Relationship Wounding and Failure

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Because of a human’s lack of perfection, almost all have fallen short; therefore, all suffer from wounding from life at times that is irreparable. This wounding causes lasting impairment in our personal behaviors, consequently, our marital relationships will suffer ultimately from these wounds. It is the desire of most to live in a perfect world, as in the Biblical “Garden of Eden”; however, one finds that defectiveness keeps us from this perfection. In other words, this imperfect world and its imperfect people produce a wide range of relational issues. More often, because of the early developmental processes of life that were learned, leaving us with many shortcomings to deal with in connection; furthermore, causing suffering and drawbacks in our relationship with others.
Because of this perception of issues, the lies and vows believed, the development of a false self or mask develops to protect from further wounding in unions with others. Therefore, choosing to be emotionally withdrawn, hiding from real feelings, whereas, bound with anger and rebellion. On the contrary, the choice to be controlling, explosive, or defiant can also occur and become an issue as well. Altogether different sorts of combinations or reactions to the wounds life brings are possible. These choices define our false selves, which are of what one becomes because of these wounds, lies, and vows believed (Cloud & Townsend, 2012).
All of these choices are reactions to our imperfect nature, in addition, to the wounding suffered while growing up through life, being reactions, as opposed to being proactive approaches; these become fear-based choices. Fear based choices are ultimately destructive to one’s God given call to relationship with Him and others...

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...Christ, our hearts can be changed. Out of our own will we do not have the power to make lasting change. Therefore, through the resurrection power of Christ, changing our hearts and with hearts changed our walk will change.

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