Why Men Drink In Vietnamese Culture

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We all know what it’s like or will know what it’s like at least once in our lives to wake up in the morning, feeling as if our heads are going to explode, and having you body aching as if you got hit by a car. People all over the world consume alcohol on a weekly basis, but have you ever noticed that men drink more than women? Daily, men have drinks at least 2 times a day, compared to women who consume it at least only once. We believe that drinking is meant for entertainment purposes at parties, restaurants, family gatherings, etc. but there is a deeper reason in why people drink, especially for men. Drinking can be more than just habits and enjoyment; it is something that men must do to prove their existence as members of society. Traditional …show more content…

Such that drinking is hosted and offered by one person that will pay for the entire group himself, invitations will go around and take turns. The objective of Nhau is to show how men can actually look out for the values of the group instead of individuality, supposedly, an important moral value of being a Vietnamese. Another way to show respect for his guest, for example, before taking sips of the drink, the host will drink after his guests and be “mindful upon their guests’ empty glasses” (Nghe, Mahalik, Lowe, p.248). The glass will keep filling up until their guess wanted to stop, and excuse himself from the table. It is unlikely for the host to get drunk before the guests do, since it is a sign of disrespect, especially with the older people. Not only that a man is proven to be a man, masculinity carries their moral values properly throughout their lives. If we were to compare how the invitations in Nhau is pretty much similar to how a man is a provider in the family. He is the responsible person in charge that take care of his family, as the breadwinner, as compared to paying off the check for the entire group. For instance, the father can feed his household a member of five, and he must be able to pay for a table of five people. A real man is not only a father figure to his family, but he also must appear like one for society to accept that he is capable of being a …show more content…

From the elders, young men “learn the importance of being strong and tough, as evidenced by their ability to tolerate strong drink” (Nghe, Mahalik, Lowe, p.248). One of the leading factor to be seen as a man is through the heterosexual presentation, where men needed the attention to court young women. “Khong say, khong ve” is a figurative speech that is often used to put across that one cannot leave the table until he is drunk. It established the competition between young men to take risks and to win at all cost. Those who are unconscious before anyone in the group is seemed to be less manly because he cannot tolerate drinking compared to everyone else. This risky behavior in dealing with Nhau is also a way to display manhood for young men. Boys who are about to becoming men look up to the expectations of how real men should behave. Masculinity characteristics include strong, bold, and invincible, should be the standing point for all young men to become adult males. Drinking tolerance is not only the drive for winning but also a rite of passage in turning young men into the real

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