Facebook, then most likely they may have possessed these traits already as Dwyer’s research of behaviour offline suggests that even “some people will always be more inclined to socialise than others” (2000). This maybe due to their own personality traits rather than the effects of Facebook on an individual. As Amichai-Hamburger & Vinitzky discovered in their 2010 study, introverted individuals seem to transfer their pattern of behaviour from offline to online, which is reflected in the smaller volume of ‘Facebook Friends’ in comparison with those with extroverted personalities. As was stated earlier by Ross (2009), Facebook’s structure is mainly offline to online therefore those who are introverted in reality and have trouble forming friendships offline, will have fewer friends who can be added as ‘Facebook friends’ so their lack of social circle size is not a result of Facebook, it merely highlights it.
The article “Love Via The Internet”[3]. The writer started the article by showing her own opinion clearly about the long distance relationships through the dating websites “I'm having doubts about a long-distance relationship that started through a dating site.”[3]. Then she started to give an example of a relationship via the...
...ls in long distance relationships should communicate their expectations for the amount of texts, phone calls, video chats, to maintain a gratifying connection with their partner while not overcompensating for time spent apart.
There are many problems related to the internet but I will focus on one that is very important which is relationships on social media. Social media might cause many people to feel lonely and make that the people break up or cause damages in any relationships because those people are not able to socialize or interact with people around them. Social media is harmful tool the we have to use with caution because sometimes it helps you, but sometimes it goes against you, especially Facebook and Twitter. Information sharing and relationships on social media are problems that need to be addressed for many reasons. Some of these reasons are the people who are active on social media, interact and socialize with