As we grow older in life, we obtain new and challenging roles that are different than what we were previously used to. For as long as I can remember, I was the little girl dreaming about her perfect wedding and what her dream husband would be like. I also vividly remember playing with dolls and discussing my favorite baby names with my friends. As I draw nearer to a more mature stage in my life, I realize that my two dreams of being a wife and mother are much more difficult than what I perceived them to be as a young girl. These two roles take a great deal of time, commitment, and work in order to be successful. Both roles have a lot more substance and meaning to them, aside from a gorgeous wedding or a perfect name.
Becoming a spouse requires a vow of love, honor, and respect towards another being for social good, a communicative reality, a sacrament and covenant, or a legal contract (Welch, 2009, 252). Marriage possesses mixed meanings for every individual; but it is evident that marriage is much more than a legal issue and can present many benefits to society.
Marital Roles and Boundaries
In order to become a good wife it is important that my significant other and I discuss the appropriate behaviors and expectations that we have set in our mind about each other. Many times, how we were raised and brought up in our family of origin will be a large determining factor in these conjugal roles (Welch, 2009, 261). Talking through these roles from the onset of our relationship will prevent a mass of conflict that may be subject to happen if we let them become ambiguous. For example, in my family of origin, it is normal for the wife to do the majority of the housework. Sometimes I get th...
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...ime with my family. Not letting my work come between the times that I have reserved for my family will help to prevent a crossover between my professional and personal life (p. 409). In turn, this will help me to be genuinely engaged in the activities and windows of time that I have set to spend with my children after work. I can separate my work and personal life by turning off my phone and email notifications when I am at home so I am not tempted to be occupied somewhere else.
Although these roles might initially appear to be a perfect fairytale, becoming a wife and mother is not an easy job. By applying knowledge about subjects such as marital expectations, roles, couple types, working parent relationships, co-parenting, or parenting styles; it is easier to become more prepared and informed about how to form healthy relationships with others throughout our lives.
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