Raising a Girl and Raising a Boy Every child is different. Raising two children, a boy and a girl, it is the ultimate challenge. Parents do not get a handbook on raising children or what to expect when bringing them up. They do not get a list of the differences between a girl and boy, or what similarities they can expect between the two. Parents also can not assume after having one they have become and expert for the next child. While raising a girl and boy, there is the discipline, potty training, and nutrition. These are good areas to start in how they can be tricky. When raising a girl, discipline is more of a struggle. Almost every situation turns into more than it needs to. Girls are extremely dramatic, and a simple tantrum lasts for several minutes. A simple “No” to a girl is the end of the world. Hearing that word is apparently the …show more content…
When it comes down to it they do not want to upset their mother. Most situations result in fewer appearances due to them needing to make their mommy proud or happy. Timeout is not something they enjoy. Boys do not do well with quiet or even being still. Popping their hand is a huge heartbreak, and they do not like that so they need comfort. They remember the disappointment they cause to a parent. When a boy is disciplined they will hold onto it and do their best not to cause another disappointment in their mother or father. To potty train a boy, time is a huge factor. They have two too many choices. Will they stand when they go? Will they sit? It becomes a game, boys have a natural fascination with themselves. Every visit to the potty is more like exploration of their body. The time is lengthy and getting them to focus at the task of simply using the potty is too entertaining for them. Laughs and jokes about their features or “watch this”, usually is the main focus when using the bathroom for a little boy. Ultimately, the process takes more time. Basically when the boy is ready, he will be
All parents wish to have a child that is potty trained quickly and easily, Childbirth Educator Lora Schwacke tells her clients. However, more often than not, the process turns into a long, drawn out, and stressful experience for both parent and child. She informs her potty training parents that the one major facet of potty training that is usually missed is the consistency. A child must have consistency if they are expected to learn anything new, and that includes potty training. Unless the parent takes the time to ensure that the routine of using the potty is put in place, the child will not have as much success. Think of it like a game of baseball, it is hard for a team to score if the referee is constantly changing the rules of the game.
Timing is critical when determining if your child is ready to be potty trained. In most cases children are showing an interest in becoming potty trained between the ages of 18 months to 24 months old. During this process the parent should try to avoid using toilets that have the auto flush, which often times scare many children. In the event you find yourself having to use this particular type of toilet, consider covering the sensor so that the parent can control the flush. Having a toilet stall with adequate space, along with an appropriate size potty chair that allows the parent to kneel and console their child during this tedious process is also helpful.
According to a Huffington Post article, “time-outs generally only work in positive contexts” (Wenner). Also, in his book “A Case Against Spanking,” Irwin A. Hyman claims “that if time-out becomes routine it will lose its effectiveness” (Hyman 134). Another fault with time-out is the fact that it does not work in public. When you are at the grocery store or a public event and your kid is acting out, how do you discipline them? You cannot stick them in time-out or take their toys away, but you can give them a swat on the butt to get them to
All children are different, and in order to have a healthy relationship with your child, you should adapt your parenting methods to fit his specific needs. All children differin fundamental ways, two of the most comprehensive being their temperaments and attachment styles.
...tty, sweet, and talk in a more gentle tone. If they were talking to boys they would use words such as tough, handsome, and talk in a more masculine voice. Although the toddler will not remember this, this could affect the way they view themselves as they grow older.
“And it’s a girl!” The doctor tells the parents in the hospital room. The first thing to run through a person’s mind after hearing those words is the color pink. It 's common knowledge to people in American society that if someone is having a baby girl, it is standard to get them pink clothes and toys, and for boys it is typical to get these things in blue. From this moment on, children are already told what is expected of them when it comes to their gender. This has been tradition in society for decades, but it may have some negative effects on the children that arise from it. How children are raised in society, either with traditional or modern gender roles, will influence how they act when they are older.
My prior understanding of discipline was uneducated and inaccurate. I was certain that discipline was related to punishment and the goal was to have a particular unwanted behavior to cease. A child that required discipline would be singled out, scolded, forced to perform a chore or action, such as sit for a time out, or the child would have something taken away, such as television or toys. As a child, I grew up in a household with parents who were primarily authoritative. They tended to be fair; however they did use punishment through "grounding", which generally meant that we were not able to engage in fun for set period of time. Other times, we were instructed to perform some sort of labor of their choice, such as washing my Dad's car. I rarely misbehaved in school due to the fact that I was extremely shy, so I lacked the need for negative discipline however I can clearly recall other children being told put their heads down, sit in the back of the room or move to the hallway when the teacher would become exhausted with their continuous misbehavior. I became aware that many people including the parents of students still validate these tainted forms of discipline and may require some edification on the behalf of the teacher to discover more appropriate methods of discipline (EDC, personal communication, October 13, 2011).
Some believe that the disobedience of young children is typically a sign of a misunderstanding between the parent and child and suggest communication to clarify expectations rather than simply punishing children for their confusion (McCord 3). I agree to the extent that a misunderstanding should not be punished, but children often disobey knowingly and intentionally. While the opinion of experts is valuable in the consideration of disciplinary methods, frankly, most are too old to accurately remember how they felt about certain situations as a child. Instead, they turn to their research to explain children’s emotions, which are often misunderstood by that very child, let alone statistics and numbers that cannot possible accurately assess unquantifiable data. Because I am sixteen-years-old, closer to my childhood than experts, and have been spanked, thumped, and paddled more times than I could possibly count, my own perspective can be used to accurately represent that of children, whose opinions are often dismissed because of their youth. I can vividly remember instances in which I disobeyed knowingly and unknowingly and was punished. The innocent confusion that accompanied the stinging pain of being hit without knowing why was not only upsetting, but
Next you will want to teach your toddler about proper hygiene. After your toddler as finished pottying you should teach then to wipe from front to back. This helps prevent any bacteria from entering the private areas, which could lead to health issues such as bacterial infections. Your toddler should also learn how to use proper hand washing skills after they are done using the potty to prevent spreading harmful germs to other individuals. Proper hygiene is an important step of potty training because it can prevent several illness and disease from
Each child is unique. Each a pleasure to watch grow up. Some types will keep you broke, some mad. Others will have you rolling in the floor, while still others will have you so confused you seek a psychologist for better understanding. All types take a different path down the road of life, but all are capable of ending up in the same place with guidance and direction. My advice would be to just enjoy them, love them, and cherish each moment. It doesn’t last long.
Because the beliefs, education and cultures of people vary so much, along with the age of the child, methods of child discipline vary widely. The topic of child discipline involves a wide range of fields such as parenting, behavioural analysis, developmental psychology, social work and various religious perspectives. Advances in the understanding of parenting have provided a background of theoretical understanding and practical understanding of the effectiveness of parenting methods.
Each gender is separated by untold rules or guidelines that they must abide by. This in turn creates inner tensions that inhibit personal growth. For males this may be, or is, an extraordinarily arduous task. More often than not it is other male figures, such as the father, that administer and enforce these certain rules. The most common of these rules include the fact that boys cannot cry, and if he does, he is considered to be acting like a girl, and therefore made fun of. Those mere statements may compel boys to set aside their emotions, in other words, to put them “on the back burner.” This could affect the child's effort to grow, and also create problems with the ability to understand their emotions as well as others. Traditionally boys are prohibited to do anything that is immensely feminine, such as ballet or dance. Even though these both are advertised primarily for girls, boys are included in these activities. For instance, in the movie called Billy Elliot, there is a boy struggling between his love for dance, and his fathers expectations of him. Billy's father wants him to continue with his boxing classes (though ...
Parenthood is a huge factor in any child’s life, If you were to ask me, a parent decides who we are without either the child or the adult knowing it. The parent’s role also requires discipline, and this is where things get rough in parenting, as so I’ve been told. When the child is disciplined enough and in the right way, they are willing to pass this wisdom on to their children in the future. But when a child is discipl...
Most boys tend to want to grow up as fast they can, to become men. “These include intense competition with other boys, engaging in risky behaviors, and criminal “tough guy” behavior intended to scare the world into seeing them as men”(Frank Pittman). When boys do this, they think they’re doing something right. They can be to others what their fathers were never to them. More than that they’re trying to prove it they’re selves because they don’t want to turn into their dads, somebody who just leaves their child.
Gender roles and identity are constantly shifting throughout different societal generations. Men and woman both have notable similarities and differences in genders and they each contribute to their personalities and actions. In the past men have been viewed as a more dominant sex in society over women, both in careers, home life, and sexually, however, today women have bridged many of the gaps and society is accepting a more equal view of genders. The following examines the similarities and differences between men and woman by looking at biological characteristics, gender roles, and sexual responses.