The Responsibility of Raising a Child

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Is it true that both parents from a family should bare an equal responsibility in order to take care of their own children? Yes, it is important because parents can play an important role in helping their children strengthen their behaviors, skills, attitudes and motivation that promote their physical and mental health. A child should have love and care from both sides of parents because when he or she grows up, his or her parents should teach him or her many life lessons and nurture him or her by their sophisticated experiences. Parents must realize that for raising a child, they must put in an equal amount of effort so that the child can learn new things and also prevent the child from straying off the right path for his or her upcoming future. It is a typical situation where the father is the one who is assumed as not being a part of raising his child. Statistics show that 33% of mothers but only 13% of fathers look after their own children (Drew and Humbert, “Men Careers”). Unlike men, whether most of the women are housewives or employed, only women have to look after their children, however, both parents should share the responsibilities equally on their child in childhood, in teen ages and in adulthood too.

After the birth of a baby, a mother has to look after it alone. Although she has held her baby in her belly since 10 months, she has to look after it alone after its birth. A famous psychologist who has written about parenting in an article for Jstor, Francine M. Deutsch, states, “Parents who develop unequal roles often believe that children naturally have a special bond with mothers (Deutsch, 1999, Walzer, 1998). They also often believe that men cannot nurture infants the way mothers can” (“Shared Parenting”). Essential...

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...parenting is needed of raising teenagers. As the book was published in 1998 and for having some lack of information related to my topic, it is not one of the better resources for my essay.

Drew, Eileen and Humbert, Laure Anne. “Men Have Careers, Women Have Babies: Unequal
Parental Care Among Irish Entrepreneurs.” Community, Work & Family. Vol. 15, No. 1,
Feb. 2012: 49-67. Routledge: Taylor & Francis Group. Web. 4 Feb. 2014.

If anyone asked me about this article, I would tell that this article is more about gender discrimination, parenting is a small part of it. For having some statistics, this article is really helpful. It has changed how I think about my topic as my topic is a minor part of this article. Due to the fact that this site had some of the same basic information as the other sources I choose to use it in my essay but only took minor fact and details.

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